Guys I need help.

I will first briefly describe myself:

I am a good looking guy, (I get a lot of looks and girls comment on my looks), buff (I go to the gym regularly), but I have a ton of self confidence issues and I am not a very social guy. I am a smart guy with a graduate degree and I'm very quiet around those that I do not know. I have few friends and don't go out much. I've never been to a club, to a dance, and I'm still a virgin.

My situation:

I like this girl and she likes me too. I know because of the way she acts around me and she pretty much told me about her feelings for me through one of her poems that she wrote. Here's the problem: we are totally different. She is a party type of girl with a lot of guys hitting on her and she goes out almost every night. Even though I know we both like each other I am scared that she will grow bored of me very quickly. Again, I am not a guy that goes out and I do not have friends that can mingle with this girl. I am afraid that once she realizes what a loner I am she will dump me. This fear is keeping me from initiating.

Pretty pathetic situation. Any words of advice?

Dude, go for it. It sounds like you have everything going for you (looks, intelligence, physique). Not what I'd call pathetic at all. Except for your self-confidence, there's nothing holding you back.

She basically told you indirectly through a poem that she likes you. Go for it!

Next time she goes out, go out with her, and don't worry about never having been to a club. Don't let that affect your game--it doesn't really matter, and even if it does to you, no one will really know otherwise.

Going out with her will give you a huge ego boost---there's nothing better than a hot girl on your arm---and with more confidence, you'll be willing to take more risks, which will mean greater rewards, and keep the positive-feedback cycle going.

Worst-case scenario, she gets bored and dumps you. Her fucking loss. Women tend to be like that--unappreciative of how good they've got it, they try the next guy, get hurt by some douche and realize what a mistake it was.

I would say one thing though--be careful. If she is a party girl, and not a "nice girl", be on guard--do not allow yourself to be put in a situation where she uses you (either for personal favors, money, rides, emotional support, etc.) and treats you like a doormat. If she has guys hitting on her all the time, you never know what her true intentions with you are--whether that is genuinely wanting to enter a relationship with a gentleman, or merely wanting someone to fall back on should her other options fail.

Agreed with USA.

Keep her at arm's length, especially since you haven't been out much, and I'm assuming that you have yet to experience the pleasures (and the pains) of becoming emotionally invested.

If anything, just look at her as your kid sister for the time being. Keep the frame strong, and make it playful as well, and she will just fall in.

what exactly do you want someone to tell you that you don't already know?

you either like this girl or you don't like this girl, and you are already aware of your own insecurities

these are your issues, not her issues, you can bet she has her own bag of issues to deal with, and she is probably scared right now thinking about you too if she really likes you

she is showing interest in you and trying to get your attention, and you aren't doing anything, it's like you are assuming she is perfect or something and she is a holy creature that you can't defile cause if you try for something and make yourself vulnerable she may hate you for it, when she is showing you the opposite, judging by the limted info you gave in your post at this point this girl might be thinking she isn't good enough for you or something, at some point someone is going to have to make themselves vulnerable and lead this shit

it is highly unlikely that this girl is thinking, ''boy.. I sure like to party, Im going to start showing interest in this hot guy, but just to fuck with him, cause if we start to see each other, I will grow sick of him cause he is not the same as me and I am for some reason so much better then him, oh golly, sure is swell to show arbitrary interest in some guy and not have it returned just for fun''

I agree with everything that has been said so far, so I’ll not digress.

Basically if she’s wrote you a poem, without her physically stapling this poem to your forehead just so you'll notice it doesn’t get much clearer than this – this girl seems interested in you.

You need to take action and state your intent, otherwise over time that spark she seems to have for you will diminish and this decision will be made for you.
Do not put this or any woman on a pedestal, they are not better than you they are merely your equal (we are all just flesh and blood) so treat her as such, all you are currently doing is disqualifying yourself from being a potential suitor because you fear you are not good enough for her.

You cannot live life thinking ‘what if’, life is what you make of it, so seize this opportunity and whatever happens, – happens.

I'm not talking about 'love' per-say but as the saying goes "Better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all".

Thank you all for your replies. They were all motivating and helpful, I sincerely appreciate it.

So how was it man? Give us an update!