Setting:
USA Florida, I just graduated High School a month ago, So me and my "girl" have been dating for 3 months, and have been official for 1 2/5 months.

Situation:
So First I want to bring you in on what kinda girl I'm dealing with, this girl is independent, has a job, just got her car recently, and has been with older guys in the past that have their shit together, fresh outta high school Im trying to get a job, just got my learners lic. and going for the full lic. soon.

I was really looking forward for this to be an LTR. In the beginning we were really strong, going to each others Proms, texting every day, and then... school ended

At first all was well cause we could see each other after school, but now instead we just started seeing each other ONCE a week, cause of her freakin JOB, and on that time she had to BABYSIT her siblings, so we couldn't really see each other as much as wanted, and I couldn't really blame her.

Point is I told her that she needed to put in more effort or I'd break up with her, a bit more than a week, and the less effort by her happened again so I called her out...

So because of the fact that we've been seeing each other once a week with company 2x in a row, and the fact we've started fighting regularly I came to see her and talk to her on that and the fact that she started putting in less effort in again. So when I came to talk to her, long story short we ended up saying "basically":

GF: She started saying she had lost her "sparks" for me

Me: (Of course cause of all the time we haven't had together) I said to her, This happened once before, on our month anniversary 2 weeks ago, what if we could fix it like last time with a 1 on 1 where kino & kissing could be the cure again.

GF: And she said, Sure why not but even if that did fix it, witch I doubt cause, sure I'm attracted to you physically, but (this part killed me) -EMOTIONALLY- I'm just not there anymore. Anyways I also just feel like, I'm too busy for a relationship now, with collage coming & everything else...

We then decided to do that one final date, but then she said after that "she'll see" (if afterwards the date brings back the sparks or not ), so then I told her to not do me any favors, I said "if she felt like she did not like me anymore, then whats the point, that's defeating the final's date purpose already", so then I said "we'll just have to break up"

And just like that we mutually broke up.

GF: And then she said "I still like you though, I just don't see us in a relationship, I still want to see you now and then, talk to you maybe hang out in the future"

Me: "No, how could I just hang around as a friend, the wouldn't be fair to me beacuse looking into the past I would never progress into a new relationship"

Conclusion:
It's been a few days since that, and I want her back. I've always wanted her, I think that the reason we broke up is dumb, it isn't a legitimate reason and is something that could have been avoided, but now I'm the only one that cares about fixing it.. I just know if we had our 1 on 1 with out the worry of her job, her curfew, and siblings she deep down would still feel the same way again.

Conclusion Conclusion:
How do a restore the emotional connection I lost? & how can I get my "new ex" back!?

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Stop all contact, freeze her out, do at minimum a soft NEXT!

She does not have the golden pussy!

Take the mindset "I don't needs this shit, I can get all the pussy I need without HER"!

Chat up some other girls.....NOW!

Maybe she'll come crawling back......so!

Abundance is there for you Bro!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Just replace her with another who appreciates you!

All girls are replaceable but most never accept it until they find the next one.

You do not need this type of shit!

Aim to hit 3-4 chicks in the next Month.

I've read all three of your posts. And there's only one question that comes in my mind:

Why didn't you fuck her yet?



She told you she's been with "men". And from what I know, a real "man" wouldn't stick around for too long if she wouldn't fuck him. If I was you, I'd forget about everything else and just focus on fucking her good.

Like 60 year of challenge said, sexual connection is the source of all connection.

Fuck a girl good and she will stick around for way longer than if you do anything else.


Are you still a virgin? If not, you should know that you always have a different connection with a girl that you already fucked versus a girl that you never fucked.

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

@MrMatt: Yeah I'm a virgin but Na I get you, though I know she's a virgin too cause I've tried going all the way before and she's denied me sayin it was too soon, and shes told me before that that's why her other relationship didn't work, cause they eventually wanted that too. That's why she's been single for so long.

Like we've gone all the way to the door step of 3rd base (Which for me is, 1st Base hold hands/kiss, 2nd Base make out/feel up shit, & 3rd Base oral sex, And lastly Home run)

I might just freeze her out and move on for now, cause you can't really do anything with out losing value at this moment.

But I still want hear more peoples opinions, so thx everyone & keep em coming, I need the insight.

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