Think my live in gf of almost 5 years knowingly gave me hpv She told me a while back (3 years ago) that she had to get her second gardasil shot, I asked her why is it not for hpv? if she is with me then why get it? and she told me she had irregular cells in her uterus that she had removed before we met but that no she did not have hpv....this seemed odd to me, especially because she was getting a gardasil shot! but I thought she wouldn't lie about something like that...well I went to my doc the other day because I had an odd rash down there and he told me it could be nothing but it could also be the body reacting to something like hpv!! he asked how many sexual partners I had and I told him just my gf....needless to say he just kind of gave me a grin lol I asked him about gardasil and without coming out and actually saying it he basically told me my gf had lied to me.

How the do I handle this? I love her but thats a big lie! hpv is for life and although it does not affect men will now pass it on to any women I come in contact with!!!! I can't beleive she lied to me and I want to confront her but I't not sure how????

This is a tricky one! 5 years is a long time but if she lied about an std then wtf eles did she lie about? I think it will be interesting to hear from others on what they think you should do? Its hard because although it is clear she did give you hpv (the evidence is there) she could continue to lie and tell you she does not...if she does then you should probably break things off.

On the other hand if you confront her about it, she comes clean, then what? You could blast her and tell her to pack her shit up and go! its going to be hard to trust someone 100% after they lie about such a massive thing! its one thing to lie and say you have never had an std and another to pass it on to someone and lie about it lol that's just selfish! and very irresponsible!

You could get mad but work through it...this could work but her trust will need to be earned back! If you let it slide 100% you will look like a total beta punk! and lets be honest what she did is serious business imo!

I want to hear what some other guys have to say!

p.s I am not suggesting what she did was ok, but my guess is she is and was very ashamed of it! and was scared that you would leave her if you found out....so she just kept it to her self thinking you would never find out!

In my opinion this is very serious! I'd be really mad if this happened me.

I'd try to calm down and I'd sit her down and ask her again what the medication is for and if she has an STD! Give her one more time to tell the truth.

To be honest even if she did tell the truth I'd still be mad and dissapointed to the point of needing some time to myself (a few weeks) to gather my thoughts.

I'd probably break up with her and see her reaction!

I'd also be scared about other things she could of lied about

A quote from wikipedia: "The American Social Health Association reported estimates that about 75-80% of sexually active Americans will be infected with HPV at some point in their lifetime." *shrug* It's not that big of a deal.

-wolf

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yea plus HPV means absolutely nothing to males.

I understand she was aware she had HVP, so she willingly lied to you about it.
This is bad. As in very bad.
Of course, it's not herpes or HIV, which makes it a relatively "minor" thing. The badness is in the lie.
I am not sure how HPV would work, but from your post I understand she had the disease 3 years ago. If so, and assuming you did not have it before, how did she get it? Or was is there before and she just treated it 3 years ago?
If you are positive she did not get sick by cheating on you, the only thing you need to deal with is the lie.
Confront her about it. Ask why she lied. Make it clear that it is a very bad thing. That she lied about health issues, which is even worse. Explain that you will need some time to trust her 100% again because of this. And that this is a good time for her to come clean with anything else she might have hidden from you.
If she has cheated, and gotten sick as a consequence, then kick her ass to the curb. And make sure it hurts.
If she lies again, kick her ass to the curb. No need to make it hurt though.

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Yeah well if 80% of american had herpies I still wouldn't want to be the 80%! Its still something you have for life and something I have for life and something I now have to tell any possible future partners....not cool!

She was sexually active before she met me so Im guessing that is were she caught it, don't think she has cheat although who knows now???? she lied right in my eyes about not having hpv and it was very believable! and now look....I find out she lied to me. So perhaps she has lied about cheating who knows????

Women are clearly much better liars then men!

there are 30 different strains of hpv

some are asymptomatic

some turn your cock and ass into a giant mutative festering pustule wartburger

not a big deal?

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Only about 20% of people ever develop noticeable symptoms and it's virtually impossible to test for in males. Most guys here probably already have it (since most of us are sexually active). Some people just lose the genetic lottery and have symptoms that their body doesn't naturally suppress. Fortunately, the majority of people who HAVE noticeable symptoms stop having symptoms after about 2 years. That's how long it takes, on average, for a healthy immune system to learn how to suppress the warts.

Yes, it sucks to be those people who have ridiculous outbreaks, but the outbreaks are treatable with prescribed topical cream and, again, their body will learn to suppress them over time. I stand by my original statement. It's not a big deal (for the vast majority of people).

EDIT: Oh, and women can now get vaccinated for a lot of the more threatening strains of HPV, which is good for everyone. What's funny is that doctors wont give women the vaccine if they are over the age of 26, because they assume that women already have HPV by then.

-Wolf

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I don't think its so much the the hpv as it is the fact that she lied to him...plus it does suck now that if they break up he know has to tell every women he sleeps with that he has hpv...yeah in men it might not cause problems but in women it can kill!! it causes cancer! so that not something he can just hide.

I would confront her about it, she could still lie to you and say she doesn't have it but I think it kind of obvious that it was her who gave it to you....she had cancerous cells, got an hpv vaccination yet she says she never had hpv???? doesn't add up at all!

I would sit her down and tell her "I need you to tell me the truth, I went to the doctor today and he told me something that I am very worried about! I think I already know the answer but I need to hear it from you, you told me you had cancer before, and that you took the gardasil shot, do you have hpv?"

At this point it is up to her to lie or tell the truth, if she is smart she will tell the truth! perhaps some of the other vet's in here have a good way of confronting her, its not a comfortable subject to talk about! and chances are her first instinct will be to go on the defense or lie, you need to put it in a way that she understands you pretty much already know, make her understand that you know she has lied without coming out and saying it....perhaps something like "I was tested more then once before you and I got together and the doctor informed me that the only reason a women would get a gardasil shot to prevent cancer is if she already had hpv"

If she has no time to think about it she will have to come clean! that or make up a ridiculous lie and if thats the case break up with her! lol

Actually, the vaccination isn't effective if you already have HPV, which is why they don't give it to people over the age of 26. If doctor's had reason to believe that she already had HPV, then they wouldn't have given her the shots. This supports her story.

-Wolf

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hpv is a leading cause of oral cancer in men

ten times more likely to get a horrible mouth cancer than even smoking or chewing tobacco

i am beside myself at the people in this forum that routinely say STDs are no big deal

wow

some people here need to actually READ a LOT and GOOD sources before giving advice

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+1 I'm actually shocked!

If I was the op I'd be talking with this girl ASAP and Id be pretty damn angry!