To all my wiser brothers out there,

Question regarding a shit test awhile ago in a past relationship that, in my opinion, was the beginning of her losing attraction for me.

So about a month into us dating, everything is going great, and she suddenly "needs to talk". She randomly tells me she doesn't think we're right for each other and thinks we shouldn't be dating. She says she is conflicted. Well, being my naive self, I freaked out and convinced her that I wanted to be with her and all the reasons we should stay together.

Well we stayed together, and about every couple weeks the same conversation kept recurring. Now we are no longer together, due to a loss of attraction on her part.

My THEORY, is that I failed the test by telling her how much I wanted her, instead of playing it cool. See, she was super into me during the beginning of the relationship due to myself juggling a few girls trying to decide who to date.

So, two questions: I assume this is a fairly common shit-test with relationships?
What should I have done in that situation?

Okay, it may or may not have been a shit test. Coming from a freak, it probably was a shit test. They love to cause drama. Coming from a good girl, it would actually mean she was trying to break up with you. Either way, you handled it badly and should have just let her go. If you wanted to try for a turn it around, then you should have agreed with her and immediately changed the tone of the conversation and re-gamed her.

"okay, but we're still going to hang out all the time. You can be my new sidekick / kid sister / wing woman. Your new role will be to bring me snacks and to help me fulfill my dream of having sex with a midget/ a cougar/ twins."

Proceed with other random funny crap. Use rich descriptions. Never take anything she says seriously.

-Wolf

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Screening: drama-free-relationships-1-screening-vt124827.html
Bad Behavior: drama-free-relationships-3-the-soft-next-vt125554.html

She is a huge freak, and nuts, so I'm fairly confident it was a shit test. Thanks for the advice, it was a good learning experience for future tests. I am seeing her in a week, and I'm currently in her FZ, so I will attempt to re-game her in order to recreate attraction.

Anytime a woman "needs to talk" it means playing the game on her terms (if you go along with it).


You lose, because:


You played her game. That, or she found another guy and she is just stringing you along.


Because you failed the test or the other reason is true. She won't tell you it's over, she'll just keep bringing it up until you get the picture.


That doesn't sound like the same guy who freaks out and struggles to convince a girl to stay with him because her "feelings" changed.