Hei! So, i'm a xxxxxx and i thought that i could ask some advice. Since there are a ton of people in this forum someone will hopefully respond.

I have no problem with the job as such, it's great for confidence, interacting with people and creating a positive connection. Also, great for dealing with pressure or afc insecurity because in order to get tip you have to be charming and social. No problem with that.

My question is how to push the interactions farther, a lot of customers are girls of my age and i thought that it's about time to start combining work with pickup skills. Obviously it's mostly situational stuff and natural game and i have no problem with presenting myself as alpha because my mentality is i'm the xxxxx and i have the power

So, any advice on how to flirt, neg on taking too long with choosing, or just pushing the conversations farther than an ordinary "how is everything/charming me" (which is great for tip but wont get me very far with pickup).

Ps. A lot of people my age go to bars and when i finish work at midnight i sometimes hit the bar afterwards and see some of them there, not always but sometimes and so it's easier to start or restart conversations.

PPs. Any advice is welcome.

Hawke91

When you are at work, do your job, get your tips, and that's it. After work do all you want for pickup. Getting fired for picking up girls where you work as a waiter isn't a good idea. As a potential employer for you if you got canned there and applied with me, and I heard that was why you weren't employed there anymore after checking references...yeah probably not who I want in my business.

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Actually i didn't mean it the way that i pick up at the workplace as much as creating a better view of myself or learning how to present myself with a much more subtle first impression. But definitely a fair point, didn't look at the picture from that angle. Now i do Anyways at least the interactions and socializing don't do any harm for communication skills and confidence. Thanks a bunch.

my man
i worked as a waiter a few summers my self
on a restaurants
it was a shit job,with good money

here are what i did,in order to hook up with girls and cougars back then

number one rule : be polite,smile,
then,always ask em if they like the food or the cocktails or whatever..


gain some raport and then ask em if they having good time or not
then reccomend em some places,tell them that you go there and it;s great,
and also telm em the time u be there

work for me m8

The human body, which is made up of between 55 and 75 percent water,
Lack of water can lead to dehydration, a condition that occurs when you don't have enough water in your body to carry on normal functions...
so you must should use a plenty water in a day for your good health and fitness .....

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I agree. I worked as a waiter for over 10 years.

You can be charming, outgoing, funny, and flirtatious, to an extent. But, you have to be very careful not to cross the line. And "the line" is going to be different for each guest.

The way you greet the table can kind of set the tone for the interaction, whether it is going to be more friendly or more business-like. Don't start out being flirty. Start out being friendly, by approaching the table with energy and charisma. Then, you have to gage the how the table responds to you. If they match your energy, then maintain the friendly approach, but do not escalate. Let the table determine where the interaction goes. In my experience, if the table sees you as a fun, outgoing, charismatic guy, and they want to engage in some flirty fun with you, then they will take it there.

If you approach the table with energy and charisma, and they kind of look at you like "wtf is up with this guy?" then tone it down a little bit. You don't want to annoy the table, because it will affect your tip. Not everyone is going to be in a fun-loving mood or want to interact with you. Some people just want to eat their meal and be left alone.

You have to be very careful though. Most restaurants do not look favorably on you flirting with guests, because if they are uncomfortable, they aren't going to come back ever again. I have seen guys get fired for flirting with a table before, even when the table was fine with it, but the manager saw it and was not fine with it. I have also seen guys get fired for flirting with a table, and thought the table was fine with it, but then they complained to the manager on their way out or called the next day and complained.

Quite honestly though, your best move is to play it safe and not try to sarge your tables while at work. You can do plenty of flirting with your co-workers. And, as you said, waiters always go out to bars after work, so you'll have plenty of opportunity to hit on some girls after your shift. You probably only work a 5 or 6 hour shift anyway, so you'll survive 5 or 6 hours without hitting on girls.