My Stylelife 30 Day Challenge

Hola everyone, I recently started Style's 30 Day Challenge and I thought it'd be fun to share with you guys (and girls?).

I'm 24, I've known about the game for a couple of years, read the book and some other material too, but I've never really "practiced" gaming. I don't consider myself a natural but I've had my fair share of women so far.

My motivation for starting this is pretty much 1: for the heck of it and 2: I feel most of my luck with women has been somewhat 40% skill, 60% luck/looks/whatever ie. easy pick-ups, and I want to take it to a level we're I can confidently take action to attract girls I'm attracted to in any situation or setting.

Enough about that. I plan to do the missions daily, this will likely fail, so just expect me to try and update it as frequently as possible.

Also, most of the posts will likely be live rants, so let me know if the spelling/grammar get's too unbearable so I might do a bit more proof reading, though I likely won't.

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Day 1 - Self-evaluation and field assignment

So I started this project on the night of the 25th of July or so, and spent hours getting the damn book downloaded to my Iphone for easy mission check up in the morning. Anyway mission 1 was a bunch of self-evaluation stuff that I won't share here plus you'd likely skip to the field assigment anyway.

Field Assignment - Smalltalk to 5 strangers

Waking up the next day I read the text on limiting beliefs and head off for work thinking this should be a breeze. I was wrong. I'm surprised by my own limitations in approaching strangers, and pretty much just circle the fountain outside of work while on a break for 15 min talking to no one. Not reallty a 100% committed yet I decide I'll put in a better effort tomorrow. Fail.

Next Day
Waking up I remind myself that I won't get to progress or read on before I complete the mission, so with greater determination I head of for work and get the following small-talks on:

Before work.

1. Guy on bus - I jokingly comment on how ridiculously the hour is to go anwyay (I work morning shifts, time was 5.30am). that was easy

After work.

2. Old lady on subway - I comment on how we've finally gotten nicer weather around here, boy do old people love to talk.

3. receptionist showing me around - I'm looking at hotels (don't ask) and while she's showing me around I ask about all sorts of things, buidling design, are the restaurants nice etc. I considered if this was to easy as she's service-staff but I decided small-talk is small-talk

4. Girl on bus1 (HB7) - I commented on the heap of bags she was hauling with her, she smiles, agrees and actually seems keen on talking more, only to shy. I'm to focused on getting my next small talk and chalk it as a win. idiot.

5. Girl on bus2 (HB7) - My proudest one. I actually spot her sitting next to someone else, so when he got off I walked up at took his seat, ninja-style. I smile, she smiles and I ask her opinion about the smartphone she's using for music, telling her I'm shopping around since I'm sick of my Iphone. Great response, nice, casual small talk. Should probably have asked her out.

Mission completed! Only took me several hours of getting on and off busses looking for "approachable" targets, hopefully that'll improve.

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Day 2 - More self-help crap and field assignment

Sorry I'm so bad at these personal-development/goalsetting exercises. this one was about my goals, why I want to achieve them etc. etc. I give them thought and I do write down my answers but here we'll just skip to the field assignment.

Field Assignment - Small talk to 5 more strangers, this time noting their eye color

I completed this yesterday (monday 16th of July), as I was on vacation from the 4th-11th of July (sports resort, didn't bother fuzzing about gaming)


On the days between the 11th and the 16th I tried cramming in some small-talk, only I was surprised at how little how noticed peoples eye-colour even when focusing on maintaining eye-contact! Anyway, the 16th, here's the deal.

Before work (another morning shift).

1. Girl in coffee shop ( HB8 ) - I ask her about what their best coffee is (they only have one kind) and joke about how it must be the best place to work in the morning with coffee and cookies everywhere. Good response, good start. Dark brown eyes.

After work. I'm tired as hell and not really up for it but I really wanna get on to the next mission tomorrow.

2. Girl on bus (HB 7) - Horribly akward comment asking about her hair (dreadlocks), delivery was awful, but still small-talk. dark blue eyes.

3. Girl in store (HB 6) - Easy small talk about the wonders of bug zappers. might have been an easy one as I was buying it but whatever, I'm playing for keeps today. Yellowish eyes.

