Heyy gents... I am new to the game and this forum thanks in advance....

I am really looking to game a girl who i have known for years... Nearly 6.

We were young and i got one-itis instantly... I couldnt see past her... Ok... We became best friends... I asked her out (i was seriously young... didnt have any game at all... it was embarrasing) and she point blanked rejected me... Fair enough... shit happens... I deal with rejection well...... However this changed when the next year... I had just rebuilt our friendship... When i thought id have another pop at it... But again... No... so... you think thats as bad as it gets.... Same thing for 2 years... But then I just decided im just gonna get over it... ok... its been 2 years since my last ask out... except difference... were not best mates... we rarely talk... when we do we are mutual :Dxx which is great.... now... i wanna game this shit... and do it properly :Dxx hahaha and dont tell me its impossible... Good luck Guys :Dxx

From my personal experience you will always be in the friend zone with this chick, the exact same thing happened with me, i got serious one-itis over her and it totally put me off my game for a couple of years. I'm still in the friend zone with her but i managed to get over it and give it up as a bad job.
The only suggestion i could make if it counts for anything would be to try and build up some sexual tension through your texts, body language etc. there are hundreds of posts on here to help you with that. Try and sneak it in without her realising that your doing it or you will freak her out.
My advice would be to drop it and leave it alone though.

It will most likely end up in marriage. You ready for it?
Get drunk, get her drunk have sex, and the next day when she gets moral hangover, say you are happy it ended like this.

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But don't get her DEAD drunk but happily drunk. Pretend to see, a totally different person in her, and game her as if she was a different person, but that you really like.

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BOLLOCKS!!!

Dude, how many times have I seen this. People being in friend zone, than desperately trying to game someone, than accidentaly feeling this unusual bond. The dude on the topic, already over-thinks this case.
Yep, there is very high risk of getting married after gaming her, and dude needs to be prepared for this

I am not saying "are you ready for marriage", but "are you ready for the risk".

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another thing i would like to mention is:
There is no such thing as "the hardest task". If You convince yourself its hard, it will be even impossible.
It always is a CHALLENGE.
If You take it as a challenge and pick "lets find out if i can do it" attitude You might be surprised how much things you thought impossible can be natural.

Its all in you.
She see You as a friend, show her the other side of you , but dont make the dramatic turn of your personality. Just say (you both don't really need to be drunk, but i would recomend it ) you suddenly saw something different in her. And than start the fun

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My understanding of a situation like this so far (i'm a newbie) is to show your self to have value, value is what other people want, something what is difficult to get. Getting over this girl is the only chance of ever getting her.

Go out a start talking to girls, sleep with a few and date a few, make sure it doesn't go unnoticed and make sure you treat them right.

Either your one-itis will go and you will forget all about this girl, or she will see that other girls want you and that your treating them the right way and if she has any feeling for you whatsoever she will feel it is something she missed out on.

Whilst still approaching other women drop her a text and once you build up enough rapport you could perhaps introduce the 'in bed' text game, where you agree every text must end with 'in bed' to help build sexual tension.

You must leave the girl alone with no contact and once you have done the hard work with other women start from scratch with her and make it near impossible to fall into the friend zone. Don't try to be too nice so she texts back this will risk landing you in the friend zone once again. Don't be affraid to loose her or else you will do.

Just my opinion, i'm no expert but it's just what i have picked up over the past few weeks.
Mate the guy has One-itis telling him to view her as a potential future wife can really screw with peoples heads. He needs to get over her before he stands any chance at all with her.
Please stop and think before you post crap advice.

Well here would be my advice, for what it's worth.

You want her, that much is clear. You need HER, to want YOU. That means give her the opportunity to come to that feeling herself.

What you need is to do some regular activity with her as friends, for example find a groupon on salsa dancing class and say you got two and need a partner. Your treat, cause you always wanted to DANCE (i.e. not cause u always wanted HER lol).

Then EXCEL in this thing, and get her excited about it, and also meet up with her offline for drinks etc. but only talk about other stuff.

Then as she gets COMFORTABLE with you, then you take it further and enroll in something bigger like a competition. Or some festival. Go with her together. And if you have to travel that's even better.

As for how to get her to be attracted you ... I dont know man, maybe you are skinny and should start seriously working out. If this is really important to you the goal is to change yourself so you don't have all the stuff that reminds her to treat you just as a friend.

Also read this: http://all-about-men.blogspot.com/2007/ ... etect.html

Women's smell is more sensitive than a guy's sense of smell. I would say change up your style subtly, and change up your smell in a major way.

Also do you have a car? Do you have a nice place? That stuff matters.

If you have a good place, think about maybe hosting a party with cool people and inviting her to it. If you want to make sure she comes, maybe you should get a sense of her schedule first before inviting her. Ask her like this:

hey, I had a good week bla bla
what are you doing next weekend?
if she doesn't mention anything serious then you invite her for sat night for example, then make the party.

THE TRICK IS

MAKING HER BE ATTRACTED TO YOU
SPENDING TIME WITH HER WITHOUT PUTTING ANY PRESSURE ON IT
BY FOCUSING ON SOMETHING ELSE SUCH AS THE SALSA

If I may ask a few questions:

How many other women have you been interested in while being interested in her?
How many other women have you dated during this time (even just a single date)?
How many other women have you slept with?

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Let's grab some BBQ and go get busy!"

Thanks veryone for all your advice... (the whole marriage thing... I know what this guy means... I dont see it as a mind fuck... My brain works in the game... Although a newbie i am used to rejectiona and shit)...

I have had a girlfriends while liking this girl... And dont worry about the friend zone... Ive managed to ignore-ish her... with the odd drop in to keep her knowing that i exist... I am pretty much at the re-set our friendship... It should work... I just wanted some advice on how to go about it...

What does it mean - I am foreigner.

Telling to what?? Dude, BE PREPAIRD THAT YOU WILL BE GAMED INSTEAD OF YOU GAMING HER!!! This is not even advice, its a principle.
You are newbie. So if there is something you have no idea of, than don't say what you wish would happen ok? There are many people who have been in such situations including me, who accomplished this thing.

Please stop and think before you post crap advice.


HE understood.

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Don't make it a big deal in making her ur girlfriend.. she would freak out if she thinks its a big deal, be confident, don't ask about going out, read her . If u feel like its time for a kiss but not ballsey enough to jump in use the triangle method, look at one eye to the other then at her mouth, if she does it back, kiss her and dont hesitate . Since she's some1 u really like and used to be friends with her u should establish ur intentions early I.e. kiss close within the first date, second the latest or your back in friends zone and the longer ur there, the harder it is to get out.

Do not wait . Ignore the other guys that are saying to spend lots of time before making a move.

if you want to forget about her, just approach other girls. Because when u do that, u won't think about THIS particular girl, especially if you have success with the others.

That's the only way to get rid of one-itis, approach-approach-approach.
Nuff said.

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Ok... I understand everyones advice, and I will take all into account and decide on which route to take... Now i dont know my way around this site... But after reading "The Game" I read about David De'Angelo cocky funny technique and It is the sort of thing i have been doing for years... But i jsut wanna improve that... So is there anywhere where it goes into more detail on cocky funny as the book didnt show much :Dxx hahaa Thanks

Stealth seduction might be what you are looking for.

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