Hey guys, I am new to this forum and so I will introduce myself by asking an advice ....
I am 20 years old and came across PUA a few months ago reading mystery method, the game and a few techniques of ross jeffries but I just started to practice it ....

So let's start the story ... I know this girl for a long time but only at the level hy , a month ago I meet her in different circumstances, and we got along really well, i could talk with her about anything , and it was really fun spending time with her, this happened only for 4 days and then i had to leave back home, in a different city.

A few days ago she had something to do in my town for 3 days, so she stayed at my place because she didn't know anyone else here ... So basically we ended up spending 3 days togheter all the time and she sleep in the same bed with me.... I DHV , neged, kino, escalate and besides all this we really got along amazing as friends ... and I decided to tell her that I like her, and I told her that usually I'm not telling a girl that I like , usually I just kiss her, but with her it was something different and I consider her very special and this is why I decided to say this instead of kissing directly .......

We talk a lot about this, basically what I understand from her after our conversation is that she isn't ready to have a boyfriend because it happened all kind of bad thing with guys and she just can't open her heart to a guy, and we get so well as friends, and she wouldn't want to destroy this ... my guess is that she is really to afraid to open to a guy and this is why she didn't feel anything for me although I believe I did almost anything possible ... is this true? or she just sees me as a friend and she doesn't want to tell me directly that ...

She also said that to be in a relantionship with me we need to spend a lot of time togheter at least at the beggining because we leave in different cities....

I agreed her and after the conversation I continued to escalate, I kiss her on the cheek, on the neek, puting my hands on her shoulder, playing with her hair .... she always tryied to avoid all this, i mean she was always pulling herself out but she didn't say anything like stop, don't do that , we are just friends, it was just that her reaction was to pull herself from that situation .... my question is : does she really can't see me more than her friend or it's just that she is to scared of a relationship, and of having feelings for someone ?

Also she told me that she is missing that part of body that makes her have feeling for other guys, she can be just friends with them .... also another annoying thing is that she is really friendly with everyone and she gets along with everyone like she gets along with me, and don't know if our relantionship is special for her or just the same .....

Ok , sorry for the long post .... maybe you can share your feelings with me about this and what should I do? should I tried to push her? and if so how to do that?

Should you try to push her? You mean even more than you did?

You creeped ME out with that story, I can only imagine how she felt. Obviously there was a disconnect, otherwise you'd not be writing this... You didn't read her signs, you didn't kino-escalate properly (obviously), and your intentions PRIOR to her coming in to town may have been suspect as well.

I don't allow a woman to 'friendzone' me. If a woman is driving to see me - she KNOWS she's getting fucked before she gets here. It's that simple. I'm not a fucking hotel room, and she's not a 'friend', yet. FRIENDSHIP takes time and effort. And if she was already "just a friend", she'd have been on the couch and you wouldn't have been macking on her like a lecherous 70-yr old on an Altzheimer's binge.

The whole time I read your post, I wanted to ask what's so important with the title "boyfriend"? Why does being in a relationship matter that much? IF you both feel it, and you know the 'it' factor is truly there - fucking chill out and let it happen naturally. Therer should be a calm feeling of contentment, not some fucking power high for saying "I'm her boyfriend"... When woman starts that shit with me I squash it "Boy friend? I'm a grown-ass man. There's nothing 'boy' about me...". That fits my personality. I'm very Alpha, but I'm also sarcastic as shit, and they don't know if I'm fucking around or serious...or both. That's part of my game.

When you started touching her like you described, you went from 'potential mate' to 'creepy man'. VERY few will ever get out of that box. I suggest letting it marinate. Don't contact her, at all. If you want to know what's salvageable... let her come to you.

RR

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

Ok , thanks for the reply .... you are perfectly right .... so I shouldn't contact her at all and chill out, let her do the first step if she wants, and if not just leave it that way? ..... what do you think about all that stuff with the fact that she can't feel anything for a guy than friendship right now, its just a lot of shit right? ....

If you came across as creepy, she'd say anything to get out from that emotion... I can't tell you - that's a wildcard.

I don't want to sound too hard on you, but damn... yeah... you know. There's that last 'hail mary' pass you threw hoping to get pussy, and that sinking feeling in your stomach when you got rejected sucks out loud.

We've all been there, man. That's why proper kino escalation is your friend. Proper intentions prior to the visit are as well.

Rock on.

RR

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Women are like ceramic tile.... if you do the prep work, and lay them properly the first time...you can walk all over them for years to come.

Yeah I know , you are so right .... the thing is that I really like this girl, and is the first girl in a long a time that I really really like and this is why I was so ..... retarded ..... its really helpful when I hear this from someone else .... cheers