Hey guys, This is my most stubborn sticking point I think I've come to face so far.

Ok so over the years I've been with and dated Very Beautiful, Quality woman. I love it accept for every single time I'm pursuing a woman I'm VERY Interested in, My heart and wits go right out the fucking window ..Oneitus!!!

Its a vicious cycle I cant break. The thing that kills me is that once i fall into the oneitus trap, Thats it, I know from experience to just throw there number out, Get rid of the evidence of them, and wait for myself to come back after being love sick for weeks.

PS: I'm on oneitus right now, And im straining my emotions to overcome the terrible feelings I have brewed up inside for from this last girl I got involved with.

I guess what really frustrates me and triggers this, is that there is a lack of Beautiful woman in my life, And when i find one instantly I cling and fall for them wayy to easily..

I know there has to be some guys on here that used to go through this, I'm asking for advice, anything to overcome this non sense..

Thanks in advance.

one word: abundance

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

Son, LIKE A BUS, theres a bus coming around the cornor in another 10 minutes, don't give up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I get rejected so much by women, even the 5-7's... I just use women for pratice, learning for those who are in the range of 8.5++- 9-10's who I would marry. I cannot take this from 5-7's. I put up with the same crap from the 5-7's as I do with the 8-9's lol...


When you reach, 40+ these 20-25 year olds would be more interested in me.

One other poster is 52 and got 33 year old, proof! thats 20 years difference!


Remember there is always a hotter body out there.

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It is not AA that scares me or affects me anymore, its leading a conversation forward and keeping her interested. AA is nothing.

It really doesn't sound like you have one-itis, it sounds more like you hate the feelings of a break-up. You seem like a relationship-oriented person; as am I. When I focus my efforts on a girl, I invest myself. Then later down the road it doesn't work out, I feel like crap for a certain duration of time. I have found this to be normal. It becomes one-itis when you text the girl five millions times after a break up, professing your love for her, while dispatching a mariachi band to her house to try and win back her love even though you talked to her for a few days or weeks; truly believing she is the only girl in the entire universe.

I think you simply need to reframe your thoughts. Instead of worrying about your tendency to invest in one beautiful girl at a time, ask yourself why did things not work out in your previous relationship in the first place and fix/avoid it in your NEXT dating/relationship experience. Don't worry about the amount of quality girls you have stacked up in your stable. It's probably too big of a pain in the ass for you to maintain such a stable in your life and is inconsistant with your core values. After all, if you can get beautiful women in your life, where the hell do they go after your break up with them?!?

Typical things I learned throughout my experience in relationships is to continue to apply what you learn here in cycles. I forget which PUA coined it but there's three macro-level stages that relationships cycle through in order to maintain health/longevity: Attract, Romance, and Repel/Fight. These stages happen natually and take no initiative on your part to mastermind. Just learn how to deal with them and when to switch to a different stage. That is of course, if you truly want to be with a certain beautiful girl you geniunely like.

Hope this helps!