1.) Time spent together
FB - Once a week.
MLTR - Once a week. Maybe occasionally twice. If you're seeing her any more often, then you're either not serious about being polyamorous or you have far too much free time. Invest in yourself.
LTR - However often you want, but make sure you dedicate plenty of time to yourself! Have activities that let you interact with other women. Don't let your LTR be your only source of affection/validation.

2.) Communication
FB - Sex ONLY. Ideally you want her initiating most of the time. If you find yourself chasing her too much, Next her.
MLTR - You should communicate a little less often than she does, but don't get in a habit of ignoring her too often (unless you Next her). DO cut off threads of conversation that go on too long or enter into LTR territory. If she doesn't get the hint, zero radio silence for a couple days. Reconnect like nothing's wrong.
LTR - However often but make sure there are times when you are unreachable (because of hobbies/work).

3.) Sharing personal info
FB - Don't answer personal questions, except where they effect her directly (STDs etc.). She is not your girlfriend!
MLTR - When sharing personal info, do it in small doses. Always leave her hungering for more.
LTR - Make sure you're constantly developing yourself, so that there's always something new to share with her. Avoid being held accountable for every aspect of your life.

4.) Don't talk about the other women you're fucking, except abstractly or via rich descriptions. No matter how cool she seems to be about polyamory, don't talk about who else you're fucking (unless it's a sexual fetish for her).

5.) Non-sex time
FB - Don't hang out with her outside of the bedroom. If you run into her, treat her like you would any other woman. Onlookers should not be able to tell that you're fucking her. No dates!
MLTR - A "date" counts as time spent together, as pertains to rule 1. Most dates should end in sex. If she withdraws sex (for no good reason), Next her for at least a week. If she does it again, Next permanently.
LTR - Make sure you keep fucking her regularly and often. If EITHER of you reduces the sex, Next her.

6.) Frame - Maintain the same frame as when you met her. Every time you change your frame because of her, you are SPAM your power. If you develop one-itis, Next and GFTOW. Here are some example frames:

FB: "I'm a badboy who loves sex. The ONLY guarantee you'll get from me is tons of hot orgasms."
MLTR: "I love women. They are amazing creatures. When I'm with you, I'm with YOU. As long as you treat me well I will be very generous. But if you EVER take me for granted or give me any bullshit, I will move on. I will only be with you as long as it's immensely positive for BOTH OF US."
LTR: "I am the captain of this ship. I have a mission in life, and have chosen for you to be the woman to support me. In exchange I promise our lives together will be amazing. You know as well as I do that I can easily meet an equally wonderful woman who'd enjoy this adventure with me, so you'll have to prove to me every day that you are worth it. As long as that's the case I will never take you for granted and I will perform my manly duty to the fullest."

Notice how each frame is incompatible with certain types of relationships. One, HAVE a frame. Two, STICK to it.

7.) Monogamy
FB - If she asks for monogamy, Next her. Do NOT upgrade to MLTR in this case; it is a steep and slippery slope.
MLTR - If she demands monogamy, Next her. If she talks about it abstractly, deal with like you would a shit test.
LTR - Monogamy must be clearly stated. Hold one another accountable for the rules that are in place. This means that if you fuck up and she calls you on it, you have to THANK her for it. Any other reaction (arguing) will cause you to lose power and will hurt the relationship.

8.) Fuck her good and hard. Hot sex is the most vital aspect of ANY relationship with a woman. Many problems stem from lack of sex, and can be resolved by good sex.

9.) Make sure she's holding up her end of the relationship. "Put her to do things for you" (cr. Franco). Make sure she's investing at least as much into it as you do, preferably more. If she ever drops the ball, next her.