4. Girl in store (HB 7 or 8 ) - best so far, so you'll get the full story: I walk around looking at clothes and asks her about a pair of jeans:

Me: What do you think of these?
Her: Their cool! I really like the way they fit, wanna try em?
Me: Sure

I try the jeans, their to small and look ridiculous

Me: Their ok, this pocket does really do it for me though
Her: oh ok, you wanna try some others?
me: nah, I probably shouldn't be shopping for jeans anyway
Her: haha ehm ok..

I look at some more stuff

Me: Busy these days?
Her: no not really (From here we chat for probably 5-10 min, she's asks me what I do, where I from, things a good)

I look at some socks, discout on every 5th pair

Me: I've found 3 pairs, help me pick out to more
Her: Ehm ok, what are you looking for?
Me: just something hideous to wear at the office
Her: haha ok, what about these bordeaux?
Me: sure why not
Her: and ehh.. I don't know..
Me: Which pair would you want to wear the least on a date?
Her: haha ok these
Me: great! they're awful!

I buy the socks and after leaving the store I think to myself I should have taken her number, so about 5 min later I walk back to take her number but of course now the store is crowded, keeping her busy, so I stick around for 5 min for things to clear.

Her: looking for more stuff?
Me: Nah, but it's typical that the store get's all crowded when I'm thinking of asking you out
Her: What?!

I just started repeating myself before shutting myself up thinking she'd definently heard me, gotta keep 110% game face next time.

Her: you want to ask me out?
Me: yeah , I've never met anyone from (her school)
Her: ok , well I've never really gone out with anyone I don't know

what???

Me: How about making it a first
Her: Sure , I'll give you my number

She prints an empty bill and gives me her name and number, wohoo! (hazel eyes by the way)

5. Guy on bus - tried the same question (opinion opener I guess!) about his phone, average to akward response. still counts. Dark brown eyes.

Mission accomplished!

Extra:

I texted the girl around 7pm (she got off at 6), along the lines of:

"Hey name (:, nice to meet you. How about a drink after work tomorrow? (:"

No reply, SPOILER: she replied the next day, more on that in the next post.[/i]

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Day 3 - Caveman hygiene, cold-calling and voice projection

So the book dropped a hint yesterday to read today's mission as soon as I woke up. Having some familiarity with the game, that sounded like a no-shower-day to me and I thought to myself there's no way I'd do that. Lo and behold:

Mission 1: go about your day without taking a shower
Mission 2: call a random number and get a movie recommendation.
Mission 3: some voice-projection stuff, speaking into a mic from a distance etc.

At first I thought I'd skip all of it, but after rolling around in bed thinking for 20 min I thought what the hell, got dressed and prepared breakfast as always, except I skipped the shower. Going to work the strangest thing happened, I'll admit I'm usually rather self-conscious despite telling myself I'm not, however I've rarely felt as self assured as I did this morning! Somehow the I-look-like-shit thoughts turned to not-so-bad to still-killer!! By the time I reached the coffee shop next to work I felt better than great and I felt girls were eying me MORE than usual! (sorry, I do get my share of looks, but this was ridiculous).

Lesson learned: I may think I don't need these exercises as I go about thinking i'm-confident-enough or I-know-that-already, wrong. todays eureka experience with definitely proved to me that no matter how lame or obvious the lesson of the mission seems, actually doing it and feeling it opens up and confirms/dispels both conscious and subconscious beliefs, today has really been a gamechanger so far.

When in bed I told myself I'd to the caveman-hygiene but not the silly phone call. Now I just might put my faith in Neil strauss's wisdom and do the cold-call when I get home.

Voice projection exercise? I don't know, I may skip as I have no problems speaking in public, but then again, I might try and find some solitude and do it anyway. I probably should. I'll update the post tonight, or tomorrow.

Extra: Store girl texted me while at work: here's the exchange:

Her: Hi (:, nice meeting you too. Sorry for not answering. If possible tomorrow after work would be better for me (:.
I waited 2 hours before replying
Me: Tomorrow's fine, 19.30? (:
Her: That's fine, where? (:
Me: Do you know (name of cafe)? (:
Her: Nope (:
Me: You should (:, it's in here and here right next to there and there. We can meet up at the station if you tend to get lost :b
Her: Let's do that (:

I guess I've "Won" the challenge if she shows up as the only criteria is to get a date. However I won't consider the challenge won until I've complete the whole thing though, OR, I feel I've reached the goal outlined in the beginning post.

