Once upon a time, Shakespeare said "what a name is.."
Well, I'm the one believing that identity is important, because, it's how I think about myself..

I was someone that lazy, not consistent and weak..
everytime I felt down, I became like a baby who was crying because I was not strong enough n kept asking about why the world is full of shit,,

So after all the tiredness, whinning about useless thing, I realize..
why do I need to care about what people think, this is me, this is who I am,,
I know I can't change who I am, but I can make the best out of who I am!

So I need a strong identity, an image that everytime people call my name it reminds me of who I am.. so finally I found my identity.. Nero means strong..

So let's start..

(Introduction)

I'm Nero, 24, I decide to write something about myself to remind that this is where I start so I can motivate myself..

When I was in secondary, I was someone that really shy and introverted, it happened probably in that time I spent my whole time just played game and watched romantic drama (meteor garden n etc) I used to believe, a cool guy is someone that just quiet and not talk a lot..
In my whole secondary for 3 years, in my class I had crush on the same girl, everytime she was around, I was just sweating and did nothing, hell yeah I was too shy in that time to engage the conversation, my life was getting better when I was in high school, but my paradigm and mindset stay the same,, still believe with love, cool guy is quiet and etc

I knew about community when I was around 21 or 22 and learnt a lot about pick up, mindset, paradigm and social, I met some friends and girls from the knowledge that I learnt and I got some results..

Short story,,

I came to Montreal about 2 or 3 years ago, I'm 24 now,,

Well, living in a new country is not the same like where u were born..
different language, food, place, culture and not know many people are the first difficulties..

At first, I had difficulty to pick up, I was shy when I spoke English, it happened bcoz I had problem with the language..
so for the past 1 and 2 years in montreal, I didnt practice much,
however it didn't stop me to learn more, this year is when I start everything again, I dedicate to put all of my effort to gain what I had when I was in my country..

Through my whole time in Montreal, I met some guys to practice, most of them having different mindset, paradigm and goals..
which make them easily giving up when they find too hard for them to break the wall.. I'm not saying my paradigm and mindset is number one bcoz it depends on person perspective, but if I go through all the people I met again, I know that they were having bad mindset and wrong paradigm to pick up..

Basically, I respect friendship and people who want to be better and improve their life, I like to think them as a friend rather than as a wing or someone that meet to pick up so the whole time we can enjoy our accompany and that's how I become friend to them.
I believe one stick it's easy to break, but when we have a lot of sticks, it will be hard to break it.. Therefore, I'm trying to gather people so they can realize how important to get better through friends to friends so we can learn the process from each other and not just thinking of themselves..

So this is my journal, hoping that I can keep updating my journey until I find that I can say to myself which I already do my best and happy with my result.

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Journey to the jungle......

good luck with ur approaches

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if you dont believe in yourself ,then who will?

I will evaluate my progress section by section and the things I remember mostly.
Monday, 21 May 2012, with COML

(1)
Hit venue : Metro

Closer (something interesting going on) : Metro is the place for people getting in and getting off from the train, it's a bit hard to open people since people have nothing to do other than waiting for the train coming so usually they always notice things going on, but it's good exercise to open in the metro since it practice u to not care about what other people think.

Rundown : I saw her going to walk up to the escalator, so I stop her by touching her arm and giving compliment for her earrings and try to transition from there, but the convo go no where.

(2)
Hit venue : eaton

Closer : bitchy, I didnt notice it was the same girl I hit for the third time..

Rundown : I saw she was walking forward to me, so I opened her in the front.

N : Hi, can I tell u something really quickly? I just saw u and I think u look really nice..
target : thx, but can I be honest to u? actually this is the third time u hit on me..
N : (i didn't expect that one coz I dont remember all the girls I approached.. lol)
huh? no way,, I think u mistook someone, i dont do this regularly, I just saw u n I just want to say hello
target : I'm sure u were the same guy hit on me..
N : (curious about it) I dont know, I dont remember u, but how was before, was it good?
target : awful, u were with ur friend n not to offense, but it's better when u doing it without someone watching u..
(the fuck, it's like knife stab my heart for 3 times..)
N : (losing words) bla bla..
target : well I appreciate that, I'm annie anyway ( shook her hand), but to be honest I have bf n bla bla..

I eject from the set coz i wasnt expecting that one, it's really shit, from that set I felt down to approach bcoz of what she said n also i was nervous coz i dont prepare that kind of things, when I review again of what happened, I knew I could do or say something better, but it was hard to think spontaneously in the moment.

(3)
Hit venue : metro

Closer : a lot of people waiting for the train, so it's really intimidating to open target, it's like my brain fighting to each other, go or not..
ahh fuck it, I'll try..

Rundown : ( I saw she was playing game on her iphone n she was giving me eye contact so i told her, u seemed have a lot of fun playing the game but she didnt hear coz she was listening on the earphone so i repeat again what i said n bla bla bla i dont remember..

overall : the convo wasnt that smooth n it was hard to transition from the opener to other topic, also people in the metro can hear what i was talking about , but overall i was happy coz i pushed myself since the last time i approached about 2 weeks ago.

