"I'm sorry I made the biggest mistake of my life will you please forgive me" That would have got me thinking but it's not going to happen being realistic. Her text, facebook message and poke seems like a pretty feeble attempt to me. [quote]How long did you guys date before the break-up?[/quote] 2 months with a mini breakup in between which she initiated but she also re-initiated things and I gave her a chance but she did a repeat the month after. She also had a rebound during the freezout which pissed me off so I'm not sure If I want to punish her or forgive her but she is the only girl I want to be with. [quote]At 11.30pm on that day send a text Happy birthday! leave it at that.[/quote] So far this seems like the best advice but I thought I'd hear some more opinions ready for tomorrow night which is her birthday.[/quote][/quote] Your mindset for all this.. well, it's just all wrong. You just sound bitter and jaded. You are ignoring her because you are punishing her, not because you are an awesome guy with a busy social life. You also sound like you haven't messed around with any other girls since this one broke up with you. Well, I guess you got to fake it 'till you make it, so I will give you some practical advice. The right way to re-initiate contact is to invite her out to a really fun place / event where you have a lot of social proof. If she can't go, then act like it's not a big deal. Try again in two weeks. The place/event you pick should be someplace you are planning to go whether or not she agrees to come with. You need to display high value and show her that you are a cool guy who likes to do fun things with cool people. You also need to display how much you are over her and over the break-up, so she feels the need to work to get you back. Don't text her for her birthday. Just my 2 cents -Wolf