Hey guys,

Been reading and learning for a good 6 weeks now, read pretty much any topic related to relationships and i see so many people having issues and problems. My motivation is to become the best boyfriend ANY girl can have, the one that makes her friends say: "WOW, your the luckiest girl on earth!". Every type ( freaks- hoe's and good girls ) need a different approach but it is my mission to specialize in all of them.

Now in my quest to become this super man i got some questions i want your guys opinions on, preferably guys with experience.

Bounderies

1. At the start of the relationship you need to set your rules and boundaries and i know what these are for me personally. Now how do i make sure the girl i am dating knows what these boundaries are and what the consequence will be if she breaks them. it sounds silly to write them down and hand her a piece of paper and say here: "obey these or i am gone".

Punish the bad and reward the good behavior is what they teach you so for example: If her ex says come on over for a party and she goes without telling me and i find out. ( she would off broke my respect boundary ) So i call her out on it by saying: "I am very disappointed in disrespecting me like that, i thought you were different and i find this very unattractive". After you called her out on what she did, what do you do next? Freeze her out? Dump her? Or you don't call her out on it?

SPAM/Msn/texting/Calling
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What do you consider a healthy amount of contact with your girlfriend? I always attract girls that like to whats-app me all day asking what i am doing and just tell boring things, i honestly believe this is what killed my previous relationship. SPAM with her everyday for hours! Now i mainly use whats-app for contact with my buddies and everyone can see when you were last online... cant turn this off so your girlfriend will know if you have read her message and did not respond to it.

So i was thinking that when in a relationship maybe its better not to use texting/contact everyday, just very lightly ( 3 times a week at most ) and for fun only. This way she doesn't always know what your doing and that your not always available, creates attraction for you.

Contact in person is the way to go!

Looking forward to hear from you guys!

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I would not write them down.. And a welcome-aboard lecture is only appropriate in very special circumstances.. Personally, I tend to just make it clear that cheating will not be tolerated and will lead to very bad consequences. Other stuff is either obvious, direct consequence of the above, or can be dealt with on a case-by-case basis.

Probably the two of you have had chances to talk about personal boundaries and expectations during the previous stages that escalated to the relationship. In most cases that will be totally fine.
In cases where a girlfriend misbehaved in a way that we had not talked about and that I felt went against my comfort zone, I confronted her very strongly. As in "you fucked up and next time shit hits the fan I am gone". of course, you need to be able to live up to that menace, or it will quickly lose value. also, make sure that is only for really big shit. a silent SPAM or other equivalent punishment is fine for most minor violations (which are usually just misunderstandings)

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