Hi Guys,

Ive been in a relationship for a year and a half now, through most of this relationship i was the man, she constantly worried about what i was doing if i was seeing her etc..

Now i've let myself turn into the women, im constantly worrying about her, im always having to ask to see her, i get so paranoid if she speaks to other lads, i get major anxiety all the time etc..

Its a joke i dont know how this has happened or what, now we both know im the women and shes the man now so after finally realising this i beg for your help guys!

How on earth can i turn it back round so i can be who i used to be with fucking the relationship up?

Thanks

Ps i'd say i probably turned into the women cus she suffered from depression in the past and still has her weeks of major depression etc where all i would do is look after her n treat her nice untill she cheered up. thats what kinda fucked me over!

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Start saying NO! STAND up to her! she will love you more for it, trust me! take back control YOU are the Man! If she pouts, call her out on it!

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I literally have nothing to say no to lol

She never asks to see me, she doesn't ask me to buy her anything etc.

Excellent Advice Tony!

As of the OP, she is already gone dude. You need to start getting out more and become the man yo were, noone here can tell you how to be the man that you are, you already know how to be that person. You were afterall that guy once before!


Peace...

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i think the mindset in this relationship is already wrong

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Chill out, back off, but since you've gone down this road making a noise, you need to back up slowly and hopefully you can do this without her really noticing.

As said, say no, don't be there at her every whim and agree to everything she wants or does.

I'm far from a PUA but I know how to stand my ground.

As the old adage says, the one who cares less has the most control.

Chill out and quit talking so much!

(First off my suggestions are things I've learned from people and books so credit is do to a lot of people especially john Alexander's How to become and alpha male and Master your relationships by Louis Dominick Rossano)

What you must realize contrary to what society and convention tell you is that women do not want to be put on a pedestal, they want to be treated as equals. When your always available and have no boundaries as to how someone is allowed to treat you, you will be taken for granted. The mindset and reality that you need to come back to is that you are the prize and that your girlfriend or any other girl would be lucky to have you. If she doesn't want to treat you right then she can get lost. You have to be the one steering the relationship and leading your interactions. When she does things that are unreasonable call her out on it, but in a calm and collected tone of voice. People yell and scream because they feel their not in control of the situation. (Remember you are) You will make so much more stride by being nice but assertive. Also you have to use a system of punishment and reward for lack of better words. If she does nice things for you show appreciation and thank her. When she is being a bitch or unreasonable withdraw your attention from her, especially if she's using intimacy to punish and reward you. You have to put a stop to it right away. when she says no for the wrong reasons...simply say ok no problem and then put your clothes on and walk into the other room and watch tv ect. (she may threaten to leave...let her) But when she says "whats wrong?" Act as if its not big deal. "if you dont want to have sex thats ok" She will question you never let her know your upset, talk calmly. Another easy habit to fall into is showering her with lots of gifts and spending all kinds of cash on her. DONT. Make her be with you because you make her happy and add value to her life. Lastly never let her know your jealous...it only rewards her and lowers your value in her eyes. Never try to exercise dominion over her life...and when she tries to make you jealous, simply ignore it and act as though it doesn't bother you. You may feel a sense of temporary insanity but it will pass. You have to restore leadership and make your time more scarce,. People value things that are more scarce. Yes time is a commodity! Good luck my friend, I know it's easier said than done. I hope this helps. Also remember to create positive emotions, be playful, teasing, and fun...not an ass kisser

Awesome reply, Pyrrhicpearl.

Thank you Two Seconds!