My friend is 28 and was engaged to his fiance. They have been together 8 years.

She is only 25 so its pretty much been both of their adult lives together.

Well she sent him a text message on sunday saying it was over. She refuses to meet up with him and wont give her reasons for ending it.

He is understandably heart broken, they were due to marry this fall.

He said she recently came back from a holiday to with her friends. I am putting 2 and 2 together and assuming she has cheated. I didnt say this to him for fear of hurting him.

What makes it worse is he says he trusts her and doesnt think she cheated.

How can I talk some sense into this guy?! He stopped texting her (he says) today... I've told him to freeze her out completely unless she gives her reasons or agrees to meet him in person. And also told him to get out there and have some fun and make sure pictures end up on facebook of him having a good time.


Sound advice I think...but should I tell him she has likely cheated?

I've no idea what she did but I'll say that this will fuck him up for a while!!

I was with a girl for 6 months just and she pulled the same stunt except there was no "it's over" message. She just suddenly stopped responding. I thought something had happened her so I went to her house and she just looked out the window then pulled the curtains. I never got one response out of her and the lack of reason and clousure hurt more than anything. I never got mad, I never texted her after apart from two times to say that a reason would be the mature thing to give me! She was 27...

I feel for him! If she doesn't give him the reason then you should try and find out and let him know. That would of helped me a lot and quickened my recovery.

Hmmm he has people closer to him than I am that will probably be probing for answers. I think he confided in me because although were not especially close I can keep a secret and we do counsell each other on things pretty often.

I really do think she has either cheated, or saw her friends acting in the single way and thought she wanted some of that kinda life still.

Its probably a bonus for him in a way, better to find out now than in September after he gets hitched to her.

Wow those girls should get shot in the face, breaking up over a fucking text? That's just sad especially if you know shes 25.

Off-course he is fucked up by this and that bitch should burn in hell for pulling a stunt like that, where are the morals and respect?

Just do fun things with him and don't think you can help him by saying stuff, only healer is time and i reckon he needs at least a few months before he can move on from this.

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why don't you bring him into the world of pick up. He will probably start to realize all the mistakes he made to make her cheat. He most likely became no challenge or beta/boring etc. Being a pua changes your perspective of women and you are not as attached. It will also make him more confident and secure due to being able to communicate better with women and being able to pick up beautiful women on short notice if something doesn't workout.

...What she did will probably scar him good depending how fragile he is. At least he has no kids and didnt marry her. Emphasize on the positives when talking to him.

Wow, well this thread is fun. o.O

Is there any chance that SHE has found something that has made her believe that he has cheated on her? Something that had made her really mad, so mad that she can't bring herself to talk to him.

Text her with the message "is it because I said you were getting too fat?"