| Okay so theres this girl I've been seeing for about a 2 months, although i havnt actually seen her (lol) for the last 2.5 weeks due to returning home from uni.
So i sent her a text 2 days ago, was kindov late at night, after we had been having a convo all evening and she didn't text me back all through the next day, but thats ok, because usually we just sporadically send long texts.
Then at like 12 last night she just texts me saying
"Your bloody lovely. I was talking to ****(our shared friend who i had been chatting to earlier and she had suggested going on a road trip) earlier about going away and we should deffinately do it.
So i replied saying.
"thanks johnson where did that come from, made my day. and then banter about goin away."
She then replies with general banter about our trip
Then today i reply with a bit of general banter.
She then replies with.
"Hey sorry about drunken texting you last nigh (awkward), then general banter in response to mine."
I then reply with.
"haha i thought it was, seeing as i received it at 3.30, which woke me up ill have you know." Still thanks for conforming my loveliness, i always had suspicions of it but to have it in writhing is good. then general banter."
Then after that she responds with.
"Baha (which i didn't realise was a noise most people made when they were amused but thats cool) sorry bbz, just thought i would let you know, it boosts peoples happiness, you should aim to compliment people at least once a day and then they will do it back. Then some more general banter"
At this point i thought that she might be bringing to light the fact that i don't particularly compliment her much, not like in a horrible way, but i never for example am like, "your so beautiful baby cakes, your my world", purely because it just feels a bit lame. So she had mentioned that she doesn't like dancing much, in the previous text in the general banter part, I therefore say.
"What your joking right, when you dance you go crazy (which is true), its awesome." which is how i feel, its one of the things i find most attractive about her.
"Then she texts me back saying,
"Nahhhh its boring."
Ok so i assume she was punishing me with such a short dismissive response, due to me not paying her a real compliment.
I feel it was just made a bit awks, her drunken texting me, and me not realising (oops). I'm curious how i should have reacted, as i want to better myself, it would be good to know how to compliment someone, in a way that doesn't seem like a lame cliché. I'm not amassing at complimenting full stop, maybe its some deapsetted confidence issue.
I was also wondering what to do next, i was thinking of just leaving it for a couple of days, sub tally punishing her (i don't really like the term punishing her, she's not a convict, but i duno how else to put it) therefore for dismissing my comment and then re-ignighting it with some humorous days event and acting like nothing had happened, sound good?
I realise that this sounds prity trivial, but i would like to know how to deal with situations so as to improve in this field.
PS. thanks guys for reading this and if you respond thanks for helping me out, also i know this probably should be in the relationships thread, but i can't post there, so i hope sticking points will be ok.
PS. PS. Sorry for being such a poor speller.
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