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Journey to the jungle......

Next time you see a girl playing with her i-phone, you walk up to her and say" if he doesn't call you in the next 5 minute, dump him"

or she staying alone you walk up to her and say" if he doesn't show up in 5 minute, dump him"


Troublemaker i wish you nothing but good luck on your journey.

Did some approaches last week and so far I'm happy with the results coz I push myself more than the last time, but mostly, I don't remember how the interaction going on the set.

Also I will only posted my FR,,
- the one that I need to work on and learn a lot from the set
- stay at least 1-2 mins

Hit report 4, Eaton, 27 may 2012 with friends

Closer : a girl walking by and caught my attention..

Me : Hi, excuse me, I don't usually do this but I think u look cute.. bla bla
(credit to my best buddy wildgunns)
Target : bla bla
Me : (I dont remember, but I think, I asked what does she up to..)
target : bla bla
Me : bla bla n bla bla.. dont remember, but the interaction going like 2-3 mins and I told her I was with my friends and couldnt stay long but I like to chat her again so I asked her number and got it.

Overall : I feel she was interested, but couldnt build enough connection to her and also when asked the number I was a bit too fast and shaking..
probably it would be a bit hard to make follow up, but it doesnt matter coz I can learn good things from my experiences and mistakes,,

Hit report 5, mc gill park, the same day..

Closer : I didnt see the girl, but wildguns said she was mrs nero n push me, so I go, the girl a bit far, so I run to catch her up..

Me : Bla bla dont remember but it was direct..
(found out she was going to walk for working in museum, we chat a bit about what she was doing n told her she looked really happy n asked her, dont she feel lazy working on sunday n.. bla bla
target : (I wasnt expected this, but the girl really open n nice..) definitely she was mrs nero, but I just dont push myself more n since the girl really open, she started firing me questions about where do i study, what do i do..
I wasn`t ready to answer, so i just say this n that.. dont remember..

overall : It took like 2-3 mins convo, just need to push myself more n ready to counter the questions for the next time..

Mostly, I warmed up with compliment and when I feel good with my vibe then I go direct and if I feel losing the momentum or thinking too much then I go back to compliment until I feel good with my vibe, but it's very important to be in the moment and have positive energy on the field, also the person that you go or practice with is really matter because when you feel losing the momentum, from them (ur friend) the one u seeking help to encourage or giving motivation to push more. It doesn't matter whether the person you go with is good or bad in approaching, as long as he approach and knows how to support.

The thing I need to work on :
- Be more n more persistent on the set (stay longer in the set)
- Working more on statements
- Less care about what other people think

Goal to accomplish :
(I`ll set a goal the one that I need to work on, I dont know how long it`s gonna take, so I`ll keep updating my goal until I accomplish it)

- Losing some weights till 65 kg!
- Stay on the set at least 5 mins (to do this, I`ll put stopwatch n try to beat my other time on every set)

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Journey to the jungle......

Friday, 1 june 2012, with coml

Closer : We went to a meetup language for english n french convo, I was with my brother n n we were coming a bit late, coml come 30 mins later.

By the time we were at the place, I was looking for the set that have at least 1-2 girls on the table, found one, a cute asian girl n 2 guys around.
Actually, I only wanted to socialize and I dont expect anything other than talking to people, but there were 2 nice girls coming to our table, found out one is moldovan n the other algerian, when they came, first I was a bit intimidated coz they were hot and the algerian mostly leading the convo, I dont want the girl lead the convo so I tried to change the subject and lead from there.
20-30 mins later, coml coming and I felt more comfortable having a friend a round,,

overall : It was good, we chatted like 2 hours n talk a lot of things, the girl really open, they asked a lot of questions and etc, the thing I didn't come strong enough to build attraction, so I felt the girl trying to be nice, it doesn't matter coz my goal that day just to socializing..

The thing, I was sure, I could get their number, but instead I asked their facebook bcoz I was thinking too much that the girls have more value than me (ex: they speak french, they're more sociable, they know a lot of places to go)

One time they test me, they asked what am I doing usually on weekend n do for fun? Suddenly, it opened my eyes, coz most of the time I was just doing pick up (don't get me wrong, pick up is already like my lifestyle and I love it, but I can't tell them that mostly what I do for fun is trying to pick up girls..)
So, I tell them, mostly, I hang out with friend and sometime do exercise like tennis, they were excited about tennis coz they know how to play and they said they wanted to play together sometime, the thing I felt bad coz i'm not good in tennis and scared would embarrass myself later, so I asked their facebook to keep in touch (I know really doesn't make sense)

I know, it was wrong mindset coz I was thinking their value is higher than me..
but from that set, it made me realize, to be an interesting guy I should have different activities so I will have an interesting lifestyle to tell about and pick up is not an activity I can tell to people..

Goal this week : - Looking for some activities to build an interesting lifestyle

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Journey to the jungle......