So I was thinking guys, let us share some good openers to get the interest sparking at the girls who are waiting in line with you at the bar.

One I have used a couple of times standing there in line noticing the cute girl standing next to me, is to order whatever she orders or something similar ( there is almost always something that is cheap and popular and unique at different bars) and then go like:

Me: Do you really like to drink that stuff * while smiling*
Her: yeah, I really like this stuff...
Me: I really think it's gross!
Her: Haha, well aren't you drinking exactly the same right now?

And then the frame is set. It is a cocky/funny neg with a lot of humour and self-irony involved.

Well guys, share yours! How do you spark the interest in the girl standing next to you at the bar?

I like how you say "the frame is set". That's exactly what an opener should do, open the set and establish the frame. That's why the opinion openers and situational openers work so well, two people that don't know each other just having a simple fun conversation with the frame being something innocent but of course having that special something that can spark curiosity.

I think a good frame for meeting women at bars or even little coffe shops is just not to take it seriously. Don't get down on yourself if you don't get a number. Only pros should do that lol. Instead act as if your just trying to make someones day give lots of compliments and be a chill guy, but at the same time be Solid. Use solid game and conversational skills to make her day, have that be the goal instead of getting her number. What do you guys think?

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aiden k. baker

I think you are totaly right! Setting the frame is a really good start, which is also why I am not a big fan of negs without being followed by a big smile. Not too serious, as you said.

I was just searching for creative things to set the frame when your standing and ordering drinks... You know, a lot of time can be spent in the line waiting

Hmm maybe you can ask what someones favorite drink is then transition into a joke about how your ex drank half a pint of that one time and ended up throwing up by the garbage dumpster outside, only until you came and eventually helped her sober up or whatever. Im only 20 and I haven't been to too many bars. But simply having something interesting to say will put you in a better position than most guys there lol. I also think the best way to set the frame is being seen with lots of hot chicks too. That should take care of almost half of it! ( the attraction I mean.) So if you don't have a bunch of hot chicks tell a story ( and make it a good one, work out all the kinks before) of how you came here with a bunch of cool people one time and you guys all had a blast, be sure to insert in names of girls and just one crazy thing that you did with one of the girls. That would be a cool opener!

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aiden k. baker

In bars, it can get pretty crowded when trying to order. The opener that has worked best for me is to stand next to a HB trying to get to the bar as well, say "No no you're doing it all wrong", grab her hand/wrist/forearm and raise it in the air saying "This is how it's done, you can't be shy!" or "Like this, you have to get their attention!" or whatever, it doesn't really matter, but you do grab her attention and get some kino.

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Make sure your target is at the bar before you and then muscle your way in next to her. Lean over and say "Excuse me, you better not be pushing in here...there's a que you know!"

Say this in the right way and you've got instant banter....let them get served first though, have to be a gentleman afterall!

You do have to choose a target and actually approach put some heart in it walk in and initiate like a man. ERock I would say you are correct, how would you transition and keep her attention from there?

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aiden k. baker

I never had any pre liners but I found alot of success by not only getting introduced to girls but also getting drinks alot quicker

I would tap the girls shoulder who was already at the bar (If it's busy) and would ask her to get a drink for me and give her the money. Once she had gotten my drink I would say something like 'you don't think i'm easy because I let you buy me a drink do you?' and just natural it from there.

I was more focused on skipping the line and getting a beer then talking to the chicks mostly though. And it can be hit and miss sometimes.

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