Hey guys. My lil story then
I have been in a realationship over a wonderful year. Then my gf started to look for a job and she got one in nightclub. So allmost every night she was working which resulted in being zombie at day time or sleeping most of the day. Also working in nightclub means that she gets 10 AFC facebook requests on fb per day and every single one are flirting and asking them out on dates.
During our year together I managed those guys perfectly, was being cool with that some guys are chasing him and made no big problems about it, but when I had to watch how he was talking with those guys every day, I started to loosing my alpha and turning into more AFC day by day. I wasn't giving enough space to her and started to be needy, because that relationship has turned out to be a nightmare when I was trying to be sweet with her and all I got in return was sleepy gf. She was suggesting that we should take time off and I agreed. She also mentioned that I can kiss other women if I want to and be as free as I want to.
First days being apart was afwul and I got so fcking lonley. On the 3rd day I called one of my ex gf's and we met up in town. We drink alot and had some fun which resulted in kissing her at the end of the night.
Next day my gf wants to make up with me and I told her that I would like that too, but I need to be totaly honest with her so I told that I kissed my ex gf. That's when everything turned into shit. She wanted some days to think about the situation and I gave her some thinking time, but meanwhile I really just wanted to see her and ask how she was doing. She was still parking at my house to go to work at nightclub so I asked if I could see her when she is coming after her car, but she rejected me 3 nights in a row and on the 3rd night she was coming back with her work mate, who supposed to be friend, but I got so fcking jellous and logged in with her fb to see whats going on and I found out hat she had told to one of her best friends that she had some butterflys in his stomach with that guy and lately have not had any for me.
That happend today and I got so fcking mad and pissed off so I decided to pack up her things, told her to come and take them while I am going to my country house and told her that I never wanted to see her again. Then just when I was walking to busstation she cought me and we went to my place, talked a bit and decided to take some time and find out who we want to be in future.

Any comments will be appreciated and I would like to hear some suggestsions, because I would like to stay togehter with my girlfriend and be the alpha as I used to be, but I am so emotsional SPAM so everything is falling apart.

I think you should let the chick go.
It's obvious that you are not solid enough to handle a GF who works in a nightclub. nothing terrible, I would not be solid enough either.
you might end up getting back with her, but the insecurity would destroy you more than it already has. if she left her job, moved to something easier on your emotions, then it might even work. but as long as she works there and sees this other guy, you're doomed for insecurity, pain, and probably heartbreak.

let her go and find a new girl who has a 9-5 job. for your own good.

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It's sad but it's true. Dating a girl with so much guys around at the beginning is fun, because you like to be the one she choosed. But to be honest, obviously, it turns into a nightmare : dude you are stalking her and you discovered that she does not have feelings for you anymore.

I know its painfull, I know it hurts and clearly you feel sad, but the fastest you decide to turn the page, the better it will be.

At least you become a rock star with so many girls asking for you, she'll definitively remain the one with all the looks on her.

Dude, I feel so sorry for you, really, but look : you're not happy anymore with her, its just pain and tears, you already know what to do.

Do not hesitate to share with us your feelings, that's why we are here.

Her job may be great, however as you told us - she's zombie on a daytime. That's fucking hillarious. If she's into you, she may change her job. I wouldn't tolerate sleeping zombie women next to me to be my girlfriend. Of course she may not work everyday, right?

The next thing. It's your fault you kissed your ex. If you haven't dealt an open relationship in the beginning, this might have been great kick for her to fuck some dude.

Ohhh those butterflies. Did you talk with her? Honestly and sincerely?

One more thing. Once you have a women near you, you can not be AFC. That's just not manly and any women will lose respect for you, especially some hot chick which gets tons of attention as she has a choice. Be strong - not artificially, but mentally. Cut yourself of from that bullshit and all those guys around here. You're not interested. This is the best attitude for the future if point #1 doesn't apply to you.

Job situation is like that for 1 more month, then it will be part time job or even less. I know that kissing the ex was my mistake and it was more a call for help for not being so lonley.

Sofar guys I really love your feedback and keep it coming