Hi guys.
So I accidentally bumped into a game between my gf and a friend of hers (who is boyfriend of another friend of hers) .. where they were joking about a dress, and taking it off and kissing .. and, I overreacted and made a scene. So it all came back as to why I was reading her messages. Which led to her changing her FB password. She told me I should do so too, and also told me that if I wanted to play with my girl friends like that, I was free to. Ok, here's the thing. I don't want to, and we talked about why she does it and she says she doesn't know, she has tried to change but she can't. She is loyal, she never sees anybody, she has even seen a psychologist that tells her it may be due to past abuse in her life (by males) .. maybe she enjoys giving them hope and ripping it off. I told her, dont try to change anymore, I wont try to change you either.
So, then I find out, she has been logging into my FB, I haven't told her, nor do I want to. But I wonder why is she logging in? Does she want to see if I chat with girls like that? Is she seeing if she can trust me?

if I get this right, your GF was sexting with another dude on FB. you found out and confronted her. all she had to say was "I will change my FB password". and now you worry if she is testing you by checking on your FB

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

Yes, and no... its a game.. the other guys girlfriend is my gfs best friend.. thats why I don't consider it "sexting".
How can I help her though? She has seen psychologists about this "playful" attitude of her, and they tell her it may be an indirect revenge on guys, since she was abused at the age of 14. I am beginning to think this goes deeper than just a playful attitude towards guys AND girls, she even does it with her gay best friends.
I think this may be a serious issue, I don't mistrust her, since she has been doing this for ages, hell, she even did it to me long before we were a couple, and it was worse than this, and nothing happened with us, until years later.

Rrrrrrrright. Can I have this chick's FB I like that game

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

your girlfriend is a slut?

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Well, she hasn't slept with any of them, hell, she doesn't even know them in person.
So long as she doesn't act upon it I'm fine.

Hello, first time poster here, HI

Here's the thing, if there are ever any problems in your relationship and she feels like getting some sort of revenge for whatever reason or is really bored, or even confused because one of these sexting "games" becomes more than a "game", she can (and probably will) fuck one of them...

On the other hand, she could just be using it like guys might use porn...

Either way, if its causing insecurity, and I imagine it would, you need to make the decision whether you want to continue putting up with it or not. Putting up with it may turn you into a suspicious beast...

Also, a warning sign is that she is checking your facebook. She is worried that you'll do the same now and in chick logic, its ok if she does it but if you do it; its wrong. right?

You are worrying sick about your girlfriend. Your girlfriend controles you (your frame), you are not living your life, but thinking about your girl. You are checking her facebook, at every oportunity you get, making sure, she is not doing something bad.

What is the cause of this? Your insecurity? A bad girlfriend?

This is something only you can know. Trust your gut feeling on this. If there's more and more drama coming into the relatsionship, take a break. Cause only more will follow.

If she has never gave you a reason to be insecure, it's you. And you must work on your confidence.

People on a forum cannot make that decision for you, only you can.

Good luck