well she taught you how woman with mental disorders behave... now you can be aware of those type of woman.

Furiox

just take things slow next time .. avoid getting attached before bneing aware of her red flag.

if you cannot see it from a logical perspective, just vibe... just feel the vibe and if anything feels weird or off just take a few steps back. if she changes opinions ( another contradiction ) like really fast - day 1 she says A and day 2 she says B ( regardless of behaviour ) just catch her on it... if she defends and makes alot of drama about it just freeze her the fuck out....

what a woman says is different than how she feels, if she feels A on day one her opinion is A on day one... if she feels B on day 2 her opinion will be B on day 2. However if you call it out and she makes a huge drama instantly she is just another crazy bitch. if she is overly defensive she is probably a nutcase as well... normal people don''t care that much about a opinion change.

if she talks about her ex or mensions her ex in the dating stage just freeze her the fuck out... if she text alot with one certain dude ( orbiter chode ) just freeze her the fuck out. nutcases like to defend their illusions... if you call them out lightly and you get a severe reaction you can be 90 % sure you are dealing with another nutcase.

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betanomore
well if she''s 40 and she has issues - then she is a 40 year old woman with issues... sounds like her issues evolved with age.

what is your age ? it's a important factor

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I am 38. By the way, I have two children (divorced from 3 years ago) and she has never been married. Her reasoning for not being married is pretty involved and I trust her reasoning.

*Update"

So i found out that the ex i mentioned is in a relationship with a close friend i had in my university days, who was the only common friend i had with her, and i used to let the guy hang around with us when we were a couple, and he was the one who made me take her back after the 2nd rage break up i did with her, convincing me etc.

i am in total awe.

Life 1 - sovetcke 0

Some friend bro, wow! I hope you cutt off all contact with this sad person. Where i come from you don't hookup with your friends exes, especially good friends.

Good luck to you man!

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Sorry i was away for a few days ( seminars ) what are her top 3 reasons ? can you be more specific ?

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My name is Allan, I'm 20 years old. I'm currently in a Long term relationship , have been for 1.5 years already. My girlfriend has recently stopped showing interest in me. Her text messages don't have smiles or laughs anymore and she makes less effort to text back in a timely manner than before. She doesn't want to see me as much as she did before, and sex is a rarity. Today i ended up doing an AFC move and called her drunk asking about this new guy at work she started texting, and if theres something i should know. She immediately got upset and said she "loves me , is afraid of losing me, but she has a bad feeling about whats going to happen". so after i asked her if she needs some space, she said yeah and im seeing her later,in about a half hour.
I feel like the outcome of this might be a breakup, and i'm really into this relationship , i don't think she's going to do it tonight, but definitely might be crossing her mind.
I want to know if this relationship is still salvageable.

PS: i have a one month trip to Brazil in three weeks. I'm afraid i have little time to act.

There's no perfect relationship because no human is perfect as well.

But as mentioned by others, we can learn from our past mistakes and relationships.

If we have another partner, that means another personality to deal with.

Communication plays a good part in every good relationship.

It creates bridges to connect to understand each others feelings.

Hi,
so I met my current gf 7 months ago, we're in a relationship for 2 months now, but our relationship is going very bad... She is a great girl and i like her, but there is a major problem.
She has massive behavior changes.
For 5 days, she calls me, texts me all the time, asking me to hang out, being so awesome and turned on by me, and is highly jelaous.. and then suddenly she changes, starts acting weird, disrespects me and behaving really bad.. I ignore it ofcourse for a while, and eventualy we work everything out and everything is awesome for a while, and she changes again, and it's like this every week.. Last time she changed suddenly and disrespected me higly, we were on a music event..i left and cut contact for a full week, called her after that to hang out like nothing happened,we kissed and it all went well until the end of the night when she freaked out.. asking me why did I ignore her for a week, she tought we broke up and shit.. I showed her a strong WTWA(willingness to walk away) she lost her ground and she didn't know what to say, she tried to run away from the conversation..She just told me she wants to think about it and that we will continue our conversation on sunday(important: on sunday we're meeting up at my friends place and we're staying there till wed. to celebrate new year)I told her okay if u don't want to talk this out no, and I left.. So now, i don't know what to do when we meet up and can i fix her behaviour..

Sorry for my bad english and a long post i tried to put only important thing
Thanks in advance

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Hi Lode, hope you're still alive!

So me and this girl were talking/flirting for a few weeks then I finally took her out on a date. It went really well but I only kissed her on the cheek at the end of it.. The next day I ask if she wants to study together but she had work, and later I ask if she wanted to get brunch but she said she had "plans to meet with her girl friends already"... (red flag)?

1 week passes of not talking at all. I text her, but it's small talk so then I ask if she's mad at me. She says she was busy with exams and being in a car accident (I know she wasn't lying b/c I saw pics online). And she couldn't go home for the holidays because of her injury and she now doesn't have a car. I just left it at that and said sorry about that, if you need anything I'm here..

2 weeks later she texts me just to see how I'm doing and that she's sorry for not contacting me in a while. She says she's been struggling with money with the car, medical stuff, etc. then adds at the end "but I do want to catch up with you " I just reply saying if you need a hand let me know (I didn't say I'd like to catch up also cuz I figured I'd be too available. If she's really interested she would have to fight for me). A couple of days later I wish her good luck on final exams and she says thanks same to you

Is she still interested?? I feel like she's not anymore cuz she hasn't initiated contact at all during the holidays. I haven't done anything cuz I don't want to appear needy and I feel like I've done enough cuz I almost always initiate the talking. I don't know where I went wrong

Rather focus on how much she respects you, maybe it's better to focus on how much you care for her.

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I am unable to keep a normal, monogamous relationship. So I have decided to take things into my own hands and propose polygamous relationships to my prospective partners, and so far all have accepted

I'm in a semi-long distance relationship. It's still early days (about a month long). She's visiting in my home town for this week... This Tuesday evening she told me she kissed a guy (while she was away)... the next day she were so heart broke telling me how big of a mistake she made. Now everything is chilled again, but because I don't feel I can trust her again, I get irritated (and clingy at times) whenever she's busy on her phone (texting) with other guys. Is this normal? Is there anything I can do?

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Ehh.. since Lodewijkp is on an extended break, I'm going to start my own "ask me anything thread"
Your question isn't very clear.. are you asking me if the texting is normal? Or the fact that it makes you irritated and clingy? What are you asking?

Either way, you are allowing your insecurities to get the best of you. If you are going to do the distance thing, then you can't let this stuff bother you. Make a point to show that 1) You aren't intimidated by the idea of other guys and that 2) she doesn't have control over your emotions.

Example -

Girl: I kissed a guy, I'm so sorry

Wolf: Well, I'm glad you're having fun when I'm not around. Was he hot? I can't have my girlfriend going around kissing unattractive guys. It'd make me look bad!

It doesn't really matter what you say. All that matters is that you brush it off and/or poke fun at how serious she's being about something that isn't a big deal.

Here's your frame: You are a guy with options. You are better than all her guy friends (obviously, or she wouldn't be traveling to come see you) and you know it. Therefore, her kissing a guy doesn't threaten you. Anyway, kissing isn't a big deal.

LDR's are hard. If you start acting needy or annoyed about this stuff, then the relationship is not going to work. Focus on how she acts / treats you when you are together. Don't worry about what she's doing when you are apart.

-Wolf

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Man 2 years ago I got my first girlfriend, it was awesome. I happen to find pua and it changed my life. This guys thread is amazing and I wish he was still here. This guy is really awesome. Sorry for the necro but man I wish I can ask him some questions.