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Day 3 Continued - cold calling and voice projection

F me cold calling was harder than I thought. I was pretty stressed as I wasn't off from work until 5pm and I still needed to hit the gym, the groceries and the kitchen. Anyway it's a 10 min walk from my flat to the gym so I crammed in a couple of calls while walking. Maybe not optimal but it actually helped me relax at first too.

Doing the calls wasn't bad at all actually, at least not once I started dialing the numbers and just moving onto the next one when I struck out. I called maybe 7-8 numbers, 4 were in service and only two picked up, both female. Both my calls went something like this:

Me: Hey it's Name, I just called to hear if you could recommend me a movie for tonight?
Her: hehe I think you have the wrong number
Me: Ha! Oh sorry about that, do you know a good movie then?
Her: no sorry (seriously??) / hangs up

zero luck. After the gym I walk around the field outside and put in another 15 calls or so, about 5 picks up, all of them female (what are the odds). The script was very much the same as before, but after 2 failed attempts I start putting more thought into my talking speed, the depth of my voice and trying to sound more calm and relaxed. The last 3 calls gets better and better, the respondents are laughing more, each conversation feeling less awkward, and the last one is almost a normal conversation, but still not a SINGLE damn recommendation!! F***!

Anyway, I'm exhausted as hell and after cooking dinner and eating it's getting near the hour where even miss-dials seems rude. I'll pick up the ball again tomorrow after work, maybe but in some calls in between hours at work. I'm really considering reading the mission for day 4 tomorrow morning as I feel the cold-calling is as much a numbers game as anything. We'll so how adventurous I feel tomorrow.

Extra: This cute girl (HB7) was jogging in th opposite direction to me as I walked home from the gym, exchanging smiles. I swear ONE day doing this 30 day challenge I'll turn around, pick up the pace and run next to a jogging-girl smiling at me and try my luck (read mad superhero skills)

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This is great! Keep it up! I never finished the challenge but I make some challenges for myself everyday I go out and keep them

BTW, the odds of getting 5 consecutive women on the phone, assuming that half of the population are women and it's completely random, is 100*0.5^5%, which is 3.125% (; But about that I think, as B. Franklin noted, "Diligence is the mother of good luck."

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I'm not English so I might make minor mistakes and make some sentences sound a little weird.

Thanks, I appreciate it! We'll see how far I get.

How about that.. statistics are easy

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Dull date & zero challenge progress

So I was in for another morning shift today, so after killing my alarm at 4.45am I caved and read the mission for day 4, figuring the cold-calling is as much of a numbers game as anything and I'll cram it in some other time.

Field Assignment: Approach 3 girls you would date and get 1 clothing store recommendation.

Easy-piecy. Or that's what I thought until I feel my less than 5 hours of sleep is killing my groove after 8 hours at work. With my date with store-girl tonight in mind I decide to just go home, take a nap, get ready and get on with the missions tomorrow.

The Date - prepare to be bored

Meeting at the station
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So I go to the station near the café to pick her up, I'm maybe 5 min early, her timing was dead on the clock at 19.30.

Me: Hey! nice to see you!
Her: Yeah you too!
Hugs her/hugs me
Me: Check it out, your hideous socks match my polo-shirt, guess I should get a new polo-shirt now (Read the #close on day2 if you don't get it)
She's laughing, says somehing I can't remember

We start walking to the cafe, 8-10 min walk maybe, small-talking about where she grew up, does she know the place, and a bunch of other stuff.

At the cafe
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So we arrive at the café, it's a café/restaurant/cocktailbar I used to work at so I have some nice socialproof on most days, only today neither the manager or any of my old colleagues are at work, but whateever.

Mistake 1 (minor): Walking through the door first, rather than leading her in, call me old fashioned (that's my favorite drink!)

