We dated for 3.5 years, broke up about 4 months ago. I'm 24, she is 23. Reason for breakup was because "she wasn't happy anymore" and "she didn't feel the same". Lets just say, 5 months prior to us breaking up she started texting a kid she met in her class a LOT. I am not the jealous type, so I didn't say much about it, but then she started dating this kid about a month after we broke up. Needless to say, she had to make sure she had this new guy before she got rid of me, typical.

She said she still wanted to be friends after the breakup, and said bullshit like maybe one day we can get back together. I told her I wouldn't be friends with her and I would only be civil because we have a dog together. We live 4 houses down from each other, and right now he goes back and forth. This is best for everyone, since he stays over there with her sister during the day while I'm at work, and then I take him when I get home. Some days I bring him back at night, some days she picks him up him in the morning.

Week and a half ago our dog got sprayed by a skunk because her sister is too stupid to tell the difference between a skunk and a cat. My ex was on vacation with her new guy, so I had to go over there everyday and help wash him and get him better. She gets home mid-week and her and I wash the dog again and I don't have much to say to her, so I don't. She tries starting conversation, asking where I was and shit, I answer short and vague. We wash him again this weekend, she again asks what I did the day before and I keep the answers short. That day before I had gone out on the boat with my buddy, his girlfriend, and another girl. I think she saw the Facebook post I was tagged in with them. A couple weeks ago she posted this as her status on Facebook, I'm guessing it pertains to me: "It's utterly exhausting to be nice to someone who doesn't care to be nice to you..." I didn't see it, my roommate and my sister asked me about it.

So last night she texts me and this is how the conversation goes...

Her: Are you getting the dog?
Me: I got him earlier and brought him back for a bit... Gonna get him when I'm back home.
Her: Are ya bringing him back later?
Me: Didn't plan on it, can you get him in the morning?
Her: Won't be home early enough to feed him... Keep him and bring him in the morning... That works better for everyone.
Me: Not me... I'll drop him off tonight.
Her: But you've been leaving him with me a lot... Can't you for once sacrifice a little bit?
Me: Haha what do you sacrifice?
Her: I'm not gonna argue with you... Really, just forget it... Do what you want as usual.
Me: Haha you're funny.
Her: I don't get why you treat me like an asshole.
Me: I don't... I think you're making that up.
Her: Okay... well then my feelings are hurt for no reason I guess.
Me: What are you talking about?

She stopped texting after that, but I'm starting to think she is delusional and wants to start drama for no reason... I ended up keeping the dog at my house this morning and told her to come pick him up when she gets home. He has food and water and doesn't mind staying home alone, I'd just prefer if he was at her house during the day so he can run around outside.

My roommates and I are moving to a new house in a couple days that has a fenced in back yard, and I've been debating taking the dog full-time when we get settled in. Everything is in my name, but I would feel bad because her family has gotten used to him and I know they'd miss him (I couldn't care less if my ex missed him or not). They have always been nice to me, although lately they seem a little weird when I go and get my dog. Her dad still tries to get me to sit down and eat with them if they are about to have dinner or breakfast.

So I'm not really sure how to handle everything. I'd like to keep going back and forth because I know my dog likes to see them, but I know at some point things have to change. I'd like to wash my hands of my ex and move on without baggage, but we still have the dog together and she still owes me quite a bit of money (huge mistake there). I want to move into this new house and start fresh, but not sure if I can fully do that if I have her bitching at me every other weekend...

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my experience of women is they seem to go mental when they realise you dont need them in your life anymore, nearly every ex thats blown me out has been like this, i've moved on and they've gone mental about it, it just sounds like she's doing the same, it will pass

Without knowing the full details it sounds like you have been more than civil with her. This dog situation needs closure though. When you get the new place I'd talk to her dad about taking the dog to yours full time because you want closure. If he's a good guy he will understand and you will have a pretty big person fighting your logical corner against her potential emotional shit storm.

Tell them they are always welcom to visit or take the dog out for walks. I bet they visit less than you might think.

This is true. When they break up with you they tell you how you two will be friends and how she wants you to move on, then when you do they cant stand it.

I don't think I've been cold at all, I think I've been more than fair about everything. She still owes me a quite a bit of money ($2250, I'm at idiot but did not see the breakup coming at all), and I've been very lenient about her getting it back to me (although I have written it off because I don't think I'll ever get it back).

Looks like I might be washing my hands of her very soon, as her parents have changed the locks at her house so I cannot get my dog when I want now. This changes a lot, and I called her tonight to figure out why I couldn't get a key. Ended up talking to her mom who said they aren't comfortable with me having one anymore, so I am waiting until I get my stuff moved into my new place before I drop the bomb and take him for good. I'll still allow them to visit, but I will have to ok it first and everything.

I know my dog likes seeing them, and I don't want to take that away from him, but I'm not going to let them step all over me anymore. I need to stop being a vagina and stand up for myself and take what is mine.

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