Okay, sure I could memorize hours of canned material and use it. But nowadays pua Is changing. Girls are figuring it out and frankly memorizing routines just dosent sound very fun or alpha.

Thing is I almost never know what to say. For example, I met a cute girl fromm high school after 3 years last night. So first we were all like omg hey! And stuff. But then I instantly started asking the interview style questions. I knew I was doing it...but I didn't know what else to say to keep te convo going.

Honestly the only people I can be completely myself with and really vibe with are about 3-4 of my closest guy friends and my ex girlfriend. Now I know my ex and I don't have much in common. But still it's easy for me to talk to her. Why can't I do this with other girls?

Any tips or techniques or strategies would be much appreciated.

Just relax. Don't tell me you meet a girl, and there's nothing that you'd like to know about her. Because those are the questions you should be asking. When you ask, "where do you come from?" and she replies, you can relate to it in so many different ways.

-If she's not local, you can ask WHY did she move.

-If she's local, you can ask about anything about this place that generally interests you.

-Whatever she answers, you can answer where you came from, and start talking about similarities, differences about the places, and include DHV stories, or whatever you want to.

And this was just one question.

The key thing is, you should always ask questions that you REALLY are interested in, not just something to keep the conversation going. Because if the topic is something both of you are interested in, the conversation will go on naturally, just like with your ex, and your friends. Simple as that.

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I was having the same problem yesterday, what I did to transition away from it was some cold reading techniques which peaked her interest. Once I knew she was invested in the conversation I started to talk about what girls are attracted too. Most girls love to hear what they are suppose to be like because they all think they are the exception. Try and convince her that all girls seek attention, and that's why they are attracted to those who don't give it to them (ie. jerks). Once she hears this she will agree, but then will say she is different and will qualify herself to you. Once she tells you about herself do not be afraid to open up yourself as well. If all goes well you should have a deep connection and things to talk about should come easier as, both you and her no longer have shields up protecting your outer images. Hope this helps!

It's true. Running out of things to say is a bit of an inner game problem. There's always SOMETHING you want to say and can say.

The real problem, IMO, is having interesting things to say. Even if you're really interested in getting to know a girl and what it is that she does with her life, discussing her career prospects isn't all that fun or interesting.

There are "outer game" solutions for this. Funny replies to common answers. Cold reads and stories that get a good reaction and steer you onto a fun or interesting topic.

I personally hate routines, so I try to just keep a fun attitude, and look for opportunities to joke around. It doesn't always work, though, because I'm not funny enough to save some conversations from boredom.

The best "inner game" solution for this is to live an interesting life. Nothing will give you more things to talk about than travelling, trying new things, going on adventures, and taking risks.

The most basic answer to this question is to try to initially add value to the conversation rather than keep asking too many questions. When you ask questions, you're sort of saying to the other person that you expect them to do most of the work. Instead, just talk about what's going on with you. It can seem sort of random, but it's just like when you have a conversation piece in your apartment. You're throwing a conversation piece out there when you just say:

"So, I've been up to some new things lately. Last week I went to..."

And just put a story out there.

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It's also a good strategy to look for hook points in her sentences and adding hook points to your own. Like she says:

"I went skiing last year, it was awesome."

You can ask, Where she was, with whom, how was it in detail, some fun stories, anything.

And instead of saying: "I like traveling" You can say "I really love travelling. At one time, I was in Greece, near the sea, and this dude came up to me...." just give her opportunities to reflect. Girls love to talk.

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If you run out of things to say, you can literally just say something along the lines of "I don't know what to say right now," and take it from there (as long as you play it off humorously).

Simple Pickup has one good examples of this in one of their videos.

That's an interesting approach. Just radical honesty. So what happens after you just admit your speechlessness? I'd be curious to see this strategy play out.

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There seem to be a few ways you can take this. Off the top of my head you could do something like:

"I don't know what to say right now... usually I am pretty quick on my feet but those earrings are really distracting me right now " (or you could use some other sort of neg)

or

"I'm trying to to think of funny to say right now and it's not working..."

if you run out of things to say your overthinking it way to much, just let it flow