Is there anyone else here who is paralysed by fear, who feel like they don't take enough chances in life and live a sheltered and mild existence but want to change that?

I feel like whilst this is to do with my whole lifestyle and personality that this relates to my game (or lack thereof), why I struggle again with approach anxiety, and why I have so little to talk about when meeting people.
I'm not living to the full, not even close.

Don't get me wrong, I am successful at my job, and I have tried by myself to grow, but it's not enough, and I deserve more.

I think naturals very often have this stuff down.
Naturals that I have met have this confidence that extends to other areas of their life and they don't stress about taking risks or feeling awkward.

I like most people know about Anthony Robins, to some extent have looked into Ross Jeffries, and nothing yet has truly resonated as it should.
I recently saw an episode of Derren Brown on YouTube called "Hero at 30,000 Feet" where he uses some hypnotism and sets up scenarios to help someone grow in the same way I need to.
I don't think I'll be lucky enough to have Derren Brown help me out, and besides, I don't want him secretly videoing my bad habits whilst I'm by myself, so I am wondering if anyone knows some powerful resources to develop this side of my inner self.

I know it's not 100% related to pickup, but I think most of us agree that all this stuff is related.

I seriously suggest watching this video even if you don't know what I'm on about.

Get yourself some other things to dream about...
for example if you do sport
practice really often so youre concentration will be on youre sport and not on the woman

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That kinda sounds like, don't work on game and your game will improve.

Ignore "game" for the minute and concentrate on building social communication skills. This is all about breaking natural or learned reactions. I'm guessing that from a very young age you were risk averse?

Challenge yourself daily to start at least 2 conversations that last at least 2/3 mins with a total stranger and build upon this. It won't be easy as youll be way out of your comfort zone, but if you struggle talking to a lovely little old lady, how are you going to converse with a Hb10?[/quote]

great advice.

learn to talk to strangers when out and about and you'll feel way more comfortable in a club/bar

make it a daily habit - change your "rituals" so to speak

spice out

Be more social, talk to everybody to build more social skills. When you will have good social skils (communication) you will flow throught conversation. Do something what are you passionate about (some sport, etc), not girls. Girls musn't be your first choice...

Yep pretty much eveyone who has posted in this thread has given great advice. Being a natural is soemthing alot of dudes have been since they were at a young age. They tasted success at a young age and have been building on it for awhile. Don't let this get you down, learning to be a natural at an older age is much easier as your now a fully developed adult.

By the sounds of it, beign a natural to you is putting yourself out there and talking to strangers. If this is what you wanna do then you have to do it. The best way to build yourself up to being a natural is to constantly put yourself out there. Otherwise why do you wanna be a natural if you don't wanna put yourself out there? Theres no secret pill to help you, my friend.

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