Then you have the right mindset!

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

Dark One, great post man. If you dont understand where DO is coming from you may be out of touch with yourself and being in a relationship. We arent talking about gaming... but being in a loving fun one on one relationship. I understand fully where he is coming from. Im a little older and certain patterns can be seen thru the years. Hes dead on, I actually broke up with my GF last week because of this. She wanted to go have girls night all the time at clubs with BFFs that cheat. Also went to a guys apartment until one in the morning. I really dont think she did anything, I dont care. I didnt feel jealous, disrespected yes, but not jealous. Why, because 100% of the time in the past it ends badly. Hes not saying be weak and cry in front of her about your emotions. I dont even call these insecurities but protecting your investments. If your girl wants to do the things he described... cut her free to live that life. If she wants an exclusive BF then act like a good GF. I see it not other way.

Watching what your spouse is doing is a fucking idea. An alpha male always there and always there - I do not agree with that.

Everyone has a perfect sense and gut feeling if something is going wrong or so, why not use that? It can be clearly seen from a girl that she is cheating, isn't interested in you, is dropping her feelings for you, why watch who she is with and does she do? The result is still the same. She can be with her GIRLfriends or BOYfriends or she may be cheating, there's little difference if she starts to lose feelings for a man.

I actually enjoy not knowing what my girlfriend is doing when we're not together - she tells that herself once we meet and I see no interest in searching for new friends on her facebook and other really low value stuff.

Trust is a foundation of relationship, a FOUNDATION, if there's no trust, there's nothing, not even a relationship more like a joke.

I agree, Trust is the backbone of any relationship.

FYI for those who do not know, if you are spying on your GF and such...You do not have trust!

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One thing I have learned over the years is that you give your gf 99.99% trust and tell her you give her 100%, no women can be trusted 100%....we are all capable of cheating, women more so because they make very emotional decisions. I have seen the most faithful women cheat!

Don't spy I agree that is a very bad idea! but make it clear were the line is and that if it is crossed you will walk.

Don't tell your girlfriend what to do and try to control her but tell her what you are and aren't comfortable with and LEAD her to make the right decisions, If she can't accept that you don't feel comfortable with something then walk!

A relationship is very different then gaming a girl, and it does take compromise from both parties. I use to hang out one on one with women all the time! almost daily, but it was my choice to be in a relationship so I dropped that...why? because I only hung out with women I was attracted to so I no longer put my self in situations were something could happen.

In a relationship there must be a mutual respect, part of that means listening to each other needs and then trying to make the other person happy. This is why communication is very important! you and she both need to communicate what you need in the relationship, and what you expect from one another.

None of us are mind readers. without communication how can she know were the line is? how can she know what you need from her? how can she understand you and bond with you? Women are natural nurturers, they want to make their man happy as long as he has high value to her, communication is a big part of emotional bonding! women need this from a man...If they don't get it from you they will from someone eles! Emotional connection is as important if not more to a women then sex...It does not mean cry like a baby every time you are not comfortable with something, but rather bringing up important topics and expressing how you feel in a an assertive alpha manner.

Remember women can't read your mind they need you to tell them what you expect of them and LEAD!

All of the posters here who say "Trust" are not saying "Don't communicate". Basically what I am getting at is "You can only control the things you can control". Someones GF is free to make whatever decisions she wishes to make, with or without their BF's blessing! If the guy is a man and treats her respectfully, trusts her, and she breaks that trust then it is not the guys failure, it is hers!

I think we have beaten this dead horse enough...

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haha yeah man I think you and I are on the same page here...I agree with most of what you have said.

True that...but its not as simple as it seems, some women cheat while still in love with you, for any number of reasons, an old times sake fuck for her exboyfriend, she goes out with a girlfriend and gets drunk, or does coke, and ends up fucking some dude, or any number of situations, if you ever find out (odds are you wont) shell will call it a mistake, and it probably was. She still love you lots and tells you so and feels it so. You can forgiver her, even so you have to be careful, a crucial mistake like that could be very dangerous to you later on, especially if you have kids with this person. Being a single father is not like in the movies, it requires a lot more, requirements that are beyond the scope of this post...trust me.


I do not spy on my girlfriend, I dont even have a facebook account...but if you get the gut feeling and are ready to walk away, a little confirmation goes a long way...I think it would be hard to walk away on gut feeling alone, but sometimes thats all you have. In my experience a woman will lie to keep you around even when they are looking somewhere else. They are very convincing actresses, very natural, they try to play around your gut feeling (yes, they know about it too), odds are you wont leave them unless there is proof, and if you have kids, its hard to leave on feeling alone...

Its very true! women are much better liars then men are because they are much more creative! many women can look you in the eye and lie to you, most men could never do that! its hard to believe but I have seen it a million times! this is not to say you should be paranoid all the time but you also can't be completely oblivious either! this is why if you keep the communication doors open she will be less likely to lie and sneak around, and more likely to tell you the truth....if she doesn't fear that you will loose your cool then she will be more apt to tell you everything.

Also it is important for her to understand what she is capable of, I feel it is important for all of us to understand that we can all cheat....doesn't matter who you are! we can all have a few drink and put out self in bad situations and so if you are in a relationship you must not put your self in bad situations. The women who most often cheat are the ones who are in denial about ever cheating, the women who say "I would never ever cheat!" are the ones who usually get drunk, and put them self in a room with a guy alone, all the time thinking "I wont cheat" and then what happens? they cheat lol