I point us to a small table with sofa seating on one side and chairs on the other. About to take the chair I tell her to get in the sofa and that I'll probably join her when I get tired of the chair. Delivery was good, half joke/half serious, I scooch over 5 min after we've ordered so we're sitting next to eachother instead.

Observation 1: Her body language is somewhat closed, her chest facing away from me so I pretty much just try to mirror that

She's looking at the menu
Me: Don't worry, if you haven't been here before I know what you're having, you have to try this (:
Her: (giggling) ok
Me: You hungry? (I don't want it to turn into a dinner, but common courtesy to ask)
Her: No, not really
Me: Cool. They have these great nachos though so let's have some of those anyway

I order the drinks and the nachos and scooch over into the sofa.

Mistake 2 (not good): Up to this point there been about zero compliance escalation since the hug (which is pretty customary here). Should have brought some props (umbrella, bag, anything) to ask her to hold just to get the ball rolling.

Conversation is still good though. I can't remember the exact order of things but at some point we're talking about Sex and The City and I ask her if she can keep a secret (yes) telling her that me and the guys that I live with likes watching chick-flicks and that Sex and The City is actually pretty fun. We talk about the characters, agree on how annoying the constant moron-monoloque in Carrie's head is, and so forth.
At this point I ask her what her secret is and she admits to being a bit of a gamer, ha! (as in COD, BF3 etc.). In general she's the son her father never had and talks about fishing trips and other father-"son" stuff they do.

After finishing the drinks she wants to go out for a smoke so we go sit outside after I settle the bill (Should probably either have split or capitalized better on the situation somehow).
When outside we talk about vacations and sports, and after asking me if I have a favorite sports I tell her about my whole MMA thing.

(Note: I'm still working on how to best deliver this, sometimes I'll draw it out a bit, and then when I "cave" I'll talk about how it's often looked down upon (it is actually) as being to violent, brutal etc. Other time I'll just spit it out and compliment people on their openmindedness). I went with the latter today.)

Her response is great, telling me how she would love to try MMA, had to escalation and the nature of the conversation been better this would have been such an obvious hook for some sexual innuendo.

Anyway from here the date pretty much just declines. Early in the date I learn that she only 17, not illegal but not great either, and to me it started showing in the conversation early on. I decided to use the date as practice anyway but with my interest in her declining the attraction slowly fizzled out too, killing my motivation.

Either way, I won't bore you with the rest of the date, we had a nice conversation but that was about it. Instead, age aside, these are my thought on the date as a whole:

Problem - Close to zero compliance escalation

Logistics in terms of having easier access to compliance escalation moves should definitely have been planned better. Ideas:
Sit across from her instead of next to her to begin with. Automatically keeps boyd language open as you face eachother from neutral, also better enabling eye-flirting, access to hands, feet etc.
Bring props of some sort (open to ideas by the way)

Don't pay for stuff. I'm old fashioned and don't mind picking up the bill once in a while, often I'll feel it's customary if I ask someone out. However looking at the date in retrospect I'd rather have saved the money, not that it was a lot. but still

This is more of a reflection on the actual #close the other day: At some point she tells me that she was surprised to be asked out while at work, and thought to herself I'll-give-him-my-number-and-decide-later and then she thought what-the-hell ie. high flaking chance. ---> I the future I want to be able to turn her what-the-hell-attitude into I-was-really-surprised-but-I-REALLY-hope-he-calls-me, so I should probably try and build some more instant attraction and eject earlier. High expectations right off the bat, I know, but why aim low.

Even though I have a good idea about what I look for in a girl/woman, putting it down on paper probably wouldn't hurt and would likely make it easier for me to built qualifications on the fly. That should give me something to do tomorrow at work.

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Day 4 disaster

Nominee for Wuss of The Year RIGHT HERE.

It was Saturday afternoon and I'd finally gotten some time for a field trip. Just as a reminder my Day 4 mission reads:

Approach 3 women and get 1 recommendation for a men's clothing store.

So after hitting the gym I'm heading downtown around 13.30, there are plenty of stores and tons of people in the street so this should be perfect for closing out my Day 4 mission. The result, I cruise around for 3 fucking hours not making a SINGLE approach, WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH ME? Giving up and going back home I'm equally pissed about being such a wuss and wasting my own time getting nowhere, my best consolation at this point being that the time wasted was in fact "not" wasted as this will (hopefully!!) fuel my motivation like fucking ether in a gas tank.

