So I'm 1 month and maybe 2 weeks into a relationship that I plan on taking seriously. We've always been friendly with each other but I decided that I want her in my life recently and made her my girlfriend

According to her actions I can tell she really loves me and her attraction is still very strong but I feel it diminishing because of one unavoidable obstacle: WE GO TO THE SAME SCHOOL=I SEE HER 5 DAYS A WEEK!

How do I keep attraction strong in such a situation?

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I have had the same situation. We lasted 1.5 years while in last school years and it went pretty amazing. We met each other just after school, sometimes in the evenings, and yet, we chated during the breaks with her.

I haven't seen a problem in that. I didn't give up with my friends - at the time when all of the friends once found a girlfriend gave less and less time with boys. That somehow went naturally for me. I learned to manage my time more efficiently. While with friends, the time became more valuable and I gave up not rewarding time like with not interesting friends. I allocated less time for my hobby, however the time I spent on my hobby became more effective.

Now the first advice I can give - stop thinking about that. The more you think about how not to ruin everything the more chances you have to do so. Be your self, your best self. Enjoy yourself, your activities, your friends, your life, your girlfriend. Simply enjoy and you will never look boring for other people, especially for your girlfriend.

Good thing I'll be done with school in 3 months and then I'll only be able to see her on weekends since she's going to Medical School next year. I called her 6 hours ago and I mentioned how much I anticipate the last day of school as seeing her everyday is not my cup of tea...

She agreed.

Just gotta go past this 3 month hurdle before we get expelled for sexual harrasment or some shit like that.

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I somehow always live in the fashion where I like to enjoy things fully and not partly.

So once if I have a relationship, I want it 100%. No separate days, weeks or so. Yes, in my first long term relationship(school) it wasn't a problem, since the school is one of the places were you can meet everyday. Now as I was studying it went quite quick for me to start living with my current one as I would see her twice a week, it would be better to have 3 different ones.

From my experience I can state that there were minds about burning out, because of so intense time and sex with her. After about a year of relationship it's still burning like in the first month. My cure for this was simply to manage my time more effectively(lesson from previous LTR). I got rid of time wasting activities and targeted on my relationship, job, passions, friends and hobbies. No more ineffective time waste. It goes very naturally for me in this way. No need to put fake obstacles once in a relationship.

Uhm, what makes you say that. She'll only be about 70km away... So what part of her medical school is gonna fuck up the relationship in your opinion?
And how was the relation between the time you spent with her and the levels of attraction or relationship mechanics? Did it increase them or did they die out?

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In the current relationship it feels awesome. As mentioned, it feels like a little an upcoming burnout, however once I live with my GF I can quickly switch between my activities and so can she.

In my first LTR, there was a period(after about 2 years) where we met each other 2-3 times weekly. It didn't work for me. My attration towards her somehow froze during those days we didn't see each other and once we met each other I was a bit cold. Once we moved it, it seemed to get better as I am quite emotional. If I want to do something - I want to do it now, because later I may have other ideas to spend my time on.

Now as I saw my current girlfriend almost everyday since we met, after a month or two we moved in together. It works like a charm, as I have mentioned before, if you want to have healthy relationships with friends, passions, hobbies, job and your women - all can be done, however you need to manage your time effectively. Seeing my mates playing video games looks like a waste of time. If I want to drive somewhere, I simply tell her to get dressed and we move on, if I want to meet my friends - do so. As I told previously I act on emotion and having those separate days really do not work for me.

To cut a long story short, what I can say, I am pretty amazed with my current feelings towards my current GF, everything is crazy good. There was one challenge though - she was off for two months, went to some other place because of some external influences. During that period I really felt my feelings freezing daily. We talked to each other almost everyday, however that's masturbation for me. Good thing, our desire was and still is burning, so we catched up really quickly.

I say, if you feel in your guts that you really care about your girl and you can really see she looks into you like into a god, don't freeze, stop or so. Make it possible to be closer to her if possible. However you may be a different person than I am.

I've been in a LTR of 3 years now.

I still game and pick up(but that's another story).

At least you're aware that seeing her too often will kill the attraction and make her become jaded and tired of seeing you.

A key question,why did you push for this LTR with this chic?

Dude,wait until the girl subcommunicate that she wants it.'Cause if this' a case where she felt coerced into this LTR,she will fucking leave you.

So I'm curious as to why you didn't just keep it at a fuck-buddy level.

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Carrer or studies is not a key factor of a full life. I actually don't believe she will study so hard that she will do nothing except study. THat's what robots are for and we are humans. Try to work 16 hours daily for a month and more or less a burnout will occur(from experience).

The biggest red flag is that she seems to look on your relationshipas not a genuine one, so as others had told you, rethink your decisions.

Hmmmm, I hear you and that thought had crossed my mind. Next year we are both leaving High School and preparing for our careers and that IS gonna take a lot of time out of us. I guess only time will tell...
That was the intention at first... But after a few weeks of sex she started seeking more. I resisted at first but then it hit me: I had not been in a LTR ever since I discovered pickup so why not try it out, see how I handle things differently this time around and see if I can make this work... I told her that we are going monogamous and that was that...
Can't wait for next year already... Wanna see how this will pan out...

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@Morena-

Dude,NEVER get sucked into an LTR because you feel the girl wanted more.

Of course she's gonna feel that way because you're fucking her.

Women don't think rationally.They use emotion to judge what they want.

Rationally,she knew a relationship with you wouldn't be the best thing,but emotionally;she wanted it.

Too late now to worry about that part.

But for future reference;never let the woman force you into an LTR because you think that's what she wanted.

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Wise words. But as I said before, I wanted this too... She ticked almost all the boxes in my checklist and the ones she couldn't tick were just a couple of things I'm working on or have already dealt with even before the LTR. Even my ex-now-turned-into-fuck-buddy (don't judge me, monogamy is hard!) agrees with this statement.

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You made a decision and now have a relationship. Now push it to the edge and play it as best as you can

Good luck on that!

this.

my problem with my girlfriend who just split up with me is that i DID see her every day. do your best to see her when you need to see her, 5 days a week will rush things and unless you can keep yourself interesting 5 days out of the week, id save some room to let her miss you and wonder what youre up to. if i had known seeing my girlfriend every day was detrimental, id still be with her.