Good girls don't cheat, Freaks and ho's are champions at cheating, that's all what i can say bro, and i feel you.

why girls cheat? they only cheat because they are not satisfied and search for other things somewhere else. typical concerns of an afc. if you are a pua they won't cheat on you.

not always true just that afc's are ten times more likely to forgive instead of dumping her and moving on

I've never cheated on a girlfriend, and to be honest I don't really like the idea of sleeping with more than one person at once, I'm old fashioned like that...thanks mum. I don't think I would cheat, but if I was really drunk and an ex or someone I had a thing for came up trying it on I couldn't be sure, so I actively avoid situations like that. If an ex was going to a party that my GF wasn't going to I purposely wouldn't get so fucked up that I might make bad choices.

I don't accept any excuse if someone cheated on me such as being drunk or upset, as you can always avoid the situation in the first place.

I wouldn't ever cheat on someone, it's so weak and horrible.

The people that activly cheat on their partner for a long time are even worse. They are worse than the dirt underneeth my shoes.

Couldn't agree with you more.

I wish death on them. I really do. If there's one type of person I hate more than anything it's a cheater.

This says my thoughts exactlly - I have been completlly slaughtered drunk a few times - i STILL know what im doing - and i STILL have my principles...

So a girl (or guy) saying they were drunk and it just happend etc - is worse than a poor excuse to be honest.

To the OP - It is not your fault this happend - its all down to the girl im afraid - no matter how anyone wants to paint it.

She chose to cheat - theres was probablly no reason at all.


Agree with the others - Once a girl cheats once - shes gone - no second chances.

Timez

I have to say that it's true. Most female do cheat.

BUT it does matter how you ask the question. Yes, most of them DO CHEAT at least once over their lifetime. Especially at the begining and at the end of a relationship. BUT it doesn't mean that they will cheat during that 1-2-10-50 years they will spend with you if you get into a monogamous relationship.

THEY WILL cheat on someone how they don't respect, don't have a future with or are not attracted to (as they are hypergamous creatures). So your job is to be the biggest alpha BF / husband ever. Who would wanna risk losing the best man on planet Earth?

Let's have a scenario as an example. You are Brad Pitt and Bill Gates in one person. Then all the women are lover status than you. And they won't risk losing you, there is no higher up.

The thing is that a cheater is much easier to catch now in the age of cell phones, text mssges, credit cards and facebook. However it's just as common as it was ages ago, human nature doesn't change quickly at all.

And this monogamous thing is a brand new idea compared to all the time we've spent on this planet.

And we are still animals! Humans share 96% is their genes with chimpanzees! We are only 4% human! And what do chimpanzee females do? They fuck around, but especially like to fuck with the alpha male. So be that alpha male.

Final note: don't advertise that you were cheated on. It's one thing you wanna shut the hell up about. You might tell your best friends when you are drunk, but not anyone else. If girls learn that you were cheated on before, it's a HUGE DLV, they will assume that you couldn't satisfy that girl sexually and all kinda shit. And the WILL SPREAD this idea.

mind to elaborate on this? I have always been very jealous (to the point that my rational side has to come to the rescue and block emotional jealousy) in the first few months of a relationship, and then settled down into comfort zone. but my rational side tells me that it is irrational behavior. the first few months should be filled with honeymoon phase and NRE.. why cheat then?
now you seem to be confirming my gut feeling about when to be worried.. mind to explain why this assumption is correct?

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I would split it up into 3 stages, 2(!) for the beginning of a relationship, 1 for the end.

Day1 (that is an f-close): Can quite possible be that your soon to be GF is cheating on her soon to be exBF with you. Noone in the comminity would recomment being in a LTR with a girl who has cheated, ie. the realtionship started with cheating, but it happens quite often.

Beginning phase: I call this from day1 to the moment you are officially together (done with the paperwork, LOL). This is just dating, but also a sort of relationship. She might not be fully over her ex and fucks him, or just simply doesn't feel that committed to you and fucks around). Chances for her fucking other ppl really decraces after monogamy was agreed verbally.

Ending phase: and this is the bid deal. Statistics show that 70% of breakups are initated by women. And when (as I wrote one post earlier) a GF / wife is not feeling attracted anyomre, doesn't see common future, lost respect are really likely to cheat. After the idea of a breakup was born, it can take years to get to her actual breakup! She kinda wants to make the transition to finding a new mate smoother and wants to burn all bridges. It's easier for her to get to the point of no return this way.

This is based on my own experience, anyone who disagrees tell me!

most likely, what he is trying to say, is after having sex one or two times when you are uninvested fully into a person and have not entered that ''honeymoon stage'' then the other person might be more likely to still be dating around as they are not sure if anything long term with that person will pan out, as well as at the end of a relationship when things are getting boring and all the excitement of sex is gone and it is just the ol' in an out to both of you day in and day out

you shouldn't worry about this too much and don't listen to that whole ALPHA MALES DON'T GET CHEATED ON HURR DURR, it's a load of bullshit, girls are the exact same as guys when it comes to cheating, alot of girls would rather dump a guy then cheat on them because it is part of their code of ethics that make them who they are, OTOH, some girls have a fetish for cheating and get off on it, it doesn't matter if you are alpha, beta, zeta, omega, leta, keta, doesn't fucking matter, you will be cheated on, she will even trade down considerably just to get her sneaky fix

have you ever heard that expression once a cheater always a cheater?, it holds pretty true, if a girl has a history of cheating, she will most likely do it again, doesn't matter how much of a trade up or a trade down it is, often times cheating has absolutely 0% to do with the partner at all, has nothing to do with the partner being better or worse, it is fully on the person doing the cheating and their amount of self control and if they have some sort of anchor that arouses them related to being unfaithful, girls are no more hypergamous then guys, and there have actually been studies done to show that men are actually more likely to cheat then women (not by much it's pretty much 50/50), and women are more likely to cheat later on (specifically around the 4 year + mark), while men are more likely to cheat earlier on in a relationship

this is phase 3, seen from the other side of the world. it happens. sucks, but if she is quick enough to end the other relationship, the cheating is little more than collateral damage.
as long as there was no exclusivity promise, I don't even consider it cheating. if I decide I want exclusivity, I will deal with that behavior, but it is not "cheating" by any reasonable definition.
once the paperwork is over, that's when it becomes "cheating". and that is when my jealous self starts knocking at the door and needs to be pushed back in the closet. it usually goes back to sleep in a few months if no weird vibes have come my way.
men can do this as well as women.. my breakup ratio is more balanced than average (50% breakups initiated by her - 50% initiated by me).. only once did I initiate a breakup without having a plan B readily available

let's say that I see your point, but the kind of cheating that worries me mostly is the "right after paperwork is done". I am sure it has a lot to do with my first GF breaking up with me one week after we got official because she was still in love with another dude the whole time..

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heard it. don't believe it. I have myself cheated. but not in every relationship. when I was with my ex-ex-GF I rejected a girl whose name was enough to make me horny. and I just rejected a very promising chance for a FB this morning.
true, both chances tempted me.. but it all boils down on "which is higher-value to me, my monogamous GF or random pussy?". in the above cases (and in others) I chose the monogamous GF.

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"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

No girl is 100% faithful for 100% of the relationship like Wed like to think. Its called the fallacy of purity read 60 years of challenge- relationship roulette. If you want a 100% faithful girl, just October man sequence that hoe :p but that's a little severe

"All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
Scott Alexander"