So here's the thing, since about a year ago I have made dramatic changes to myself and my lifestyle. I started eating healthy, avoided drugs and exercised regularly. But since then, I feel like many people don't agree with my lifestyle. My "friends" don't like the fact that I won't smoke joints or eat hamburgers with them all day long, but instead I eat my healthy food and have a gym workout.

My question is, how do you stay true to yourself and stick to your lifestyle while it has no path with your friends' lifestyle? I ask because I really like them as friends, we have similar hobbies, but our lifestyle is just polar opposite. How can I get them to understand without offending them that their lifestyle is not the lifestyle I want for myself?

Here is a quote that was sent to me when I was questioning my own path:

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1. They are your friends, not your life partner. Go do the hobbies you have in common and then leave. If your friends smoke *** and you don't then go to a club with them, don't go over to just hang out. If you are going to a game with them, and they want to get food before, then meet them at the game or however.

You can spend limited time with them to try to limit exposure to these activities.

Even though those examples are a little extreme, I would suggest learning how to pick a good item off a menu at a resturant rather then skipping hanging out.

2. A little risky but, you could try to influence your friends. Seeing my results my friends are now coming around to my way. I am now training a friend at the gym, and teaching him better eating habits. Lead by example. This is risky cause if you push them too much you will come off as a jerk, and they will withdraw.

3. Lastly if they don't come around and improve thier lifestyle, and put down your new lifestyle. Then maybe you out grew them, and you need to look for people like you.

Heywood that's really gold, and thanks for your input Faust

Kick them in the nuts..

Seriously if they're pressuring you to the point they want to force-feed you burgers and joints then they're not your real friends. It's normal for them to get unnerved by you changing your behaviour, because it's makes them feel like they're doing the "wrong" thing or that you're perhaps distancing yourself from them. But give it enough time, and they'll accept that you're doing it for a reason and they'll stop annoying you about it. The tricky part is having the willpower to repeatedly say "no thanks" until they stop asking. They think they can get you to revert back to your old ways.

Just don't preach to them, do your own thing. They'll get over it, accept it and hopefully even see the benefits in you and decide to make changes in their own life. Don't count on it though, and if it's annoying just tell them to STFU, laugh it off and change the subject. Focus on why you're actually friends

Unfortunately, it sounds like they don't see your new lifestyle as something good for you, rather it's probably more of a competitive male/social ladder thing that they think makes them look bad by comparison. You're starting to move steps up the ladder and instead of them congratulating you for it instead they're trying to bring you down to their level.

Same thing happened to me in a sense when I got into weightlifting. I mean seriously into weightlifting. My true friends, my circle of personal friends, weren't bothered by it one bit. My work friends, however, always tried to verbally challenge me. Either they figured they could take me down to their lower status by doing so, or they could show that they could socially dominate me despite my bigger muscles. One by one I had to put them down until they finally figured out their little game wasn't going to work.

It sounds like your friends belong to the second group...maybe they aren't your close personal friends as you might have thought, maybe they were just your dope smoking friends. If it's any consolation, I knew a bunch of dope smoking guys in college and all but a handful of them quit after a while, mainly after they got married. It made me suspect that for some guys, pot is a woman-substitute.

haha wouldn't call it a woman-substitute, but it definitely makes people happy with being bored or having less than they desire, complacency..

Most of your friends don't actually care. As long as you're not a judgmental asshole about it. No one wants to hear a lecture about how healthy and awesome it is to not do whatever it is you do for fun. If your friends DO care, they're a rare breed of asshole, and it's time to move on anyway.

That's not to say there won't be tension. That's normal. But most of that comes from (a) them worrying you're not having any fun and (b) them worrying that you're judging their fun. Just be supportive and positive.

I had a wingman who was a somewhat observant Muslim, and sometimes it was a little weird when I'd wanna smoke something or drink something. But we're out together to socialize, have fun, and (in some instances) meet women. Hard to care about what each other are consuming when at the end of the day, we're having a great time talking to girls.

Too right dodgystyle, that's exactly what I do. I just stick to my guns and say "no thanks". If they ask why, then I tell them. Other ways I will not preach to them and just live my life by my own rules and well informed ideals.

"Build it and they will come"...

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Real friends will support any of your choices.

Bin them and make news ones with your new powers!!!

Regards,

Boyo

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Bro I literally just went through this exact thing. I left the hardcore party lifestyle for the hardcore entrepreneurial and getting what I want out of life lifestyle.

This is the route I took and am still taking which has proven the best for me. Obviously I submit it for you to use if you'd like.

1) I accepted that my friends and I are different and that they might not be my friends anymore.

2) I actively left the door open for them to follow my lead to a better life when they are ready.

3) I did not express that I was going a separate way explicitly. I simply went in the direction and when my friends would inevitably ask what was going on I would tell them the exact reasons why partying and all wasnt working for me. I always would want to stay in connection to them though.

4) (The strongest force) I defined exactly what I wanted. From this point on I would look through a lens of this goal and it would enable me to very quickly judge whether or not whatever situation I would be in or people I would be around are for me.

It is a harsh reality of this world that our time here is limited. If you are very ambitious you should realize this as you are literally running against your own clock to accomplish your goals. With that being said you must accept the also harsh reality that certain people/situations are not beneficial for you to invest time in.


If your interested in more specifics of this line of thought feel free to message me.

I will read this quote EVERY DAY for the rest of my life.

Perhaps I'll need to rephrase some of this more subconscious-mind friendly (because of the "Don't Think of the Pink Elephant" Principle

Every nation has its own culture and religion so the events are also different and you can see the fashion of every region is different from other. There is must need to know the type of event that you are going to celebrate also always follow that fashion which suits best to you....if you are going to decide a dress it must be need to select best dress color which make your personality impressive than you can decide the design or other accessories....

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you don't say hahaha

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