Ok my problem is maintaining a relationship. My relationships last anywhere from a few days to a few months with the average relationship lasting two or three weeks.

What I find most disturbing about my situation is that women will tell me they love me, they are more comfortable with me than anyone else.. blah blah blah. Then the next day they will leave me and run off with another guy.

I don't know many guys who can pull women like I do. I have the reputation of being a revolving door of women.

the pattern is.. I build myself up, start getting women. It snow balls more and more until I find a woman I'd like to date. This could be my first lay or it could be my 10th, as long as I dig her.

Generally I can get the woman to enter a relationship, 10% get skiddish and run off but I assume that's normal. Many of these women that date me are ecstatic, they say I'm good in the sack, say they love me, buy me things, get possessive. All I really do is return the love lol. Say I love you too, thank you ect. Generally they will text me daily and do a lot of the legwork.

Women seem to want reassurance from me that I am loyal because of my reputation as a womanizer. They get texts from people warning them about me; mostly saying things that aren't true. I've learned to let things slide and not bother me but eventually find myself in the situation I am assuring my loyalty.

Is there ways to demonstrate loyalty and instil loyalty without supplicating? nlp?

I have to go but I'll be back with some more questions.

option A) you only enter relationships with girls whose only interest is validating themselves by getting you, the womanizer, to be loyal. and once they get proof of that, they dump you for someone who they really see as a stable partner

option B) you overdo the I-am-loyal-and-caring part, and the girls end up seeing you as different from what you projected. it's OK to open up more in a relationship, to show feelings and even some vulnerabilities, and of course you cannot be a player/womanizer. but do it gradually. and with sincerity. the girl knows you are a player when she commits to you. she either found it attractive, or decided she could live with the fear of cheating/abandonment. you don't have to deny yourself to be accepted.

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

Well said

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granite ft lauderdale

Option A I'll admit happens but usually I screen them for option B.

It still blows up in my face. Maybe I go beta on them or get pussy whipped. idk

This is the last fronteer for me. I can get them, now how do I keep them coming back for more.

The silly thing is my F-buddies last YEARS my gf's last weeks sometimes days. Many ex's won't talk to me ever again. Block me in fb ect. It sucks balls lol.

I'm going to read Marc Cunningham "build a better girlfriend". I'm also going to learn some nlp for better communication, connection building. I'm going to concentrate also on rewarding good/punishing bad behavior.

Hopefully Tyler Durdens new book on relationships comes out soon. This is an area I need major work on. I find myself playing childish jealousy games that worked in high school but make me look foolish in adult hood. I want to replace my outdated skills with fresh effective ones.

This.

Saying I love you too early ends everything. Always. I can't think of a single exception.

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Hi, I'm A. Fahren and I'm an author. I love to travel, socialize, and am hopelessly addicted to movies. That's about it.

I'd be quite similar and I struggle to understand why! I can get them attracted but keeping them is another matter!

I've noticed that with practice things are improving! Each relationship is lasting longer and I feel like I'm doing the right things!

I'm screening better nowadays which is a big aspect. A part of my personality makes me fall for the ones that are not quite interested in me in the first place. It's obviously more difficult to keep these ones interested unless you have flawless game.

Also if a girl comes on strong to me I seem to lose interest. The attention smothers me. It's a complete role reversal!

I'm now focused on trying to find that perfect balance between the two!

well said

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No problem holmes!

Part of my problem is that I land myself AMAZING women. My emotions get the best of me. It's a woman's nature to be quite testy.

It's very jarring to have a beautiful woman madly in love with me one day and absolutely despise me the next.