Brah... that's why I'd rather do naw dogz than raw dogz.

Most of you guys, keep that in mind. Most of you should be fucking different girls in the same time period. And if you're not, shame on you. And if you choose not to, you're a faggot.

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Nice one Mack, I was gonna post the same thing. As long as you get tested for hpv, especially for your throat, then it's fine if caught early. In most cases, the immune system in men gets rid of it, or at least suppress it, but there have been cases where healthy individuals who don't smoke, developed a terminal illness.

Op, eat healthy organic food, detoxify and cleanse your body. Live a healthy lifestyle and you should be fine. Get regular check ups and don't worry.

When I get in LTR, I always make it so we both go for a check up for STDs. I make up stories about how a friend got an std with this "nice" girl whom he trusted, she apparently didn't know..blah blah blah, and then he made me promise to always do a check up before going in raw. If a girl actually declines, it means she's hiding something and not worth pursuing.

great advice thanks guys!

question? how should I confront her? I want to approach it in a calm manner, I want to make it pretty clear that I know she lied to me so that she does not continue to lie right off the bat....if I just ask her "do you have hpv" she will tell me no like she has already done, but I feel if I put it another way she will come clean and open up...this is important to me because the fact is she could lie, and tell me I got it from another women, I slept with others before her but used a condom and was tested more then once....I also know it was hpv because my doctor told me its next to impossible for a health women in her early 20's to get cancer down there unless they have hpv....the odds are slim! so obviously she has given it to me!

WTF??? Come on bro... You're not a registered dietitian. So stop this whole frame of telling people what to eat.

Clearly you've bought into the media's frame that organic shit is somehow superior. All it means is that a farmer had to pay a few thousands dollars to the government for a sticker that allows him to sell an inferior product at a premium price.

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Organic food is inferior to genetically modified food?? Are you retarded or what? Or do you work for Monsanto. Why don't you spend a few months research on nutrition and get back at me.

I will continue to encourage a healthy lifestyle cause I actually care about people's lives and know better then most in regards to nutrition. If you want to remain ignorant until more and more evidence smacks you in the face, you'll be saying oh shit, I should have listened to Sly...I just hope by then it's not too late to fix things.

I confronted my gf tonight, when i first asked her she said look shocked and paused for a minute, then said no and I told her if she wanted to stay with me she better start telling the truth, she kind of stumbled on her words, half lied and didn't come out and tell the truth until I told her to pack her things and get out. Then she told me she did it because she was worried I would leave her, she also said she loved me and would do anything to make me trust her! I told her that I no longer trust her and that if she lied about this perhaps she lied about other things, she then told me she would delete all her ex's from facebook to prove her loyalty (I did not ask her to do this) and she actually told me she would be honest from now on and that she wants to work to gain my trust back.

We talked for a couple hours and I decided to work thing out. I told her she need to earn my trust and its not just given...she became very loving after this! cuddly and said yes to just about everything I said.

Not sure were to go from here....I want to trust her but It will take time, how should I handle things from here on out? how do I trust again? Im not going to be a jealous freak and boss her around....any ideas on how I should handle things now?

VERY SIMPLE!

You just continue like always and see if her words backup her actions, if she does not backup her words you should break-up. Nothing is easier to say things but its a whole other story to actually follow through in actions. She might try for a few days but see if she still deleted all her exes in a month or so.

Good luck with all this and she does care about you, her reason was also pretty good, i would be scared to if i had a disease and loved someone to tell her the truth but i would defiantly not give it to someone without them knowing i have it.

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this could end well or it could end in disaster.

essentially, she got no "punishment" for giving you an STD, lying to you, and breaking your trust...

other than "hey girl i'm really really mad at you"

she says "i am super sorry" (gets cuddly)

and we have a fresh start.

i can see where you are coming from, but in my opinion (if it were me) some sort of split would be in order. whether a physical split or an emotional split. i mean that is some serious perpetration this girl that LOVES you committed.

but perhaps you are a better and more forgiving person.

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HOLLY CRAP! seems like this is a common theme in here!! I just went to the doc yesterday to fill a prescription, had something on my leg that I wanted to get checked out and the doc told me I could also have hpv!!!! I checked into it more because of this post! it made me think "is my gf lieing as well?" I would have other wise thought nothing of it! but I started asking questions and my doc pretty much told me that my gf had been lieing to me!!! wtf!

So basically the same thing happend to me, I confronted my gf of 3 1/2 years (who I live with) last night, she also lied at first, then came out and told me, and she told me that she would do anything to prove to me she was telling the truth! (even go on facebook and delete her ex's) which I did not ask her to do! WOW IM STUNNED! how can a women do this???? this is no joke! because of this post I pretty much caught my gf in a lie!

I can't trust this girl now, I love her but how can you hide something like that? She wants to make thing work but she will have to work hard to make me trust her again! she could have cheated, she could have other std's, she could fucked 100 guys before she met me for all I know!