In retrospect, I spotted plenty of targets, both single and groups, that I should have approached. I had plenty of great eye-contact and girls giving me looks (forgive the ego-stroking here), so my confidence is seriously fucked up somewhere when I can't muster the balls for a simple "Hello, do you know a good clothing store, because I'm FUCKING LOST!!".

What went wrong? Well not much other than being paralyzed like a god damn deer in a pair of 18-wheeler headlights while getting ass-fucked by a grizzly bear.

Anyway, nice to blow off some steam, I'll give this a go again tomorrow and this time I better god damn make it, I WILL make it.

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Moment of Clarity - Coming Clean

Before post my day 4 completion, I want to share and important point of my situation that I haven't been upfront with until now. For the past 3 years I've had a very happy relationship with a girl I absolutely love, so why do the 30 day challenge?

For a long time I'd been giving my relationship with her a lot of thought, and despite being happy together I started to realize that I needed to try more things in life before I would be ready for a commitment like this. I often came close to taking the finally step and end it, but every time I would always become over-emtional about how much I cared for her and decide to try and keep things going. It wasn't until about two weeks ago that it became clear to me that what was primarily holding me back from breaking up the relationship was the fear of being alone and never attracting a girl like her again, and so I turned to the 30 Day Challenge and inner game material in order to try and build my confidence. It worked, and saturday night I reached my moment of complete clarity I knew that I had to end it now if we we're ever to stand a chance in the long run, as either friends or a couple later on.

And so, last night I went to her place and talked it out. It's over. At this point I'm relieved though I'm also fully prepared for the likely rollercoaster-ride of emotions that will ensue in the coming week.

Anyway, I'm continuing with the challenge, the confidence boost that I get from completing the daily mission along with the sense of direction it has given has been a huge help so far.

No pity please, from here on self improvement is the only thing on the agenda.

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Day 4 Completed

Despite of knowing what I'd have to do later tonight vis-a-vis my last post, I still planned to carry on with my Day 4 assignment yesterday as it would keep my mind off of things and (hopefully) completing it would help keep my confidence up. Enough about that.

As I was visiting my grandfather for some gardenwork and lunch around 11am (I'm such a nice person) I decided to head out early, so I took the bus downtown around 8.30am and arrived around 9. Upon arriving and walking down the street however my suspicion was confirmed, the streets we're completely empty. With most of the stores and cafe's closed and everyone sleeping off last nights bender the street resembled an old western movie, empty McDonalds passing in the street like tumbleweed among the remains of a night of partying.

Anyway I followed the main street down to this intersection that's usually one of the busiest spots in town. With not a single target in sight I cruised around for maybe 15 minutes until I realized there'd be nothing to approach until later in the day. I rescheduled with my granddad and after a few hours of gardenwork and a nice lunch I went back downtown around 3.30 pm.

NOW things where looking better. With most stores closed the street still wasn't as busy as the rest of the week but still plenty of people and this really worked to my advantage. I realized that with the streets less crowded, I could spot targets from greater distance and better brace myself for approaching. This might be counter-intutive to approaching as soon as possible in order to bypass approach anxiety, but this way I would have time to snap out of the paralysis I usually got trapped in when spotting a target with only 1-2 seconds to react. This a realized on my second approach.

Anyway, on my first cruise down the street there was still a lack of targets as the criteria reads "girls I'd likely date", and the few I spotted was too hesitant with. At this point I adhered to another lesson from my failure last time. On my previous attempt i litterally walked around for hours, not only exhausting myself mentally from repeatedly failing myself but also physically from just walking around to constantly. This time, I'd constrained myself to 30 min before I'd go sit in a café and recharge. The cafe was completely vacant so I got confortable with a cup of coffee reading some more PU material on my Ipad. About an hour later, around 5pm, I decided it was time to give it another go, this time fully charge.

