So my roommate (and wing) keeps telling me I'm pair-bonding. I've been seeing this girl for a couple of weeks after gaming her really well one night. Shes an HB8 and I enjoy spending time with her. But, I still want to stay in the game. I've also been seeing another HB8 and am starting up with an HB7 and its kind of getting to me. I feel guilty because my primary keeps telling me I'm such a nice guy and what not and inevitably shes going to want to make things exclusive. At any rate, I need some outside opinion as to how to handle things in terms of inner and outer game. How to cope with feeling like an asshole and how to tell her I don't want to be "exclusive" while still dating her.

You tell her just that. You don't want to be exclusive at this point in your life. Hey, girls do it to guys all the time. There's nothing wrong with doing it to girls. You're not being an asshole by telling her that. You're just being upfront, which is a good thing.

It sounds to me though, as if the first one is putting you in the LJBF zone, since she keeps telling you you're a nice guy.

Trust me, we aren't "just friends". I should have elaborated further. We've hooked up several times and she is really into me. She dated a few "assholes" in her life according to her. So she often mentions how the reason she likes me is because I'm not an ass. Anyways, good advice though. I have to realize I'm not doing anything wrong.

oh I know what this is (dont quote me on it though its just my strong opinion)


She can still see through you as you are quite newbie to the game.

She knows full well that you are looking at other women as maybe you scan the room when you are with her. She is gaming you back.

She is manipulating your feelings and causing you to feel guilty, that is the reasons behind the "you are such a nice guy" stuff. She's probably wants to stop you seeing other girls. Its manipulation just ignore it.


And KEEP GAMING lol ive seen this wayyyy too many times befoire, only for it to turn round that the girl was going behind my back, cheating, getting my "mates" to spy on me,


Other forms of this are:-

"Where have you been all my life"
"I dont know what i would do without you"
"Im so lucky to have you"
"I love you" (like randomly when she knows you are going out lol)

Simcity is correct.

Do not let her hold you back from what you want in your life, by her making you feel guilty about things that have happened in her past. If you're going to date other women, make this clear, honestly is always the best policy in my book. It's pointless to try and hide it, lies create a positive feedback (lies create more lies, which create more lies, etc) which will only end in heartbreak for her. Tell her you really like her to (or however you feel about her) but tell her you're not ready to get serious with anyone at the moment. She'll either take it or leave it. But if you are taking this path, be prepared to have her leave it. That's the choice you have to make, are you concerned about losing her if thats the way it turns out.

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jmark. Thanks for elaborating.

In that case, IF she's being honest about that, it may be that she is more into you than you want to be into her at this time. In which case, I still go back to what I said previously. Make sure you're clear and up front with her, that you are not ready for something exclusive . . . yet.

Keep gaming the other two girls and see how things progress with them. Just don't become another one of the assholes that she's apparently had in her life before you.