The sad part about this is that I have never lied to her in my life! I moved her into my house, supported her all the way through school (college and university), treated her like gold! Im a good looking guy, from a good family, could have just about any women I want, and she clearly doesn't realize what she has!

I love this chick and I want to make it work but I am thinking of breaking up with her! she is moving out soon to go to school (a couple hours away) and if I cant trust her now then what is the point of staying with her?

Tostrong I feel your pain! thanks for posting this because other wise I would have had no clue my gf was lieing to me! I went in to get a prescription filled, and came out with an std and a selfish lieing gf! wow....

My advice to you Tostrong (now that we both are in the same shoes ) Is to think long and hard about how your gf has treated you in the past, think about all the situations she has put her self in (bad situations) and think back on anything she could have lied to you about. If you don't think you can trust her ever again then get out of the relationship! without trust you have nothing....

Always remember that you don't need you gf, yeah you love her but you don't need her! I love my gf to death and I would never cheat on her or betray her in any way but I know if I walk away from this relationship I could go out tomorow and find another beautiful women who would love to date me!

Remember that she lied to YOU, not the other way around! If she is not willing to accept that then kick her to the curb and go find your self someone who will respect you and appreciate you!

I have a question? what was your gf's past? how was she raised? how were her relationships? my gf comes from a broken home, cheating parents and had a poor relationship with her father until recently....Im starting to think she will never know what a good guys is, and she will never know what a good relationship is, and I don't feel like sitting around and waiting anymore!

if you're gf lied to you about something as big as this, think how easy it would be for her to lie to you about smaller things. if she has knowingly given you hpv (which, from your story, seems to be the case), then how can you trust her ever again? whenever she says something, it would be very difficult to believe whether or not she is telling the truth - she's lied to your face about something as big as this, what's stopping her from lying again and again?

my advice: next time you see her, confront her. tell her directly about your condition. no lies, straight up honesty. e.g. hey babe, i went to the doctors the other day and i have been diagnosed with hpv etc. point out that she had to take a shot 3 years ago. REMEMBER: straight up honesty, no games, no waiting around. get to the point immediately. it's the easiest way when dealing with an uncomfortable and difficult situation from past experience.
given the fact that you are in a 5 year relationship and she took the shot 3 years ago, chances are she's had at least one other sexual partner. let her explain the situation, observe her reaction.
personally, i would not be able to move on from this. her knowingly giving you hpv is morally reprehensible, such an action towards someone you supposedly care about points to a very selfish and/pr uncaring person, the lies just put the nail in the coffin.

however, that decision is ultimately up to you. if she has indeed knowingly given you hpv, and you find it in your heart to forgive her, the road towards repair will be very hard and long

good luck.

Ohh man that sucks!! I've never been through something like that so I can only imagine what your feeling! Do you know when she contracted it?? Was it during those run off trips when things where tough?

You should take some time to yourself to get your head focused and clear! This girl sound like she has caused you a lot of problems recently.

Keep us updated bro

I actually had a similar situation to Tostrong were she has some cell removed or something, I didn't think anything of it at the time (about 3 years ago) and yesterday after reading this post I went to the doctor, I had an appointment already to refill a prescription but I asked him about it and was SHOCKED! I honestly almost threw up! and I wouldn't have checked if it was not for this post!

I think my gf thinks everything is back to normal. I love her but I feel different about her now. How can someone who says they love you lie about something that big?

In the past she has done some questionable thing (taked to ex's) hung out with sketchy people, put her self in bad situations, things I would have never done! but I always trusted her and gave her the benefit of the dout, now I feel like she pulled the wool over my eyes all along! perhaps she has cheated, has other std's...who fuckin knows!

I am not sure if I can be with someone who is that selfish! who think about her self before anything eles. Honestly looking back I could say there is a good chance she has cheated either physically or emotionally.

I almost feel like dumping her, and finding a women who treat me the way I deserve to be treated! Guy like me don't come around that often!

if this is the way you feel, you should break up with her. you owe it to yourself. the case of OP is different in that apparently his GF had given no signs of bad behavior, no suspects of cheating, no issues, up until the whole STD shit. he should have given her some punishment, as others have said, but the relationship might recover, given enough good behavior on her side and a forgiving attitude from OP. your case is different.. your GF has thrown a lot of shit at you, you barely even trust her, she has been questionable in a number of ways, and now the STD comes out. this is more than a man should tolerate from their significant other.

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Well I honestly think that you can do better! She sounds crafty and immature...as if you woulnt contract it too and find out at some point!!

I'd almost be pissed off if my girl thought everything was back to normal so fast. Then that's a dodgy upbringing for you.

Sometimes I try and simplify things in my head. Youve had a similar background to me...Just imagine if you told your parents about this? What would they say? Would they be happy? Would they want you to be with this girl? I doubt it...