so long story short, met this girl in town once. got her number then really didnt do much escalation(there was kino). txtd back and fourth for a bit, but nothing to do with attraction building, she revealed she has a kid, im cool with that - i have one too. somehow things dried up and we stopped texting. ran into her at a show where she was a promo girl. i was drunk off my face but told her that i dont have her number anymore and ill get it when i get it then left. last night i got a txt from her saying "Omg **me** its **her**. i just found ur number!! haha so now you have mine again hope all is well". u gotta believe that this girls a solid 9. how on earth do i escalate from here i dont know. i dont want this to be another boring session of txting back and fourth, and i want to build attraction now with this. she is 20 im 28. if you need more info let me know. any advise will be greatly appreciated.

Salut my friend!

I would advice to tell her to go out with you "Hey, im going out this weekend you are allow to come" or " hey Im off this weekend lucky you". That way would be easier to escalate...my friend!

You already tried the text message thing and did not work out, if you want another result don't do it again.

Bonne chance my friend!

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hey dude cheers for the reply. there's gotta be some sort of IOI in her just txting me out of the blue right? im thinkin instead of jumping the gun straight away i wanna build up the intrigue and comfort and ask her out for the weekend. so my question is what would be the ideal reply to this sort of thing? i was thinkin about bringing her kid into this and build some comfort before i pop the question. is this advisable? se txtd me last night. and i havent txtd back since :S

What did not you send her a message my friend? if she texted you, yes she interested in something!...The best way to build comfort is talking to her my friend! Letting her listen to your voice, making sure she if comfortable talking to you, by text message Im not pretty sure if you would get that.

The only problem that I have with you texting her is that you did it before and did not workout if you do it again, probably would fail just as the last time.

You don't need that! Demonstrate that you are a man. Let her know your intentions.

Don't over analyze stuff my friend. Should I text her? should I wait? should I talk about her kid? should I? Don't do that.
" To get a girl, you should be willing to lose her"

Bonne chance my friend!
Bonne chance!

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No i havent texted her yet. im Busy as it is and not really feeling creative so dont want to make a half arse effort of this. i can ring her when i get home today hopefully thats not too late. this girl is insanely outta my league.shes a model. i might be built like a tank but face probably a 2. only common thing we have is our height and a kid lol

ive narrowed down the txt to something like this

hey ****! Better again than never what have you been upto lady? hows the little man? you stayin outta trouble?

what are good topics to ask a girl on the phone? i know i have to lead the conversation, without becoming too needy or boring i want to leave a good phone impression. what are the usual topics to discuss?

What kind of model is she? is she in magazines?. Talk about modeling...wait, make her talk about modeling. I went out with a model, she used to talk about modeling all the damn time...she came to my house with her Ipad to show me all her pictures, my point is that they like to talk about their self. Try to listen and be different. Something that my model Gf told me, was that I never talked about how beautiful she was, and for some reason she liked that. Once in while compliment her in something in specific.


Something that I want you to keep in mind my friend..."Once you become common, you are invisible". Be your best, and create your own reality. When she asks you something please don't give her a bored answer.

HB: What do you do?
You: Nothing work all day, I hate my job!.

Please avoid that!

Try to send positive vibe behind your comments and be funny, if you make her laugh half battle is done!

Don't sound needy!


Bonne chance my friend!

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she's just an amateur model. shes 5"3 so not an outrageous one. but doesnt help that im not on the same level as her. i could just about picture the amount of crap id get from her friends if we were seen together but im not the type to give up. Dude thanks for the advise. will put it into action tonight and ill keep you posted on the progress

That is why you have to be cool with her friends, but that is other topic. Definitely my friend let me know if you need further help.

Bonne chance my friend!

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That is why you have to be cool with her friends, but that is other topic. Definitely my friend let me know if you need further help.

Bonne chance my friend![/quote]


hey man so the convo went ok, i let her do majority of the talking, talked about her kid, the show we were at, her work (trying to do some logistics). my offer to hangout this sat failed as shes got a party to be at and its a solid 40min drive (no i wont be doin that ) also let her know ive been in the hospital. (blood tests n shit) she was genuinely sympathizing. but she did say shes free next week wednesday and friday so i told her im going to take her out n she betta be ready. she agreed, and i also thanked her for texting me lastnight because it was genuinely nice of her to let me know in that way, esp since i was sick.

so here are things i didnt do:

-conversation was maybe for 7 mins, i made her laugh once or twice if shes been behaving.

-attraction - i fuckn have no idea still to make attraction over the phone. she seems like a naughty girl but. i was a bit worried of turnin her off n bein a creep

so its like 6 days till wednesday. what can i do to make sure things dont drop off?

and dude shot for all your help

That is why you have to be cool with her friends, but that is other topic. Definitely my friend let me know if you need further help.

Bonne chance my friend![/quote]


hey man so the convo went ok, i let her do majority of the talking, talked about her kid, the show we were at, her work (trying to do some logistics). my offer to hangout this sat failed as shes got a party to be at and its a solid 40min drive (no i wont be doin that ) also let her know ive been in the hospital. (blood tests n shit) she was genuinely sympathizing. but she did say shes free next week wednesday and friday so i told her im going to take her out n she betta be ready. she agreed, and i also thanked her for texting me lastnight because it was genuinely nice of her to let me know in that way, esp since i was sick.

so here are things i didnt do:

-conversation was maybe for 7 mins, i made her laugh once or twice if shes been behaving.