First Approach

Walking out of the café I spot two girls (HB 7 & 7) waiting for their orders, so I brace myself and approach them:

Me: Excuse me, can I ask you real quick, do you know a good place to go shopping for cloth? I'm not very familar with the area.
Girl1: Sure, you should go to Shopping Mall X, we work there
Girl2: Haha yes, go to Samsøe & Samsøe
Girl1: However most of the stores are closed today
Me: Ok, cool. yeah I know, I was planning to go tomorrow but I don't have a lot of time so I thought I'd get some input

I can't exactly remember to rest, but they went on to tell me about how stuff was on sale now and it was a great place and time to go etc. etc. Anyway I thank them and leave the café.

Approach 2

After crusing around for maybe 10 min looking for targets (and missing 1 or 2 opportunities) I spot a girl HB8 sitting a a fountain. I circle around as it's a pretty common spot where people just take a break from the shopping. Taking 10-15 seconds collecting myself, I start walking as if to walk by her, she clearly notices me, and then turn to her.

Me: Excuse me, can i ask you something?
Her: Sure seems excited
Me: Do you know a good place to go and shop for cloth? I'm not very familar with the area
Her: Well most of the good stores are down this street (she points one way) , there's also some in that direction (points again) but they're not as cool and most of them are pretty expensive. she smiles
Me: Ok, nice, sounds good
Her: But most of the stores a closed today so it might be hard to find anything (inquisitive tone)
Me: yeah I know, I'm going tomorrow, I've been looking around and I won't have much time so I thought I'd get some advice
her: ahh ok, of course
me: Anyway thanks for the advice!

And I leave. Great interaction, she seemed keen, and slightly nervous, on talking to me, so I definently felt some attraction going. I could (and should) probably have asked her number but at this point I was too set on completing the field assignment that it didn't really strike me till after. Either way, my confidence was through the roof when I walked away.

Aproach 3

After the girl at the fountain started walking back towards the station, this is also a busy street so I thought I'd have a good chance of getting the last approach down.

after about 2-3 min I spot two girls HB 7 & 8 walking towards me, I'm hesitant for only a second and most of my anxiety is gone at this point so I approach them when their still a few feet away.

Me: Putting my hand up in a soft stop-like fashion, excuse me, can I ask you, do you two know a good place to shop for cloth? I'm not very familar with this place
Girls stop
Girl1: Sure, you should go to shopping mall X
Girl2: yeah, or shopping mall Y, they have some really cool stores there
Me: Yeah I've been looking around both, they're nice but they both seem a bit.. meh
Girl1: Ok, you could go to Solid to, oh you've already been there She points to shopping bag from solid I'm carrying, there's actually no cloth in it put I play
along
Girl2: yeah, that's a really nice store too (girl 2 didn't get it)
Girl1: @girl 2, he's just been there!
Me: yeah already been there smiles, showing her the bag
Girl2: oh ok smiles
Girl1: You could also try Abercrombie & Fitch, it's really cool and it's right down this street points to the direction I came from
Me: (Hell, fucking no), Really? I must have walked right past it then, is it close?
Girl1: yeah it's right down here
Both girls go on to talk about how awesome A&F is, had the stores been open I might have tried inviting them to show me around
Me: Ok, maybe I should try that out then. Cool, thanks (:

Another interaction that felt perfect, plus I got at least two store recommendations. This has probably been the most ego-stroking experience so far, all of the girls in every approach seemed more than happy to talk to me and was glad to help. I'm fairly certain I'd might have been able to instant-date both the girl from approach 2 and the two from my last approach (How to hell do you instant-date two girls at once?)

Amazing day, my confidence was rockstar like heading home.

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Day 5 - Here comes the Groom

As usual on a Monday morning, I'm jolted to life by my alarm clock around 5am. Like the half-risen zombie I am, I roll and kill my alarm clock before grapping my phone to read today's mission with one eye still open.

Looks like today is all about self improvement, ie. no fieldwork.

