So i am texting with my GF and we were talking about vacation and stuff and this is what happened:

Quik note beforehand: everytime my GF is pissed at me she uses the '':)'' smiley as a sarcastic kind of way i guess ...

GF: Then we see eachother everyday!
Me: Hahaha yes
GF: But apparently you dont want that....
Me: ?
GF: Ye you never use that smiley...
Me: WTF
GF: ?
Me: That smiley was just ment as a normal smiley..
GF: Yea right
Me: .....
GF: Ye bye

after this i didn't respond yet, this just happened like 5 minutes ago.. thing is i have no idea how to handle this situation.. freeze her out? We have a movie date standing tomorrownight, should i cancel if i freeze out or what?

Thanks in advance....

Text her back with this message- " "

Then when she gets super pissed and says she doesn't want to talk to you say- "good, I didn't want to talk to you either"

Then when she says "fine" you say - "fine"

Then you hold out until she texts back a few minutes later saying she doesn't want to be mad at you.

Shit test- Passed.

Continued:


Me: You know you could be wrong sometimes.. THat smiley was just meant normally so i don't like that you're responding like that
GF: You never use that smiley
Me: No but if i do then it doesn't have to mean something bad? Was just meant normally
GF: Yeah right
Me: Yea why would i mean it in a bad way?
GF: Nothing nevermind
Me: Hmm ok
GF: But what is it then that you did it? Because most of the time there is something
Me: No really there's nothing? What's suppose to be there?
GF: Thats what i ask
Me: Yeah and i told you 3 times already that its nothing
GF: ok
Me: But come on i do a smiley i never use one time and immediately you get mad? I dont get it
GF: I think its weird
Me: Yea me too that you act like that while its just a misunderstanding?
GF: I only said something and then you said ''WTF''
Me: Yeah because you get mad because of a smiley
GF: I didn't got mad i only said something but when you said ''WTF'' i got mad yea
Me: Ye so this is my fault right... Well i don't want to deal with this right now i am going to bed ill hear from you tomorrow if you want to do something
GF: wtf read back and you can see i didn't got mad, goodbye


Then today she texted me if tonight was still on and i said yes but we decided to go hang out in the city instead, we decided to meet at 8, she showed up 8:25 , 25 minutes to late, this happend almost everytime and this time i called her out on it..

I said ''I have other stuff to do'' She interupted me: ''well go do them then bye'' like wtf. I also said ''and you can't even say sorry when you're 25 minutes too late?'' she said: ''no'' and after that ''you know that im always late''

Then we had a shit time and she didn't want too talk nothing and i said ''well have a good time tonight and tomorrownight, ill hear from you when you want to speak to me'' and walked away and went home

then i got home and on twitter i read a message from her:

''That you don't even realize it yourself...."

its obviously about me

Then on SPAM she said:

GF: If you want to break up then you can do that we don't have to argue about that"
Me: Well i don't want to break up?
GF: Ok
Me: Do you?
GF: If it keeps going like this yes, eventho it hurts me
Me: I didn't do anything..
GF: ok

the end.


Guys, WTF IS GOING ON HERE?!!?!?

lol ok she just talked to me on SPAM and said i have been ''weird and distant'' lately and thats why she got mad about the smiley and i told her that it makes no sense and she said ''yes it does'' and i asked for an example but she couldn't give me one because ''if you dont see it yourself then i wont tell you''

And then she told me it feels more like we're brother and sister and she said ''i dont know if the relationship has any sense to continue then"

so i responded "well if you feel like that i guess not"

then she started to back down a little bit and said " its not like you did something wrong.. things like that can happen or maybe thats how you are?"

and she said "But i think its weird that you are distant but you can change that right? but i dont get it anymore whatever im going to sleep"

really like wat.

Yeah maybe the ''WTF"' response was a bit too much, but as you said, it really caught me off guard and i really was like ''WTF" in real life..

But anyway, thanks for the response, i will try to talk to her with your "strategy" tomorrow, ill update you guys.

I bet you lose this bet. OP doesn't seem very willing to go into "AFC lovey and cuddly" mode.
which might be good if he suspects the chick is only trying to blame him for the break-up, and has hidden motives (other cock banging her) to really want an exit from the relationship
which might be bad if all the chick is demanding is more love and attention from an otherwise detached boyfriend. maybe she has given subtle hints, half jokingly, and still got nothing in return

this is something only the OP knows.. are there any reasons to believe this girl is cheating (Case A)? are there any precedents where this girl has asked for more attention and been rejected (Case B)?

the answers to the above are crucial in deciding what to do from now on

if A is true, then I like this course of action. let her hit a wall, get mad, scream, go crazy, just don't break up and don't give a fuck. she will end up causing some massive drama. still don't dump her.
if B is true, then go outside her home and bring her flowers and a card, bring her to dinner, and bang her good after that.

