1st week:
This is my first week actually gaming and I took the easiest step I could find was say "hello, (intro)" or "hi, (intro)" to mostly everybody for a good full week. Now I feel comfortable enough to go walk up to strangers and introduce myself naturally without hesitation. I've mostly been shut down by ALOT of those people, and sometimes it would go well and they would introduce themselves but I had no clue what to do next.

Q's: What are some good conversational topics?
How do I keep the conversation flowing?

The tv shows How I met your mother and two and a half man. A lot of girls loves

those. Also you can make statements not ask questions. Like: You look like youre

studying law.

figure out what you are good at, what are your favourite things in life, your hobbies, your interests, your goals,

now, when you are talking to a girl, think of it like a balance between flirting with them (just hitting on them, having fun, and teasing them,), and finding out what sort of person they are, find out if they have a mutual interest in your interests

so for example, if you like snowboarding, you could say, you know, I'm super huge into snowboarding, do you like any sports or anything?

when she shares an interest with you, encourage her for it, let her know you like that about her, when she doesn't share her interests and is avoiding investment you can make fun of her a bit, as long as it makes you laugh or you think it is funny

example:

her: yeah, I totally ski, I always get a seasons pass to the rockies every year and my family always goes to nakiska and sunshine and we ski all day,

you: no way, that is soo awesome, god you just went up like 20 hotness points in my hotness points book, but all year, you must be a girl that lives for adventure

or if she is not investing

her:no

you: lol what? you don't play any sports? that's weird, guess we won't be getting along well, you must like makeup and stuff hey, haha

then she will let you know, the more she wants to invest for you, the more she will dig for any info she has to qualify for you, the less she wants to invest for you, the less she will make an effort to impress, always be aware of what mood she is in and how much compliance/investment you are seeing in return, if she is not being very compliant or investing, just lead her into a better mood (easiest way is raise your own mood *have fun*), and give her some more value to work with until she gets comfortable (just invest for her, tell her things instead of asking her things, hit on her, take the pressure off, once she is comfortable and in a better mood, find out more about her)

just keep leading her into talking about topics you want to talk about, what kind a person she is, mutual interests, all the way to sexual preferences and what she likes, what you like etc., see if she is the kind of girl you could be with for a long time, and let her know when you have interest, and let her know when you have dis-interest, be sure of what you want, and look for it, really dig it out, and express yourself so that they are aware of what you like / don't like, don't try to impress, let them impress you, then let them know you are impressed

i think that best topics are the ones that are connected to situation you both are in - the club, the music, the boss if you are at work, the people around you, the way that she dances, something interesting about her (her hair style, her shirt or something like that)

Good question.

What i usually do is find a question or make a statement that triggers a response I'm looking for such as the girls passion, ambitions, dreams(all emotionally connected topics) and then i got from there.

What you need to do is to learn how to be a good listener. Listen for keywords that she uses to connect and expand on them more. Its being a good conversationalist. I will have a blog post coming on being a conversationalist soon. I use to be the worst at holding conversation due to over thinking, fear among other things.

For example here is how a conversation went with a HB i met while shopping a few days ago:

Me: Yeah i really enjoy days like these when i can just come out and shop, look for things a family member might need. Its really relaxing.

Her: Yeah i love shopping by myself. When im with my friends i usually cant focus.(laugh)

Me: (Smile) Yeah i understand that. When i go out with my bros its really just to hang out and have a good time. But when you are with your girls im sure they probably in courage you to spend more.(Smile)

Her:haha yeah they do actually one of my friends is the worst at that.

Me: Yeah keep friends like that away while shopping! So would you rather be alone a lot or be with friends more?

Her: I love being around my friends but i love to have "me time" when i can kinda self reflect. ya know.

Me: So do you mentally self reflect or self-reflect in the mirror to check if your matching?(Laugh)

Her: Hahaha your funny. I usually self reflect mentally. I like to self-improve blah blah blah.


You get the point? I took one little statement and turned it into a conversation that built comfort(not to much) and different than most guys conversaton:

What do you do?
Where do you work?
etc, etc, etc..

So yeah just use that strategy and you'll notice how far you get.

Sluggler

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