So the other week my friend came down to my city and we went to the mall to practice pick-up. We did direct pick-up. We each did 10 approaches. The first approach scared the living hell out of me. I was shaking so bad. I pretty much just went up to her, stopped her, and told her she was the cutest girl I've seen in the last 15 minutes, and then after she smiled and said thanks I got the hell out of there lol. The rest of the approaches got stupid easier. No, unfortunately I didn't get any numbers, but 10 approaches and 5 hours later I couldn't believe that meeting women was this easy. All I needed was some more practice. We did a few more approaches the next days, but still no numbers.

My problem is that I can't get past the small talk and I freak out and bail. Its a work in progress. Any advice?

Well done at approaching 10 sets man! Im also new to this. But what i would have done was to find out something thats interesting about her that she might do in her spare time that you could also join or already like to do. Then say "we should meet up and have a game of such and such", she will hopefully agree, then get her phone number and arrange a date, but make yourself available only at certain times not all the time. But hey im only just starting and havent had enough practice to know this for sure, but thats how i will do it when i try. Good luck dude!
I'd like to hear what a master would do. Would be educational. Anyone?

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Dellsonic,

Cheers, good for you approaching 10 women in 5 hours.. That's quite an accomplishment I might say for starters..

Focus more on your openers and be confident about it. Blend a mixture of cocky and funny, trust me, they'll be interested..

TAKE YOUR TIME.. Remember, calm yourself down when your talking to women and don't rush the conversation.. Your not in a race/competition so don't worry, there's no first place.

Learn to accept rejection.. Its ok to be rejected by random women if you approach, because your in a place of learning and gaining more experience day by day. PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT When the time comes (assuming your developing well and consistent), I'm pretty sure it'll be like 'Taking a candy from a baby'.

All the best on your journey, just keep on going...

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It is definitely something to work on: being more playful (aka cocky and funny).

I've just never been that kind of person when I first meet people, but I guess if I can be that way around people I know I can learn to be it around people I don't.

I definitely agree on not being to available, and if you can make a date or something you should definitely go for it, but its definitely not necessary. It just can't always be done.

Also, one girl I approached was working at Yogurt Vi near my college campus. I asked for her number (it was a little too early in the interaction for it but whatever) and she said, "Its against policy to give my number out at work, but you should come back some other time." I'm being bullshitted on this, correct? I mean even if it is against policy she totally could have given me the digits or some type of contact info if she really wanted to keep in contact. Maybe she was getting into me but just wasn't quite at that comfort level yet? Just wanted your thoughts on this. My friend said he's heard of this type of policy before.

Sorry, my mistake..

It's for you Inorganic.. Sorry Dellsonic :s

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Inorganic,

Just like you shouldn't rush conversation, don't rush your learning curve. Relax. Doing approaches like that is a great step. Calm down and give yourself some time to just get very very comfortable with those. In the meantime, start visualizing being in those situations and have at least a few things in your back pocket to pull out.

Games are always great. Learn a few of those fun types of games and you can always just say after a few minutes "You seem like a fun person. I've been wanting to try this thing I learned with someone. Will you play for a minute?"

Then do any of them. There are lots of them people share on here. Games are fantastic because people relax and let go and open up in a way they might otherwise not.

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