hey you guys.
I was seeing this girl 2 years ago but I just couldn´t escalate. never having kissed a girl and other failings in the past prevents me from starting any kino even though everything is clear. I have social phobia along with derealisation and depression.

Yesterday we went out again and I told her about my conditions and tried to justify my behavior. She said as much as that she was interested back then and is now and I just need to have the courage to do something But I didn´t. later that night she made out with another guy in a club. that´s when I told her outside that I like her and want her even though I knew I lost. She told me she is having an affair with this guy and I think she was saying it would be weird to make out wit me too.

I refuse to give her up.

Is there any chance to meet her again and try to escalate now that she knows I´m having feelings for her.

I would appreciate any thoughts and comments

thx!

First, you need to LET GO. move on man. Sarge other girls coz that will make your game better. Trust me on this one. She is turned off. The way you didn't escalate is like having a gradeschool exam and still don't know the answer. Those are windows of oppurtunity, you should have done something that suggests sexuality. She knows that you can't escalate so she moved to another guy. the way she responded is an excuse. another mistake you did is that you admitted that you like her in a wrong time. this made your value even lower. Try to meet some other girls and go out in clubs. Learn the best way from the best teacher: experience. Dont think too much. it will ruin the situation. be in the moment, savour each conversation. take negs like you didnt hear them and reward compliments by escalating. Sarge! Sarge! Sarge!

you had her in the place where she wanted you and told you and told you to do somethin and you didnt. dont message her for a few days n then maybe hit her with a funny txt if she doesnt txt you first. suggest a hang out, when you do, dont fuck about, escalate quick and then kiss her, kiss her hard, this girl wants a man who has the balls to just take her first n ask if she minds later. as long as you dont come accross as needy, pathetic etc it should be cool. dont compliment her again until youve kissed her, she knows your interested, you dont have to keep making it obvious. tellin her you like her outside the club was a horrible move, she will have felt like you were tryin to guilt trip her. generating negative feelings like that is never the way to go. now you need to be smart, funny, and not always obtainable. even if your chillin at home yourself you can say your round at a friends.....

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thank you for the answers. she just called twice, but I didn´t answer. I always tend to explain myself after such an outing. So what am I gonna do?! call her back. puuh I just wanna get together and close her..

call her and ask if she wants to go play pool, once you get her out beat her, then show her how to play a couple of shots, escalating kino as you do. then ask her bk to yours after hr n a half/2 hrs and she should be ready to part company with her knickers from what you have said mate.

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