Mission 1: Read the grooming checklist and perform at least one task on the checklist

These are my options:

• Change my hairstyle (I do this often enough)
  Ditch the glasses (don't have any)
  Get a tan (just got back from the Canary Isles)
  Get a manicure and a pedicure (seriously?!)
  Remove excess hair (Nose is trimmed when needed)
  Examine myself closely in a mirror, look for dry skin, oily skin, baggy eyes etc. (I'm good)
  manage eyebrows (Not needed)
  Whiten teeth (Expensive as hell, plus mine a just fine with no smoking or excess coffee drinking)
  Freshen my breath (I'm never out of mints)
  get free dermatology advice (sigh...)
  Accessorize (Done that before)
  Join a gym (I'm already in 2)
  Eat healthier (Hardly possible)
  Make sure cloth fits (I'm very picky so they fit)

As the mission also states that you should avoid the ones you're most comfortable with as well as areas you've already got covered, this leaves me with:

Get a manicure and a pedicure
Whiten teeth
get free dermatology advice
Examine myself closely in a mirror


With mani/pedi's being expensive as hell here, along with have your teeth whitened, I decide to go with the free dermatology advice. I kinda feels like this is an overkill but we'll see what she has to say, I'm stopping by the store tomorrow.

Mission 2 - Make a change

This mission is basically about get a free style consultation at any of the stores I was recommended yesterday and buy some new cloth. THIS mission I do believe I'll skip. First, my recent girl friend went to great lengths teaching me some style to their point we're my entire wardrobe is now in style. Second, I just bought new cloth and it's badass.

Mission 3 - Brush up

Choose one of the following to experience again: mind-shaping audio, vocal exercise, posture wall stance and video.

Since I'm already listening to subliminal messaging every day (and night) and already doing vocal exercise almost every day, I'm gonna review the posture-video tomorrow.

I know I've clustered quite a few things for tomorrow, especially with today's mission hinting at a good deal of fieldwork tomorrow, but this is how I expect to go about it.

Plan for tomorrow

Wake up around 7am & head straight to the gym for some bag work for 45 min.
Breakfast & shower around 8am, I'll fit in the posture video here when I eat.

Head to the store for my dermatology advice and get the ball rolling with some small-talk. Warmed up and ready to go I'll head downtown for and do whatever fieldwork awaits me in tomorrow mornings mission.

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Finally found a handle! sort of..

Big day today! I just nailed my 6th day of the challenge and MAN I can feel things are moving fast. Anyway, with everything moving forward I finally came up with a handle that wasn't taken! Almost...

Next up, my Day 6 entry.

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Day 6 - If You Can't Say Something Nice..

Anyway Tuesday I had the day off, perfect since I expected quite a bit of field work for today. Upon waking, this was mission for today:

Day 6 - Conquering AA

Give 4 women spontanous compliments, avoiding things such as "You're hot/beautiful etc.". The Key is to be percieved not as trying to flatter or hit on her but as showing sincere appreciation of something noticed spontanously.

Extra: At least two of the women has to be strangers, allowing for two of them to be people you know, even your mother.

I felt really good about today's assignment, I had actually expected it to be harder, so I was confident this would be a breeze. I don't know if it's the subliminal messaging tapes I'm listening to, the success of the challenge so far, or both, but my confidence is sky-rocketting. I've always felt confident, or at least told myself I was a confident person, but this is different. Anyway on to the field.

Compliment 1

I still had to get my free dermatology advice as of my mission from yesterday, so after hitting the gym, eating breakfast and getting dressed, I headed downtown. As I got off the bus the STRANGEST thing happened. As I'm walking down the sidewalk I spot this blond HB7 lighting up a smoke, and as I'm walking towards her I'm checking her out for something to comment on and my eyes lands on her shoes, and as I'm walking by my eyes are just fixated, my head turns, I turn and then I look up and meet her eyes giving her a smile and going "Sorry, I just really like your shoes". NOT for 1 second did hesitation cross my mind, it all just happened without a single thought of doubt, nervousness or anxiety! Compared to how much I had to brace myself the other days, this was a huge break for me. Anyway, she's stunned for a second before she gives me a short "thank you" in a somewhat bitchy/too-cool-for-school sort of tone, that is clearly and act, which I find amusing even as it is happening.
I don't pursue it any further and just smile at her as I turn and continue walking. The best part of the whole thing was that even though I didn't get the surge of feel-good that I do when an approach works out really well, I couldn't have cared less about her "negative" reaction! There really is no losing scenario in this only learning.

