Ok guys, so look at this: I opened a girl I had already been chatting some months ago, and all looks good and she even asks me to go out! At a certain point everything gets screwed up.

This happens to me all the time, sometimes while chatting sometimes at dates! I managed to get to 6-7 dates after chatting and doing my job well and there's always a moment where I lose all the attraction. Why?!?!? This time it was in chat so you guys can help me analyze. Here goes:


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Beadog — 04:26 PM
[Std opener]

HB8 — 05:37 PM
Nooooo! So you don't remember me!!!! I had another profile...

Beadog — 05:45 PM
oh yes! Now I do

Beadog — 05:46 PM
and different pics

HB8 — 05:46 PM
Yessss

HB8 — 05:46 PM
You find meeee

HB8 — 05:46 PM
Horayyy

Beadog — 05:46 PM
the hardworking lady

Beadog — 05:47 PM
where did you disappear all the time?!

HB8 — 05:47 PM
Let's go out today.. Let's meet .. Mmm?!

HB8 — 05:47 PM
Work.. Sleep.. Work

Beadog — 05:48 PM
work sleep work... quite a boring routine

HB8 — 05:48 PM
Yes..

Beadog — 05:50 PM
I am pretty sure we can work on some improvement for your routine

Beadog — 05:50 PM
do I recall well that you are romanian?

HB8 — 05:51 PM
Yes

HB8 — 05:51 PM


Beadog — 05:51 PM
damn I am so good

HB8 — 05:51 PM
He he :p

Beadog — 05:52 PM
and we did talk on the phone

Beadog — 05:52 PM
you told me you had a crappy voice because you smoke but that was not true

Beadog — 05:53 PM
I mean dont tell me any more lies please!

HB8 — 05:53 PM
:blushing:

Beadog — 05:55 PM
Do you want to go out for a drink tonight?

HB8 — 05:55 PM
Sure

HB8 — 05:55 PM
But i won't be able to stay long.. I'm working in the morning.. Waking up at 4.30.. ;(

Beadog — 05:56 PM
thats ok

Beadog — 05:57 PM
Worst case you will just look a bit like a zombie tomorrow

HB8 — 05:57 PM
Good! Where? When?

Beadog — 05:58 PM
but with loads of make up you can hide it

Beadog — 05:58 PM


HB8 — 05:59 PM
No nooooo.. ! I'm a zombie, but still ok...:p subway is not working properly.. So.. I will have problems with it..

Beadog — 05:59 PM
which part of the city are you?

HB8 — 06:00 PM
East

Beadog — 06:00 PM
ok

Beadog — 06:03 PM
let's go to [xxxxxx], do you know it?

HB8 — 06:04 PM
No..

Beadog — 06:04 PM
its nice

Beadog — 06:04 PM
and in a nice area

Beadog — 06:05 PM
perfect for an east londoner girl

HB8 — 06:05 PM
I hate east london

Beadog — 06:06 PM
really?

Beadog — 06:06 PM
come on you are not the posh type are you?!?

HB8 — 06:07 PM
No!!

Beadog — 06:07 PM
see, I remember well again

Beadog — 06:09 PM
anyway you can choose between a cocktail @ [xxxxxx] or red wine @ [yyyyyy]

HB8 — 06:18 PM
I don't drink dear..

Beadog — 06:20 PM
oh really? Or you just want to give the impression of being a good girl?!

HB8 — 06:21 PM
I'm one of the good one!

Beadog — 06:23 PM
I should hire you, you are good at sales and marketing

HB8 — 06:24 PM
Hire me!

HB8 — 06:25 PM
I've got the right attitude!

Beadog — 06:26 PM
are you also patient?

HB8 — 06:26 PM
When i have to!

Beadog — 06:27 PM
ok I understand, you easily get upset

HB8 — 06:28 PM
Not at all! I always smile!

Beadog — 06:28 PM
mmh...

Beadog — 06:28 PM
I think I'll have to play with you a bit to test and figure out on my own

Beadog — 06:29 PM
if I just believe you you are half way beteen a princess and an angel which is a bit extreme

HB8 — 06:30 PM
When i'm good, i'm good ! But i can be the worst either!

Beadog — 06:32 PM
interesting, tell me about it!

HB8 — 06:35 PM
I hate chatting dear.. Sorry..

Beadog — 06:45 PM
It's ok, I kinda like in spare time

Beadog — 06:46 PM
but you see, little by little I am filling the list of things you hate

HB8 — 06:49 PM
:blushing:

Beadog — 07:04 PM
so what are your feelings about tonight Nadya?! Let's see if we can make a plan!

HB8 — 07:05 PM
Tell me

Beadog — 07:06 PM
Nope, I already did You tell me now

HB8 — 07:09 PM
I'm lazy now..

Beadog — 07:10 PM
you cant get out of the work-sleep routine, got it

Beadog — 07:11 PM
next week I'm out of town, maybe we can try to meet the following one

HB8 — 07:13 PM
Yeah..

HB8 — 07:13 PM
Maybe..

HB8 — 07:19 PM
You got my no anyway..

HB8 — 07:19 PM
Have a nice evening!

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Someone please tell me... Where... when.... why did I get it wrong?!?! I need to understand cos this ALWAYS happens, either in chat or at the date! God I find it hard to win this f***ing game.... but I will sooner or later!!!

Cheers,
B.

She wanted to meet up with you that night, why didn't you.

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Right there. Laidback said it already, she wanted you that night.

She wanted you to take charge and make the plans. - "Let's get you on your feet. I'm going out for coffee, you can come along" or whatever.

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She wanted you to take charge and make the plans. [/quote]

Yep!

I think some guys are waiting for a red carpet to roll out before they take the hint from girls. Be a man, make the plans, facilitate the logistics.

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Dude the moment she said "Lets meet tonight" you should have said

I will meet you at XX Place on XX street at 1900, wear somehting cute! See you in a bit.

That is it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Peace...

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You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

Ok guys thanks for the advices!

So my point is I obviously DID want to meet her that night. I made the plan and she killed it cos she doesn't drink. Fair enough, then I thought if I immediately reframe to a coffee or fruitjuice or whatever it sounds needy, so that's why I did put her in charge... and puff: YOU LOSE

Damn this game is evil!


A hug,
BeaD

I don't think she really killed it when she said she doesn't drink, she was just saying pick a different spot, I don't drink myself it would have been the best thing for me if a girl said that.

another thing i would say, after she told at beginning "let's meet tonight", I think you should have slowed down with the negging, i think you over negged, she already wants to see you

also like the guys said before, take the initiative, if she didn't want that she will let you know and she might throw another spot. that happened to me, i told a girl to meet a certain spot, instead she choose another spot which is event better, now am using that for other girls

good luck,