Short and simple: I don't make excuses, but I don't find anything motivational about getting a lot of women (NO HOMO). It'd be great but I don't see how that could ultimately benefit me in the future.

The site has good info but I've been criticized more than I've been given advice.
Usually people on and off these forums say "Dude, you creeped her/them out"
or "That was a very creepy thing to do/say" or "You should've done this instead.".

Honestly I don't think I'm cut out for this. Signs are pointing me to a bad direction.


So by Friday night I'm going to delete my account. I only have myself to blame, and that's why it hurts.

For those who did try to help, I'll give you my thanks, but something tells me this is going to end up the same way.

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You miss every shot you don't take.

Honestly, stop adopting this victim mindset. What you thought this was going to be rainbows and joy all the time? How many times can you get hit before you get out of the ring?? How much are you going to let other people dictate how you should live your life or what should you say/do to women? I'll be honest with you...95% of people on this forum are real real bullshit. People have less than even 500 sets under their belt which is not a lot...and they come here saying "do this do that". Why are you listening to fucking people who don't go out and stay in front of their computer all day??? Delete this account..and go out! GO OUT! Stop being the victim. You can either bitch about your problems or put on some gloves and get in the fucking ring and stay till you die. You either get success or die. No other choice, no possibility for failure. Only patience, dedication and faith that you'll achieve what you want. That's it. Go out for 6 months at least 2 times each week and tell me you haven't become better than before...even if you're not laying, you will see improvement and you will see that it is possible. The only thing that stops you from success is yourself! You're listening to other idiots! You're taking opinions and take them personally! You're creating an identity that doesn't exist based on the reactions of other people and how girls respond to you. Stop searching to be validated. Seriously, be careful with your decision. This is about becoming a complete man...you can either live the life of a rockstar or regret it in 10 years from now that you gave up. Your choice

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Greatness is never borned

neediness and incongruence can be described as creepy, as long as you are needy and incongruent with what you are doing it will be creepy

there is no way to become less needy or more congruent without change, change will not happen in the future it can only happen within your daily habits, if you didn't go meet new girls today, you probably won't go meet new girls tomorrow, if you went out today and didn't approach, the next time you go out, you probably won't approach, if you went out today and approached but didn't project your intentions or escalate, chances are you won't do it tomorrow either

change the habits, change who you are, it takes discipline and effort, just take it one step at a time, one habit at a time

one of the staples of the community is non-reactivity and finding who you are, once you are aware of who you are you can remain centered, if you are reacting to those around you all the time, you do not have a clear idea of what your identity is

you have to fully challenge your normal comfort level and change, expecting different results while repeating the same process is insanity

change is one of the hardest things to do, it is why fat people don't go to the gym, it is why guys who are socially awkward at 20, seem to turn out socially awkward at 40

this is your life and it is ending day by day, what you choose to do with it will really only directly effect you

if you want to give up, that is fine, just know nothing will change by living in comfort, if you can just accept the pain and hardships and know who you are, truly know that you are who you are, when someone challenges your own inner idea of who you are, it won't effect you, because you can remain solid and certain in your belief of who you are

if you don't think you are cut out for this, then you won't be, but nothing will change, no one will make it easy for you, you either sink or swim, you absolutely can do this, just like any guy can absolutely do this, but if you choose to do it or not is only your decision in the end, if you have trouble meeting girls now and don't make an effort to set goals for yourself around improving, then you probably will have just as much trouble in the future, and you still will not be setting goals and trying to improve, it is easy to become complacent, and it is hard to change, but you know what... life is hard man, get over it, you will not make it out alive, and what you do when you are alive is up to you

of coarse you can't adopt a new habit and be proficient in that habit immediately, you will require practice to grow, think about professional skateboarders, how many times do you think tony hawk had to fall and smash his shit up before he was actually able to land his first kickflip?, how many times do you think he ate shit and went to the hospital just to learn something new and grow?

when you start out, yeah, of coarse doing some incongruent shit while you are all needy for approval and validation will turn out bad for you, for the start you will just be that ''creepy guy at the bar/mall'' hitting on chicks with absolutely no resolve or certainty, but eventually, that creep starts to make profound realizations through experience and practice, and one day instead of being the creep, he becomes the pimp (or more realistically achieves the goals he has set for himself)

GOOD LUCK

My friend ,a few years back we all felt the same way.

Perfection takes time.

I'm not going to write a long motivational message trying to explain to you what you're throwing away.

I'm simply going to tell you that YOU ARE CUT out for it.
There's a reason your genes survived.

Just give it time. Pretty soon you'll be the biggest alpha there is.