Getting rejected is one thing but what I fear more than anything is success, even a kiss-close. Then the girl will likely find out I am fraud because I am not a good kisser. I've thought about paying for sex just to get it out of my system.

Look man kissings lika anything else you can learn it through expierence or learning it the internet teaches how to do everything these days.

no one is perfect and pratics makes perfect. if you are really a bad kisser there's only one solution to improve. practice.
I vaguely remember when I started kissing and I didn't have much experience. It was a mess.
And that wasn't a problem at all. I would make fun of it and let the girls teach me. And they would love to teach.

I transformed that handicap into something good.
Also perception is everything.

If you are really bad and you don't tell it then the girl will feel "wtf that's weird [and bad]"
if you are really bad and tell her "hey... I really like you but I've somekind of a problem, I known you like me but I'm not perfect and the truth is that I'm a very bad kisser" then you would kiss her and she would feel "meh... it wasn't so bad, we can work that out"

or if you only have inner game issues and you are not REALLY bad or if you are just below average you could also say "girls always love to kiss me, don't known why but I'm always told I'm a great kisser" and then you would kiss her and it would be below average and you could complain about her "it seams you are not very good" and she would think you are great that she has a problem.

what the ''bad kisser'' term means? It's all in experience. And until then if you're not sweating girl all over her face you're fine. And those little tricks that makes of you a great kisser you'll master quickly.
Just relax, try not to sweat all over her and you'll be fine.

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Hey Scubadiver,

I'm pretty sure that you are suffering from a blind spot in your inner game.

A blind spot is a fear or feeling of inadequacy that you don't even know that you have because you avoid those situations alltogether or (like in your case) give it a new name.

What I mean is that you say you fear "success," but that's not really true, its just what you're telling yourself to avoid the pain of having to admit another fear that, when confronted will make you feel less masculine.

Fact of the matter is that you, like all people love success, BUT, if you do experience the success of opening a girl and getting her attracted to you, then you will be forced to deal with the "problem" of "having" to kiss her.

You don't fear success.

Kissing a girl, that's what you fear.

So, first of all, be honest to yourself and admit that you have a problem and that your problem is that you have no experiences to positively reinforce your belief in your ability to kiss a girl.

Also, if you are afraid to kiss a girl because don't have any experience with it, I'll go as far as to assume that you have even less experience with having intercourse with women. Maybe you're a porn star, but I am just going to say that that will probably be the next "fear of success" that you run into.

Now onto the next step, what I call the "Three-Billion-Rule"

There are three billion female humans on the Earth and more are being born every day.

That's a very large pool of test subjects for you to hone your social and sexual skills on.

How did you get good at opening? You did the best you could with the knowledge and experience you had at the time and, whenever you did anything that worked well, you tried to repeat it, whereas whenever you did anything that didn't work, you tried not to repeat it.

If you tried to approach a girl and it didn't work, you didn't sweat it. You learned something that you can use for the rest of your life and still had 2,999,999,999 other women who you still haven't yet approached, so it was a gain in knowledge with absolutely no calcuable loss in potential sex partners for you.

Do the same with closing.

Go for the number, kiss or sex as well as you can with the experience and knowledge you have and, if it works, great! Remember what you did that worked so well so you can use it in the future.

If it doesn't work, that's also great! Remember what you did that didn't work so well so you can avoid doing that in the future and remember -- you still have 2,999,999,999 women with whom you haven't "blown it."

Bottom line is this, you're not a "bad kisser," you're just an "inexperienced kisser."

First of all, how do you even know that you're so bad at kissing if you've never done it?

And second, how do you expect to get "better," aka. "more experienced" at kissing a girl if you don't just jump in and start doing the best you can?

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Hello,

Cheers for the responses. I appreciate I am probably fooling myself but I have had very few positive reinforcing or life affirming events in my life.

As much as I hear girls don't rate appearance as much as blokes think they do, I still struggle (I've even thought of therapy). I have french-kissed only once in my life. The other thing is that I have been on dating websites for a few years. Because I am not naturally confident I don't know how to sound confident in a profile. I won't ramble on about my past because that won't get me very far.

Last week I decided to post a reasonably honest message on Craigslist.
I had two replies from girls in their mid-twenties.

I replied to one of them who lives an hour away from me. We were in the process of arranging to meet up but that was as far as it got. I even emailed her my mobile / cell number but I don't think she has that much access to computers.

The other girl says she is a foreign exchange student in the UK for the summer. I replied to her but have not yet received a reply back.

'Fear of Success' ultimately resides in the unconscious. Unlike the Fear of Rejection and Fear of Failure, 'Fear of Success' is a worthiness issue based on faulty programming.

This faulty programming creates your core beliefs.

Your core beliefs determine your expectations.

In order to solve this, realize that you fear success comes from fearing the unknown. Personally, I believe you can try self-hypnosis or hypnosis to resolve the issue. Of course there are other approaches to remedy it.

In addition, naturalhypnosis(dot)com is a great website...try the 'Fear of Success' track.

Also, don't pay for sex, you don't really appreciate things when they come too easily...and taking the easy way out will condition your mind to
seek an easy way out' in the future as well...thus making you avoid challenges.

And...avoiding challenges will become a challenge in and of itself! LoL

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