| What up guys, its ya boy sluggler.
so recently i have been seeing SOOO many post about the topic of "How to approach women during day game".
Ive had guys sending me PM's for advise so i decided to create a pretty lengthy post about how to approach a beautiful women you see during day game.
So my links got removed by the mods here so i have to now repost my blog content here:
So first off i want to talk about some of the differences in approaching during day game versus night game.
During the day most women are headed some where or doing something.
You wont have as much time to spend with a girl. As you would at night to run through different routines and such.
Women will more likely by alone rather than with a group of friends or with someone.
Women are approached far less during the day than at night. Women are more impressed with a guy approaching them in broad day light, versus in a club or a bar.
Now that you know the main differences between day game and night game lets talk about how to APPROACH a beautiful women you see during the day time. As a matter of fact i just met this HB9 this morning on my way to the metro. I seen her when i was getting out my car and decided i wanted her. She was WAYY older than me close to 50 but she was soo HOT. So she ended up telling me she had four kids, a few older than me and that she was married. Haha. It was pretty funny. I told her how kids scare me at this point in my life. She laughed and talked. In situations like these i try to extract after the interaction without closing. I dont like trying to steal someone else wife, or creating a cheating situation . Especially someone being married. Thats just me. Maybe you have different moral values.
Anyway, so here is HOW TO APPROACH A WOMEN during day game.
APPROACH
LOOK YOUR BEST
CARRY YOURSELF WELL
SPEAK CONFIDENTLY
SLOW YOUR SPEECH DOWN, AND PAUSE SOMETIMES
So during the day time when i approach a female, i find being direct is the BEST way to go. If you use a indirect opener, it may waste to much time, when most of the time the girl is in a rush or has to be some where by a certain time. Being direct allows you to get straight to the point, and you can quickly transition from there.
There are some exemptions for girls sitting in a library, coffee shop, or any where they are not moving. This is because this gives you more time to be indirect since you know she isn’t in a rush or anything.
If its crowded consider waiting till she gets into a spot which is good to approach. Dont follow her or anything obvious. This will look creepy.
GET HER ATTENTION
So what you do when you see a women you like, you should let her walk past you a few feet, then smoothly turn around and then lightly touch her on the elbow to get her attention or simply say “excuse me”.
You want to try to avoid approaching from the front during the day. Depending on which city you are in people who are trying to sell things approach from the front.
OPENER
So once you have her attention you want to open her by complimenting her on something unique that you noticed about her, or you can simply express how you feel about her looks(her being beautiful, georgeous, cute, etc). This will give you a warm welcome during the day, since girls arent approached often during the day(we all know the reasons why most guys dont approach during the day).
EXAMPLE(What i use often): “Excuse me..I seen you when you walk passed me and…(Pause) i would have been kicking myself all day if i didnt tell you how beautiful i think you are..(Pause)..”
EXAMPLE 2: “The way you carry yourself really shows a lot of confidence about you.”
EXAMPLE 3: “Its something about the way your hair is done that caught my attention. Its striking.”
From here she will probably smile say thank you.Or you could pick out something unique about her like maybe her hair style, or fashion sense and use that instead. I usually go with what i feel. if i feel she is beautiful i tell her, if i feel i like her fashion i use that instead. During day game learn to express how you feel when opening. It makes it much easier than trying to be canned.
Continue on with introducing yourself..You could add to your opener “And i just had to introduce myself..Im ____”
She will then tell you her name and then from here this is where most guys crash and burn. They dont know how to transition without asking ten million questions. Yes women like questions because it gives them a chance to talk about themselves, but when you first meet a stranger, her investment level isnt going to be that high for a guy who just stopped her, so you have to build comfort and connect in some way and heres how.
Also try to notice something more specific about her that makes her attractive to you. This raises your value since guys are known for not paying attention to how much detail a women puts into her look.
Transitioning
This is the toughest part most guys see in approaching women during the day. What do i say next? I might run out of things to say?
Introducing yourself and telling her your name is a huge step since it lets her know “we are about to have a conversation” and shaking her hand is a form of social touch..
Now from here you have to follow up with something. Here is some examples.
EXAMPLE: “No really you look amazing. There are a lot of unique girls in this city but you really stand out to me and have a unique style. Im guessing you do something creative for a living or in your spare time.”
EXAMPLE 2: i really meant what i said about how you carry yourself. You have great body language. I’m guessing you dance, or had some type of dance training before.”
See here you are learning something about her while starting a conversation based upon your opener. You arent asking some of the interview questions most guys ask. what do you do? where do you work?How often you come here?…Right after another..One of these are okay but you must have something to follow up with and not just go through a list of questions. If you go this route just Ask and connect.
EXAMPLE3: “you really have a unique look, different from most of the women i’ve met around the city. You must not be from around here.”
Get the point? It takes some practice but after a while you will realize how easy it is to bait a female into telling you more about herself.
Usually in day game attraction comes 5 to 10 minutes within an interaction. You shouldnt be counting down, but just know how it usually works. If a women is in a rush you may be able to number close her within a few minutes because she knows it is her fault she cant stay and talk even though she wante to. So she would rather talk later. Depending on your body language, voice tone, etc during the approach.
CLOSE
When you are ready close her out you can just let her know.
EXAMPLE: “Listen, it was great talking to each other but i have some where to be in a few minutes and im sure you do too. So what is the best way to stay in touch? I really enjoy going to starbucks some evenings after work. You should come with me sometime.
You raise your value by letting her know you are needed some place else. You then set up a date after you ask for her number(You dont always have to do this). You can use what i said or substitute your own. Maybe state a bar you like to go to, or a certain venue, and then suggesting going sometimes.Or remember something she says she likes to do during your conversation and suggest that. This way you time bridge.
If she agrees then say something like:
Example: “Here, put your number in my phone and i will text/call you so we can arrange a good time for both of us. Ill put my number in yours”
its important to continue the conversation while she is putting her number in your phone. Maybe make a joke about the a funny name you want to name her as in your phone.
There ya go! Now simply extract by telling her it was nice meeting her and you will be in touch!
Now i want to say something. This is NOT something you should ALWAYS follow percisely. This is a demonstration on how you would approach a women during the day time. You should know what to do,true, but still be yourself and authentic. After you make so many approaches it will become natural to you, and you wont even have to think about it. Thats how it has become for me, and a lot of guys in the community. It will for you too.
Sluggler
Last edited by Sluggler on Sat Jul 28, 2012 2:46 pm, edited 3 times in total.
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