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 Post subject: Very insecure!
PostPosted: Mon Apr 23, 2012 12:36 am 
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Just want to say i'm very insecure about my looks. i'm 5'7 skinny, little bit of a 6 pack and a little athletic. (even though i'm not terribly ugly).
I pretty much don't talk to girls because:
1. i'm scared shitless
2. when in groups my guy friends usually are the ones talking to girls
3. i have a rep of being quite(around girls, i'm usually fun around just guys).
I find this to be the situation wherever i am (party,school, or relaxed social areas).

When ever i'm with girls and i do converse they always tell me i'm funny but i virtually have no game. (P.S IM a Sophomore in high school so no F-close or anything)

How do i boost my confidence, expand my social circle with girls, and have better overall game. any tips on anything would be great, Thanks to all.


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 Post subject: Stop caring
PostPosted: Fri Jun 15, 2012 4:03 pm 
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girls are like guys except they have vaginas...

if its easier for u to hang with guys.. pretend the girl has a dick..

seriously dude they are not perfect... steve p helped me realize this..

stop giving a fuck, but be socially savvy.. dont be a douchebag, but find the

the best parts of ur self i.e. humor,teasing,laid back...

THEY ARE NOT PERFECT. STOP GIVING A FUCK. TEASE THEM.

bitches aint shit peace


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PostPosted: Thu Jun 21, 2012 4:17 am 
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1. Just man the fuck up don't hesitate and relax when your talking to a girl and don't think too hard.

2. show them who the leader is be the social center of the room. if your guy friends try to make fun of you just ignore them thats their problem.

3. basically just go out there and have fun. dont think negative shit because its gonna lower your social value. think positive. since you have a great "sense of humor" SHOW it to the ladies! girls love guys that has a sense of humor.

if you want to boost some confidence listen some music that'll get you hype and fuck shit up.

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 21, 2012 6:24 am 
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In all honesty got some good replies already. Seriously talk to girls like they're you're friends. Don't look at them and think "Oh my god i have to hookup with this girl eventually i have to play it right the whole time ok what do i do? what do i do now?" I used to do that a couple years ago. Got over it eventually and you can definately do it too!!
Just relax like others have said, and seriously look at them like they're friends. You're in highschool which does make it a bit harder i suppose since it's easier if you're a really attractive guy/ already in the "popular circle" but you don't have to be!!!! Live your life, be happy with what you've been given cause it's all you got no point living timidly with it, enjoy it!!! Feel good you can even learn about gaming girls, you got people to talk to, and know for a fact that with time you will get better. For a fact!
I used to think exactly like you i kid you not and i finally kissed a girl once, and then i finally had sex, and i was like wow! This is what I've been waiting for this whole time?????
Girls aren't different from guys at all, if anything they're worse off (i love girls don't get me wrong they're just really funny in some aspects). They still pick their nose, they even bleed from their sexual organ on average about 10-12 different times a year. They use more makeup to make themselves look good than any guy ever. They spend 30min-2 hours getting ready just to go to school!!!! They generally take about 20minutes just to pick out what clothes they want to wear. Think about how insecure they are, just because they are feminine. And there's nothing wrong with this, but this is just how girls your age are.
This is also the time in their life they are absolutely fascinated by sex and about 75% of them will start to actively have it within the time span from today- the next 2 years. High school is an amazing chance to find girls to hookup with. I finally realized that my junior year, and i just started playing it cool. Guess what? It worked bro. Be positive, focus more on having fun with everything else on your life other than girls. Be friendly, do what you think is right. Gets better with time. Sorry this post is so fucking long, just wanna help you out cause i used to feel pretty damn similar to how you feel!!


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PostPosted: Thu Jun 21, 2012 6:30 am 
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Couple more things i forgot:
Girls in high school want to fuck! It's a fact, after freshman year girls start to have sex and once they have it a good majority of them start to obsess over it!! You see how every girl tries to look thier absolute best everyday of school? You see all that makeup and those clothes that make her ass and tits stick out really nice? See that lip gloss to make her face a bit more attractive? Girls do it because they love to be attractive! Why? Cause they want to attract men. It goes down to a biological level. We're programmed to want to find a mate in life. It doesn't help that nature made sex feel really good. Don't get me wrong it's amazing but in all honesty sometimes maturbation can be just as good/ even a little better than sex. I'm sure guys that have sex very frequently will agree with me. Hell sometimes i have sex for like 45minutes and i cant bust even if i really, really want to!! It sucks. I can't even orgasm from a blowjob, it's only happened once and i was under the influence of various substances. Point is there's not point being scared if you know the facts. Buddy you're gunna be absolutely fine. One day you're gunna find some girl and you're gunna forget you ever had this problem.


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 Post subject: thanks
PostPosted: Mon Jun 25, 2012 3:54 am 
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Thanks for all the help, this is all great advice!


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PostPosted: Tue Jun 26, 2012 7:25 pm 
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One tip I can give you from remembering back when I did my first approach was that I had this like hardcore burning sensation.. ya know, that anxiety that it's going to go bad or something.

And ya know what... it didn't. I didn't get a number, but she didn't bite my head off. In fact, no one has gotten mad at me. One girl flicked me off once in a club, but I was so 'in state' it didn't effect me at the time... and that was one time out of about 100 approaches.

Nothing to be scared about! Just go do it. You'll see.


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