Ok sorry if this is long but I need help and I don't want to leave anything out

Met a girl at the gym 2 years ago. We played it all rt I think. Problem
Was I was married. kept it cool and her on the hook while
I tried to figure out what I was gonna do in my situation. A year later made a move she accepted and started a "thing" she had a boyfriend at the time. Things got intense we really are a perfect match in regards to everything. We txt all day talk
All day have all the same interests same hobbies. I was ready to leave and my wife got preg (took firtility drugs behind my back). Instant trap. We talked me n gym
Chick. Worked things out she was still in. I said I was gonna leave then she says she's happy in her relationship. We stop talking for 3 months and she ended up getting married. The guy she was with only brought up marriage cuz his work
Visa expired. We recently started talking and hanging out again she always brings up how perfect we are together and how we are perfect for eachother. And how she has all the same problems with him as I do with my wife. However since we started talking again (2 weeks ) she haven't messed around. She said the other day don't always be such a nice guy it won't get ya far. Today she kissed me
On the lips closed mouth I go in for more and she says please go and don't make
This any harder then it alread is. What n where am
I supposed to go. I really want to be with this girl. I know the situation is messed up and there's prob allot more I could write but I guess in the end it just comes down to I feel like I might not Be thinking clearly or seeing things rationally cuz I love her and im in the situation i need a new set of eyes Just don't know how to close and get this chick. If she was happy she wouldNt talk
Txt and go out with me. Any help or ideas would be worth a try. Thanks
Guys!

Well that's one messed up situation. I'm not really comfortable with handling marriage as a cock-block because I'm young and I haven't got any experience regarding this. So please for your own good make sure that someone either agrees or disagrees with my suggestion before you do anything...

What I know is that women want a leader. If I were you I'd take the lead. Next time you two kiss and she brings up something like this "Don't make this any more difficult" I'd just tell her: "I'm not making this difficult. I'm trying to make it easy." And then suggest that you two leave. It's obvious that none of you is happy right now. Otherwise you two wouldn't be kissing, or even if you were, you wouldn't have these problems. So there are two solutions. Leave this situation, and let everyone move on with their own lives, or leave the other situation, and move on together. The in-between road will lead to no good. It's ultimately for the both of you to decide this. But if you want her to make a decision in your favour you should take the lead.

This is my opinion... I might be bashed and stuff and honestly I won't argue much(unless I smell real BS) because as I've said, I'm only experienced around the 18-22 age. And none of those girls have even considered marriage...

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Thanks. I totally agree. If she was happy she wouldn't be blowing up my phone with txt and calling. She wouldn't be making plans wIth me and vise versa. I agree with taking the lead. Thanks for the honesty also. Not really sure where I went wrong. A buddy said its cuz she saw me as not available. Idk. I agree but now the playing field is even. So I'll see where it goes.

Those who live by the sword die by the sword, and relationships that are born when two people are unfaithful to their existing significant others are generally doomed to the same fate.

Food for thought.

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Like I said ethicly speaking totally wrong. And I know. It's stupid to think that the moment I saw her it was an instant chemistry. And felt like
Lighting running through my veins. We talked and I knew I had made a mistake n that this is what love is about.

I thought about if I would be ago to trust her and vise versa. Its even crazier to think we haven't had sex. I just couldn't knowing she wouldn't be coming home to me but we did mess around otherwise. It has always been different. Usually I look at girls methodically and go for the close. I knew it was different with her. And it want about getting it in. I just wanted to get in her heart. I know she has the same feelings. We talked tonight and she said how she wants to meet my mom and for me
To meet her dad. That's crazy to me. We r not together and u want to meet parents. Her and my mom would love each other. I told her that. She asked when she could meet her I said when we where together. (seemed reasonable). Idk I know it's wrong and honestly it totally breaks my heart all around. My wife is a good person we just seem
To bring out the worst in each other. And for what ever reason she did a 180 from how we used to be. Her husband is a spitting image of my wife. We actually have the same complaints about our spouses. She brigs out the best in me and just seems to always know the rt thug to say or do to make a situation better. And I do the same for her. I hate to think timing is why we didn't work. Idk. Sorry for all the mush. Lol

it's not stupid. for some reason, sometimes it happens.
but you should always keep your best judgement. for though hard it is.

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If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second.

here's what happened to me- found someone while married- skipped out on wife (because I seriously wasn't happy with the situation and wanted to end it) hooked up with a girl - situation went south for a lot of reasons....leaving my x wife was one of them... I knew nothing of PUA, had no game, and fell to being needy, and clingly- so I destroyed anything good that I might have had with the new girl, and the one after her too. AFC shit.

the best thing you can do is first thing - GET DIVORCED. leave your wife if you have the stomach for it, or stay and suffer - your metal status on how much you value yourself- just one thing, before you do it- remember your happiness is always and will always be your JOB. (seriously- NO woman ever will make you happy, that is state of mind stuff right there- you decide it- or not.)

Second thing WAIT 6 months to a year before doing anything with your gym HB. Be single for a while, enjoy life. -you need to equalize, because if you missed it- some women really want men they can't have DUE TO BEING MARRIED- once your divorced your friend might lose interest in you- because your status changed. Also if your HB decides that you left your x for her, she'll have a fear forever that you'd leave her for someone else...poisons the relationship every time... I've been there- and it sucked. Do better -learn from someone else's mistakes.

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ok, so you got a girl interested in cheating on her husband, and that is where you stand, she certainly wants to, and you are listening to her little ploys to absolve herself of responsibility, instead of taking responsibility for it yourself, if you want to sleep with her, you probably can fairly easily as long as you take responsibility for it away from her (which you are currently not doing)

if you want her to leave her husband for you... good luck with that one, she either already wants to leave him, or she doesn't, not much you can do there it's way different then just trying to straw-man a boyfriend or what ever, there is so much more involved in a marriage

sleep with the girl first, then come back to this, no woman in her right mind will leave a marriage that she is complacent in for some random guy she isn't as invested in, it's just financially retarded, and girls are all about security once they get past 26, the clock is ticking and they are not going to be hot shit forever

if she is outing out in a hypergamous manner, then you better be all that and more or this is not likely going to work out for you how you want it, and if it does then you should review 870's post, it can give you a good indication of where this will end up

+1

This will end badly for you....

Mfitzy111. Best advise yet. You are wise well beyond your years. That's for breaking hit down and actually explaining. Ur like a yoda!!!!!

Pumpington. It's not about the sex to me. I don't. CAre about that. If it was about the sex and validation I'd have left it alone after a week. When we first kissed not to sound cheesy i was done. I kissed her hoping i would be turned off or find something wrong with it. Like bad breath or just mush. I know kinda juvienile. But that was my thought. After that kiss if I was single I would have married her. We had already known each other a yr at this point. Fast foward a yr and 4play later I just feel like
I can't have sex with her knowing she's going home to someone else. If she wasn't it would be different. I can't share that part of me
With someone who's not gonna be there tomorrow. End of the day I want to spend and share my life with her. I feel like she feels the same way. She wouldnt talk txt and carry on if she didn't feel the same way.