Hello fellow Pick-Up Artist! While I am new to posting on this forum I have been actively following the PUA community for about a year and a half now. It is about time for me to start actively contributing to the PUA community so here is my story. I have noticed that quite a couple of people have similar stories and I would like to use this as an active thread to centralize all the advice the PUA community can input.
Background:
Recently I started a relationship with a girl that I have been gaming for a couple months. For the most part the first month of the relationship was absolutely golden. We texted back and forth very frequently and spent a good amount of time with one another (2-3 times a week). During this time I acted quite charming, rational, and confident in my abilities. I did not show any sign of jealousy and essentially passed all of her "shit tests" with flying colors.
Now I would like to call this month the "honeymoon period" as it's not atypical of relationships to have a sudden burst of interest during the first month or so. My problem is that now that the "honeymoon period" is over she is texting me less, we are spending less time together, and over-all our conversations aren't as interesting as before. I would also like to note that we do not speak on the phone. For some reason this girl isn't much of a phone talker and we rely mostly on text and facebook for communication.
Now I understand that couples can not stay in that blissful honeymoon stage forever however I really quite like this girl. Unfortunately because I have become emotionally attached I have reverted to my old problem of anxiety and constant worry over trifling matters. Often times I find myself worrying when she does not text me back because I think of how fast she would respond a couple of months ago compared to now where she can take an hour and sometimes not text me for the whole day.
For the most part, I have been good about hiding my insecurities by holding back from texting her franticly when she does not respond to me text. My only fear is that my anxiety will find it's way into my behavior around her as my close friend has already noticed I'm not getting as much sleep and I'm grumpier then usual.
I know what most of you will say, you have oneitis. That is probably true however I find myself quite happy when we are together and she does as well. That is why I want to work through this problem and build up attraction once again.
Also one thing I do want to mention. Looking back at all the times that I have been anxious I know without a doubt that they are petty and rather dumb however about one year ago I got out of a long term relationship that lasted for about two years. I think that because these two years took place during a very crucial developmental time of my youth, I inadvertently still have emotional issues about relationships and such.
Advice? I'll be consistently updating this thread with what's going on
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*Quick Edit/Update: Tonight we have a date and I hope to work to build attraction up once again. Now from a lot of my reading, most relationship experts advice that you openly communicate with your partner. Should I give her any wind of this? Instinct tells me no.
CHAT