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Well she is very insecure so she has always been saying ''omg i look so ugly today'' or ''my hair is awefull today'' so in the first part of the relationship i always commented ''Noo not true'' and ''you are beautifull'' and stuff like that, i always thought that it would stop some day

But now, 8 months later, she is still making these comments, everyday that i see her and its making me crazy, so lately i have been ignoring them (hoping that she would stop making them if i didnt gave her the attention she wanted)

so maybe this is the problem

You're giving her explicit approval to break up, and it seems like you don't want to do that given all the posts here.

#1-You two do not communicate well, despite the heavy volume of words the both of you spew.
#2-Some girls use their emotions to control the relationship, which may or may not be the case here. Other girls, especially young girls, are afraid to say what they truly want out of fear of hurting the guy's feelings.
#3-You do not seem able to clearly articulate what you want, instead you try to gauge the relationship and what you get out of it from her feelings.
#4-If she doesn't want to break up but she is communicating with you ineffectively, she might feel that you are trying to break up with her when you are only trying to figure out what she is doing.

You can try to reach out and talk to her about this, but for God's sake, DO IT IN PERSON AND NOT BY TEXT. Texting is NOT the channel for serious or substantial communication, quit using it as such.

I am sorry to say this i am Polish so it can sound too rough but:
Bitches go crazy thats what they do if you let them.
Right here you should get on your NGAF mode (Not Givin A ...)
And now your in her machiavellous game. Dude girl is annoying u gotta give her a lesson. One word sentences. "Nope". She gets angry, its good, she understands that this is irrelevant.
3 times? 3 times? Isn't that a little too much? Isn't this the f**k this shit o'clock time? Thats what you write in response to ONE word? Yep she is the dominating one. she did exactly what I told You to do before.
Plz don't answer, plz don't... Nooooo... now you are under her command...

GF: I didn't got mad i only said something but when you said ''WTF'' i got mad yea battle is lost and abandoned SHE CAN say WTF but YOU can'T... is she really THAT hot?

conclusion. I don't want to be rude, but dude you need to understand this. Manipulating is in their nature as much as this tricks. She wants you to feel insecure, to get you are under her control. You just fall into all her games and it is sad. Either she is emotionally unstable or she is just wrapping you around her finger. This might be unconscious so don't blame her just learn how to deflect and ignore this shit or you will be domed.

edit.
Guys, i am far from teaching you because maby the culture is different in your country, but in Poland when girl is touched by the "bitch went crazy" syndrome the first thing you CANT do is doing ANYTHING in rush. Woman are triggered by emotions in the way we don't comprehend, so in my country we just say nothing for like an hour or two, let them cool down, and than peacefully start the conversation over again. You don't argue with angry woman, via texting because in twisted turn of events you may win argue, but lose HER. Give her time to lose the temper.

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You are over analyzing. She shit tested you and you failed, now it's turning into a long pointless argument that you keep alive like a camp fire. Paradigm shift out of your current mindset of trying to convince her logically about anything between your two's relationship. What are you trying to solve?! Your God given right to use a fucking smiley face?

You need to regain control of the situation and there's three routes-

1.) Stop talking to her immediately and wait the few hours or days it will take her to text/call you first

2.) You wind up a slave to her and listen to every emotional requirement she places on you which will end in break up because you slaughter any trace of passionate sex arising between the two of you.

3.) You use the smiley face at will.

Honestly, number 3 is the easiest and most fun method. Just use the fucking smiley face! If she doesn't like it she can go in anti-smiley face anonymous. She can file a restraining order against smiley faces. She can press charges against you for using smiley faces.

Well i straight up asked her if it was the '' im ugly compliment me please'' thing (Not in that way, in a respectfull way) and she said ''No thats not it" and she doesn't want to tell me what it is, so i responded with ''Well then i can't help it either'' and she responded with ''Okay'' and that was it.

Guess i will just stop talking till she talks to me i guess. This is weird

Why the fok You responded? Why?
Thats what you get.
Nooo, just wait some time and CALL HER with something irrelevant.

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Yeah i first asked her to come over to me (she said she was bored on twitter) so i could do what you told me but everyone kept saying other things and i wasn't sure what was the right thing, its like playing a game on expert mode, im not that good..


Also i hate going into appologize mode for a damn smiley, and apart from the thing i have told, i haven't been acting distant and if i ask what it is she wont tell me so im getting very weird vibe from all of this

CLOSE, KILL IT WITH FIRE, DO ANYTHING BUT DON'T REPLY THIS POST!

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