Learing lesson: I might have smiled/grinned a but too much signalling nervous/akwardness, I should probably deliver it in a more casual, lighthearted tone.

Compliment 2

Continuing down the street I pass a cosmetics store and decide to go in for my dermatology advice. I walk around for a few minutes looking for who of the beauticians are hottest before I find a brunette HB7 at the counter. When I ask her what skincare advice she'd give me her first response is that I have really nice skin and no visible issues (nice) so we go on to just discussing good habits of skin care. There's a good vibe going on, my tone is way more casual yet playful and I'm trying to focus on tonality as I talk. I also experiment a bit with subtle, negative body language which feels completely stupid at first as I'm pretty much just rotating my shoulders slightly away and I'm certain she'll notice but she doesn't seem to at all, it actually seems to work as I definently sense some attraction building.
Anyway she tell's me to scrub 1-2 times a week and use a mousterizer, but since I'm already doing that and she likes the products I'm using there's no reason to by anything. Instead I get a body lotion for my elbows (my skin there as been slightly fucked up by MMA).
As I'm paying I'm thinking of complimenting her hair, but that feels too much like a come-on at the moment. The only other thing I notice is her nailcolour so I tell her that she has really nice nails, the delivery is really good this time.
She starts laughing asking me if I'm serious and shows me her nails and it obvious that I didn't get a close enough look since the polish is coming of everywhere. I keep a straight face though, grin at my bad observation and just tell her I didn't notice that part and that I just spotted the colour which was nice. Anyway she's beaming as I leave the store. Perfect.

Café-break & Compliment 3

With my two "stranger-compliments" done already, I feel even less presure than I did half an hour ago so I go to my favorite café for a coffee and some PU reading. I plan to try and play the last two "natural", only compliment on actual spontanous observations instead of trying to find something to compliment "spontaously" on, sicne I can always find two girls I know and throw them a compliment for the easy win, the first one I have actually already planned out.

After finishing my coffee I'm to meeting this girl HB8.5-9. She has I doctors appointment and wanted me to come since she's really nervous about it (don't worry, not friendzone behavior, I've nailed her before).
Anyway she's really nervous so I just compliment her on looking great/calm/ready and has nothing to worry about. Easy one I know.

Compliment 4

The last compliment approach was definently the best one. It's 10pm now and I'm heading home after BBQ'ing with my dad. As I walk onto the bus I sit myself across from this HB8. I notice she has what looks like areally expensive purse, and I notice that she notices me looking at it. I should probably have opened her at that point but for reasons that are beyond me I don't. As we get close my stop I stand and lean against the rail next to her, I linger then:

Me: You have a really nice purse (great delivery)
Her: I'm sorry I don't speak (My Language)
Me: (switching to english) oh, I just said you have a really nice purse
Her: oh, thanks! I got it from Italy
Me: Cool, so it's a designer-thing?
Her: Actually it's from a designer in London, but I bought it in Italy. The designer's name is (Don't remember), it's spelled blahblahblah, I think they might have a mens collection too.
Me: ok, cool. I'll check that out. thanks (;
Her: Your welcome (BIG smile, very flirtatious)

I should SO have opened her earlier, the attraction was climbing throughout the whole (short interaction), this is the best flirt I've had. My confidence felt bulletproof, my delivery and tonality was really good and I would have felt perfectly comfortable number-closing her with a few more minutes of interaction, only idiot me opens to late and I get off at my stop.

Anyway, today was a huge success, I can't wait for tomorrow.

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Not Dead Yet

So I just got back from a 1-week cruise in the Mediterranean, awesome vacation! however most italian/french/spanish girls understand terrible little english so my options we're somewhat limited and so gaming wasn't really a priority. I did manage to infiltrate this group of 4 Italien girls of which one of them, the smoking HB10 of course, had pretty good english. However she was of course also the only one out of the group with a boyfriend. Nice girls though.

Anyway I'm just checking back in expecting to pick-up where I left off. I plan to do my Day 7 tomorrow, but I'm a bit worried about how much "momentum" I've lost as I've really felt how your social skills are like a muscle that needs continuous work. I'll guess I'll find out tomorrow.

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Chances are 10% of your actions are causing 90% of your problems