Hi, yesterday I met for the first time a very pretty and intesting 25 years old girl. I saw her profile on a website for sports and outdoor fans. We went hiking for a few hours and after that I told her that I'm hungry so why not go dinner? She said yes so we spent a total of 6h30 hours together.

When we left, she told me she wants to do other activities with me and yesterday night she sent me a facebook invitation. I am letting things go slowly and naturally because I don't want to act needy. But the good thing is that she reply fast when I send her an email. We are planning to do something else together in a week.

Do you have some suggestions about what to do and what not to do?

Hi,

Despites her quick answers let time roll in cruise-mode as you said it correctly.
Show that you have a life besides her. And when you are with her try to giver her quality time so she can miss and think about you later.

She seems to like sports, outdoor right? So... why not to plan with her an outdoor activity, with adventure and adrenaline as main ingredients?
Then, after that wonderfull and quality time, i would avoid having a (expected?) dinner with her. Why? To show her that i have own my life and other people. But i would try to set a date at night, at a bar, with drinks and dance as main ingredients! ;-D

Then ________________

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Lusitan PUA

«I love women. I have all their albums.»

Yes, I will try to look busy by having lots of activities without her also.

She loves outdoor sports. I invited her next week for a day at a lake. She is afraid of water so I invited her to go sea kayaking and a little bit of swimming at the end. I tought about trying to learn her how to swim. If she's afraid, she will come closer to me and increase the kino.

I personnally don't like to go in club and dance. I don't know for her but I don't think she's that kind of girl also.

Thanks for your advice lusitanpua.

eh, eh

ok james bond, best luck!

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Lusitan PUA

«I love women. I have all their albums.»

But do you think it's a good idea to try to learn her how to swim because she will propably stay in contact with me all the time?

Hum...

Sorry man, but personally i don't think is a good idea. Why? Because if she doesnt know how to swim and you'll invite her to teach her... come on, 1+1=2, she will find easily that you are hitting (explicitily) on her cause no one learns how to swim so fast eh eh... .-P

Hum... I would try to find other (exciting) activity that avoids water.
But that's my opinion of course.
And then, without expecting it, rapport and connection will increase 4sure between you two and the rest will happen naturally.

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Lusitan PUA

«I love women. I have all their albums.»

Good point so I will try to be careful with that. I'm going to see her tomorrow. We are going to spend all day in a park and do some kayaking and swimming. We will have picnic for lunch so it will be a great day but I have to tell you that I'm a little nervous even if she told me yesterday on the phone that she can't wait for tomorrow. It's just that I don't know yet if she sees me as a friend or a potential boyfriend.

Any tip about that?

Do some minor kino escalation and find out. If the opportunity presents itself for you to lead her somewhere take her by the hand and see how long/tight she holds on. If her grip is loose, let go.

Finally, I saw her yesterday and it was great. We had a good time together but I'm not sure she sees me as a potential boyfriend because she told me that her breakup was recent (less than two months I think).

I haven't been able to kino escalate except when we were taking pictures of us together and at the end when I kissed her on the cheeks.

She's very pretty, friendly and we laughed a lot. When I look at her facebook profile it seems that she lacks confidence and that she's not the most popular girl because I saw a few of her posts unanswered even if she has around 190 facebook friends. She told me that she thinks she's dull and I told her that she's not.

I would like to push this relation to a second level, the boyfriend-girlfriend level. The only thing is that I don't know if she'e willing to start a new relation with me now and I don't know if it's her or her boyfriend that broke up but my little finger is telling me that it's him.

So guys, what do you think? Don't forget that I'm 41 and she will turn 26 in a few weeks.

Next time get her to kiss you on the cheek for the pictures 'just for fun'. Make an overly silly/stupid face for the first one, show it to her and say something along the lines of 'Oh, look at that, you were making a weird face. We're going to have to retake that one'

Very good tip! Thank you Chiasmata

Finally I think I'm losing her interest. I will try to not contact her very often to act like I'm very busy and wait if she contacts me first. And like I said, her breakup is very recent so she's maybe not interested in a relationship right now. Maybe the age difference make her think that a friendship is possible between the two of us but not a relationship.

Who knows? I think I'm over-analysing this situation. What do you think?

I just sent her an invitation for another outdoor activity this friday. I'm waiting for her answer but at the same time I'm approaching other girls because I don't want to wait for her and act needy in any way.

The girl just replied. She's not available for friday but she opens a door telling me to call her if I go at a certain place. She would like to join me then.

What do you think? I think it's a good start that she open a possibility for a new activity.

Nice

I was at a box store today and some 40+ year old was hitting on me x.X She was like 210 though.. If 115-140 I woulda talked.

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It is not AA that scares me or affects me anymore, its leading a conversation forward and keeping her interested. AA is nothing.