Yesterday I was standing on train platform as all seats were occupied and there was a cute girl sitting on seat with her friend next to her(I am 19) .I tried to get eye contact with her,but she avoided.So I didn't look at her more.After some time her friend got up and I went to sit next to this girl.I started reading a book and decided not to give her any attention.I looked up after some time and saw that her friend was back and was smiling at her.She(cute girl) said to her friend in hindi : 'she won't come today,lets go to institute' but kept sitting and her friend held her by hand to make her stand up and go with her.They went to platform on the same floor and I wasn't able to see her now.After some time they came back in my sight and were looking at me,giggling a bit.The cute girl turned to her friend and said smilingly something like : 'he is looking' Then they again went out of my sight towards the same platform.Few moments later they again were standing in my sight and I could see she was pretty into me.I was deciding to approach her and although I had no fear of approach but the only thing in my mind I would come off as needy leaving my seat and going upto her.The next thing they did was taking a lift to upper floor,this means the whole time she was standing there for me! cool i thought,but again I felt bad not approaching her.

So here this girl was clearly into me but I had no way to approach her(I had random girls before but those were situations in which she was near me and I had not to walk upto her).


What should I have done without coming off as weirdo? Could it have worked if I had followed her down and said : 'hi,I just saw you there and thought you were cute' kind of stuff ?

^^ true that

you should of opened with this

why do you keep looking at me?

and your in the set

Soncheese x

Approach man!

I been meeting women all week long, My approach skill must be 90% LOL?
I met this cute woman from India at college, we chatted for a few minutes.

Please note that Indian girls(atleast those who live in India) are a bit more conservative plus this was a highly public situation,so think I should not be too upfront with her and go direct like saying 'hi,you are cute' as opener.Because,Even if she would have admired my courage deep inside,she would not have responded favorably coz I was being too direct in a public place.


Second problem for me generally about approaching at public places.What if she creates a scene there and people gather and I get,you know,beaten up!


So whats the best not-so-direct way to walk upto her and run the game? Asking for directions have worked for me but I don't like asking directions when I already know.I want to find a way out while being true to my intentions.

this is social conditioning, as well as you backwards rationalizing your anxiety (reguardless of if there is merit behind it or not), if you had no fear of approach, you would have simply approached, any other excuse is just a backwards rationalization for the anxiety were feeling at that time

will people really randomly kick your ass for giving a girl a compliment?, do you think a girl would become spiteful and want to hurt you for saying something positive to her?

you know there were two guys that were from india that used to visit this forum that I got to speak with, one was a huge advocate of direct game and used to write a thread on text game, the other was just starting out and was using direct game, both of them never mentioned anything about being beat up, but both did talk about it being conservative and one wrote a few lay reports, and the other was asking for help on sticking points as he was regularily going out and practicing, no mention of death via compliment, but there was mention of sex via compliment

I can not say something bad won't happen to you for sure without any doubt at all, as I am not from india, but I personally have never once had a girl cause a scene or become angry at me for telling her she was cute, and it is not exactly social norm here to be approaching women either, nor is it really in any other place that I have visited (for the most part, in my country, most guys don't approach at all, ever), and that is the whole point, you want to do something that no one else is comfortable doing, and remain confident while doing it

if there was some secret way that being a pussy would demonstrate confidence and get you laid, every pussy would be having less trouble with women, confidence is universal, reguardless of social norms in your culture, women will be attracted to confident and secure guys

you should de-tach from the outcome of getting the girl and needing a positive reaction, just be happy that you can freely tell girls how you feel, or at least approach them anyways and gradually build some comfort up with the girl until you feel safe showing your intentions, be happy that you actually approached the girl instead of doing nothing, that is real success, doing what you want and not allowing fear or anxiety to limit you

you will not get girls by avoiding talking with them

GOOD LUCK

Thanks pumpington,I badly needed a call for action.

So next question : how would you have approached this girl in the situation? Lets rewind it back to the point when I was standing in front of her and saw her for first time,how would you have taken it from this point?

if it was me in your situation, I would have just said hi and let the conversation fall where it may

that's the beauty of socializing, it can take you anywhere, and where it takes you isn't too important, but the act it's self can be a very rewarding fun experience, and it can all start with a simple hi, how are you

if you have reached a high level of comfort with talking to people, eventually you can just express yourself better without approval as your primary motivation, it is not to get something, you just socialize and express how you feel, for the sake of doing so, rather then to get anything in return, good reaction, bad reaction, all the same, you just do it, because you might as well meet a new person and see what they are like, they could be amazing, they could be terrible, you will never know until you break the ice, and walking into the unknown is exciting

you don't have to tell girls you think they are cute, or make obscene comments or anything, but when you actually do think they are cute and you tell them, hoooh boi, feels good, it is like freedom, telling the truth when it is hard to tell the truth is like a giant weight lifted from you, reguardless of reactions, it's like kicking your own anxiety right in the balls every time you overcome it

GOOD LUCK