I've been talking to this girl for a bit and we've got this vibe going. It's pretty cool and all but recently it seems like it's been fading and she's been showing less attention to me and more to other guys. She stated clearly to me that she likes me and wants to date me but slowly and slowly it seems like she's losing intrest. What should i do because this seems to be a consistant problem for me.

My first answer is to go back to what you did in the first place to attract her... Is it possible that in the meantime you have gone too much into comfort w/o having enough attraction? You should spike up the attraction with light negs, banter, DHVs and maybe a jealousy plotline... Don't let her LJBF you...

First of all I have to ask how did you react when she said she wanna date you?

I myself had this problem few years back. I kinda went to the comfort zone too fast and I accidentally stopped gaming her. Nowadays I always "braking my feelings" in the beginning of dating someone and that way try to keep me interesting.

hey dude, she said she wanted to date you. Why don't ask her for a date lol

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I think the problem is mostly me. Lots of women including her have said Im boring or Im not very interesting. When we first met i was in alpha state and i was me and it went pretty well. Now as we text and SPAM more and more the attraction is dull because she's no longer feeling the fun and attraction as she did when she met me. Also when she said she wanted to date me i replied with the same kind of reaction she did.

It's fading because you don't gots aesthetics brah

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Can you help me understand what you mean by aesthetics?

If you gotta ask, you don't got aesthetics.

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Yah lol, im sure i don't have it. But what is?

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Having aesthetics means you don't look good or handsome to a girl or whatever you want to call it.

I agree with the person above that said something about a jealously plot line. You gotta let her see that you're the prize and that women want you!

You are perfectly right, it is you.

I am or was actually in the exact same situation. Just a couple of weeks ago I fucked up a good thing with a girl I really liked. And it sure wasn't the first time.

I think I got it just now. I over do it.

When I am dating or flirting with a girl that i find hot or cute but I am not really into I am playful, cocky, funny, entertaining, silly all you can wish for actually. Thats because I know that if I lose her, well, whatever! The next one is sitting right at the other side of the bar. I don't even think about doing something wrong because why bother?

But right at the point where I realize that I start developing feelings for a girl I become overly nice, passive, quiet, think everything over and over again instead of just going for it... Then I start blaming her for things that go wrong, or for her spending less time with me, or for her getting upset about irrelevant things... Although the problem is me not being me anymore, which is the reason for her acting diffrent.

After that one last fuck-up I really got to thinking and I think I understand now.

Just have to play it cool, consistently.

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If by aestethics you really mean just looks, then I don't think that is the issue at all.

Attraction fades because there wasn't enough attraction built.
Looks have very much to do with it.

A girl will almost always give you the "who's this" line when you text them. My friend has a pic of him in a suit and pink shades. With the meme generator, he added a caption saying "you know who it is". Because let's be honest, these bitches remember who the fuck we are. I'm not buying into that shit test frame.

I just send a pic of me posing suggestively in a speedo. and say "u mirin?"

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Looks have VERY much to do with it? this is FALSE.

Soul Fighter... Im not trying to bash you here... but you need to come down to earth. Stop using big words and showing everyone your muscles. Im not impressed... and either are the HB9s+. If a girl sends u a text "who is this".... OBV u have done 0 attraction building... and doing another 1000 curls in the gym wont help u with this either. A phone number means nothing IMO... most girls wont say no to giving out their numbers. so when they text u that the next day... u didnt make any connection at all with them.... and showing them u have a 9 pack wont make them want you.

While being physically fit and good looking is a part of the game...its only part. And i would argue its a smaller part then most think. to rebuild your attraction i agree with the other posters that u need to be PRE-SELECTED. Other girls want what other girls want. Just like YOU want this girl BC OTHER GUYS want her. simple isnt it?

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Have you tried giving them orgasms with them before they lose interest? That usually solves the problem. Furthermore, DON'T text or SPAM too often (it WILL kill attraction). The majority of your communication should be done in person, where you can physically escalate.

/A lot of the advice in this thread is not helpful.

-Wolf

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