Setting:
USA Florida, I just graduated High School, So I've been dating this girl (same age) for 3 months, and today's our official month anniversary.

Problem:
Lately all we do is fight, and today before we're gonna meet up to eat in a few hours, we got into a big talk about each other on the phone. She ended up saying that Im always playing around, and Im too silly, she usually goes for men, and that if something were to happen she would be worried that she wouldn't be safe, she even hints playing around how we wont last for that long together....

I told her despite the fact I act like a goof ball I can be a leader/protector & such,

She said despite the fact that Im not her type Im a good guy and better than most others guys shes been with, cause I care about her...

Conclusion:
My bottom line is that, this girl is independent, has a job, is getting her car soon enough, and has been with older guys that have their shit together, fresh outta high school Im trying to get a job, just got my learners lic. and going for the full lic. soon & its like...

I feel like this girl lately has been side stepping me, like I dont get enough attention seeing her once a week, and now Im not her type... so basically I made it by a hair?.....

Conclusion Conclusion:
What should I do about the fact that me and my girlfriend are like on the rocks or w/e... How would I reassure her, and fix the fact that shes also not giving me enough time & attention (with her job, & taking care of her little siblings and such)?

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It seems to me that she's the one demanding more in this relationship. Tell her, "I offer more than any other guy on the market. If it's not enough for you, then we have a problem."

She knows you're going to bend over backwards to make her feel good. Now, you can do that, but you know it will only be a temporary solution. She'll make you bend over backwards after that!

Tell her she's not YOUR type and watch her validate herself to YOU.

"How would I reassure her, and fix the fact that shes also not giving me enough time & attention?

She's not giving YOU enough time and attention. Let her worry about fixing it.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

dude man up and dominate her. You know what kind of couples fight constantly? Ones with two emotional beings and the male not knowing what he's doing and is just reacting to her. Do you think george clooney fights like a couple of fobs? Naw, he got bitches on lock down.

Luckily you're young enough to get away with some mistakes. Don't worry about not having a job, that hardlly means anything in the world of pick up. If she knows you have ambitions, it's enough.

As for acting like a goofball, we are not there to see and analyze where exactly you went wrong but it sounds like you have not calibrated properly. Maybe you joke too much, or you hide through tough moments with sarcasm. Maybe you take it far and act like a clown or maybe she just likes serious men. Try to analyze yourself and become self aware. You can practice meditation if you need help with this.

Be cool calm and collective. Don't get mad or overreact to her tests, after all she like older confident men for a reason. You think they take her shit? Be assertive if you have to but in a way that a dignified man is. Next is sex. You gotta bang her good otherwise she may sabotage the relationship. No matter what happens, you will learn from it, and come out better so try to be outcome independent. The important thing here is to improve yourself.

The first thing I want to point out to you: "How would I reassure her"

You shouldn't, its not up to you to fix anything, your a man, don't try to fix your self or her to make your relationship work.

Listen man women don't give two flying fu#ks about what you do, how much money you have, what you drive ect ect....the only time they notice those things is when you make excuses for the situation your in.

If you worked at burger king and a girl asked you what you do for a living would your say "I work at burger king....but Im saving to go to school, I don't want to be there for ever" or would you say "I work at burger king, I love it! best job ever!"?

If you want to come off as a "beta" afc who is trying to justify his life then you would pick the first one, but if you were an "alpha" male who didn't give a shit what she thought then you would pick the second one.

You know why this girls is not into you? its not because you are not her type, see women think they have a "type" but they don't....what they like is alpha males, and what they dont like is afc beta guys who they can walk over, its that simple! any way the reason she is not into you is because her interest level is low! below 50% which means you are in big trouble! once you hit 60% you should have been worried, and now that you are below 50% your chances of being with her are very low! she not see's you as a push over, a weak man who has little value to her! again not because of what you do, your age, or what you drive, but because of the way you act, the fact that you are more into her then she is to you, and you have not made her emotionally excited in a long time!

So what do you need to do? push her away, go worry about your self, start working on your own life and making your self better! stop justifying your self to her, don't mold your self into what she wants, rather tell her "you know what your right I don't think Im your type, and if you feel that way then we should probably stop hanging out"

this will do two things, 1# shock the shit out of her!, and 2# make her feel like she is loosing your. She will probably brake things off with you but after you dont contact her for a while, and she see's you don't need her, she will start to miss you, and if she does not contact you? WHO CARES! go live your life, there are 4 billion women in the world Im sure you can find another women as good or even better!

I know it can be tough budy but you just have to trust me! and trust some of the vet's in here who have been at this a long time!

Good luck!

Ok thank you guys, I think you guys are right I'm just going to have to Man Up, Alpha Up, and not take any more shit.

I had her come over yesterday to my house for our month anniversary and we watched a movie, & then we got "intimate", at the end of the night she was telling me she was glad to go & had fun. So once again Kino, and being Physical saves the day. But I'm still gonna turn up the alpha meter!

Lets hope for a continued LTR! lol & thx ppl.

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