-attraction - i fuckn have no idea still to make attraction over the phone. she seems like a naughty girl but. i was a bit worried of turnin her off n bein a creep

so its like 6 days till wednesday. what can i do to make sure things dont drop off?

and dude shot for all your help [/quote]


Sorry my friend for the delay! Well keep it simple my friend,

*Don't be needy
*joke with her, make her laugh
Talk in third person, they like that.

I guess you want a relationship with this girl, so let it flow.


Once she is into you, a lot of people would tell you to ignore her and be hard to get, but you need to calibrate that. That is not my style though

Just don't be needy. She already has a kid, she does not need another one.

Bonne chance my friend.

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just a quick Q man, this had been bugging me for a bit now,the time between today(Sunday) and possibly wed, seems ages. i havent spoken to her since or sorted out the logistics of things. what can i do form here to sort out the logistics and also to build attraction till the time i meet her?

your the man dude

Salut my friend!

She told you that she went to a party, did you ask her how it went? that could be a convo topic.

Build attraction= make her want you.

text her, just to check on her.

Im going to tell you something about logistics:

I was trying to go out with a model, she liked me being spontaneous, for example I just used to call her at random hours to tell her, "hey, im going to pick her up be ready". She used to love me for that.

in the other hand, I was dating this girl, she did not like when I did that to her, she always told me to tell her at least 3 days before I take her out.

My point is that you should calibrate about logistics, since you really want this girl, just talk to her tonight, and tomorrow just confirm the date, with a statement. Dont make the mistake that I used to make always " are we still good for Wednesday?" That sounda DAMN needy. Do what you did "Im going to pick you up Wednesday, be ready"

Go into routines in the forum my friend, and you would see some stuff that you could text her, to make her laugh.

Logistics, This is what I would do:

Me:Hey, be ready I would pick you up on wednesday!
HB:ok, where are we going?
Me: do you like surprises?
HB:yes/no/Maybe
Me: this is a surprise, a little hint dont wear a skirt. lol


Girls have a big imagination.

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hey dude, so i finally gathered my balls up off the floor and texted her. the thing is i wanted to build some comfort instead of flatout asking her to come and meet me at a venue. so the text battle went like this:

Me - *her name* howzit! did *party* wreck u?

Her - hey haha noo! im strong how r u?

ME - Like hulk strong or two wines and ill take the whole party on strong? i been ok xcept its freezin n there's a big hole in my front door window after the wknd. long story. ill tell you if your lucky enough hows ya lil monsta? he behavin betta than mummy i bet?

Her - Like two wines and im taking on the whole place strong hahah. ooh no! He's goods snoring away wat about ur boy? hahaha no! he's worse than me lol

its 12.41. im gunna leve it there and text her tomorrow.


what will be a good comeback to this?

also please critique my banter with her. do you feel this is leading upto anywhere?


not gunna lie, i was nervous. this girls like a 9 at worst and im like a 4 at best. im Guido buff but it stops when it comes to the face. i have a self limiting belief that the girls hotness and my age is a massive barrier. im ok with approaching and handling situation. as a matter of fact i k-closed a solid 9 last sat.now i know people here will jump the gun and say looks dont matter but i tend to think even on a seond date things can go wrong purely on looks.wheres a good start?

and Gioo i cant thank you enough dude. if this works ima find yo ass and buy you a drink. no homo

Salut my friend!

Don't worry about the looks, you just said that you KC a HB9 last saturday. Did you have surgery? no!! you just did it looking just like you looked the last week KUDOS!!
Make sure you dress well. Im pretty sure she likes fashion, she is a model, please dress nice. Gambler has nice advices about dressing good.

A good come back for your text message:

You: Can a little kid of (whatever the age of his son is) be more dangerous than a model? I did not want to tell you this but, when I was leaving ( the day that you saw her) a old man walked by, when he looked at you he pass out. You are dangerous my lady. lol


Or make it your own, try to reflect that she is dangerous.

You could take it anywhere that you want to my friend. Keep teasing her, go out with her, be different.

Please!! she would not text you back if she was not interested, she wants to know what you have to offer.

Key my friend: "Give her something that she does not expect"


My friend if you make her comfortable she would not care if you have a big nose, or if your ears are big. Girls just want to feel comfortable.

Hot babes are the most self conscious girls. They want to feel comfortable with a guy. You got it!!

I would buy you a bottle if you pick this one!!

Bonne chance my friend!

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awesome stuff man

im still not comfortable with being too forward with her, i think its the whole scenario of loosing her (AFC+1itis kicking in there). but im gunna stop giving too much of a shit and move on...we have to be willing to loose girls to get girls right?

my reply to her today was

Me- yeah **My sons name** is good, just had a phone conversation with him where he invited me to wipe his but after potty. great...i was wandering when that call may come.... Quick q, u a wine or a cocktail sorta girl?

been two hours ago when i sent it and still there's no reply. im not too bothered about her reply. its just failure that's getting under my skin. then again she txted me at 12 last night, and i left it for 15 hours to reply back lol

also ive been told to lay of fthe baby talk with her unless she brings it up. ill be honest its a bit of a down buzz for me coz im going through some stuff with my baby and his mum, is this generally a good idea? personally i think too much baby talk and ill be in the friendzone for good