Hey guys
Theres this one hot girl. I know her for a long time. We also made out in the past a few times

So yesterday night im at the club and I text her on SPAM and tell her to come over.
So she comes , walks over to me , gives me hugs and kisses , BUT we only talked like 2 minutes. She was there with a female friend of her, after the two minutes she was like ''my friend and me wanna walk around a lil bit,see u later'' . So they were walking around in the club, I didnt see her at all after that, AND I wasn't lookin for her or searching her, because I guess she was tryna test me whether I would go for her or not.

Then today she texted me in the morning ''im sorry I couldn't say goodbye to you I couldnt find u anymore'', I replied with a simple ''no problem'' and then she was like ''it was very nice to see u'' and i was just like '' '' and then she was like '' oh so now youre arrogant huh ? '' (but in a funny way with that smiley)

SO I guess that was her test ? Then I was like ''thanks for the compliment '' and then she was like ''-.- come on its ok'' ...so i guess that was a shit test of her,right ?
I didnt reply to her annoyed ''-.- come on its ok''... so if that is the shit test..what should I answer on this ??

Thanks guys

yep it was a shit test, you did ok

when met with reaction seeking comments, the easiest way to pass is just to not react

to fail, fight the flow, react, defend or become aggressive due to getting emotional, if you can be completely emotionally stable and secure while answering like it absolutely doesn't phase you not even 00.001% then you got it down

when met with this sort of thing, just follow the flow of the conversation and put the pressure back on her, it is a battle of who has the strongest frame (esentially who puts less emotional effort into investing into the interaction), if you are somewhat emotionally reactive, and you just want something to mask it for now until your inside matches the outside, then simply agree with the test, and blow it out of context (essentially dissmissing her frame, basically indicating what she just said to you was of little importance)

she says
oh so now youre arrogant huh ?

you say
obviously, im the hottest man alive and you love it, how did the night turn out?

it is simple, you don't care what she thinks about you, because you only care what you think about you, this is emotional security and self-confidence

you believe in yourself, not in her, if she challenges who you are, the only possible response to the challenge is a reflection of what you believe from within yourself

so, if there is any shred of doubt in your mind about you not being arrogant, this will mess you up emotionally, and you will react, it is just an indication that you are insecure and she might know who you are better then you know who you are

but once you have figured out who you are, you will know what you want, and when you know what you want, you can proceed in taking steps to get it, eventually you will know what you want, and how to get it, that ability to be sure of who you are and what you want is just pure confidence

i agree she was shit testing you, and you passed. your reply "''thanks for the compliment" was great.

you have good chances for "round 2", when you meet her again.

Thank you for your answer pumpington, I got your point , but I didnt do that bad right with my answer when I said ''Thank you for your compliment '' ?

But another question is, after this answer of mine, she was like '' -.- its ok now'' to show shes annoyed and I guess she wanted to test my weakness whether Ill be like ''no sry I was just joking'' but of course I'm not like that As I said I didnt answer on that, SO
1. should I write back at all ? (that was 2 days ago) and if yes,
2. what ?

what are your intentions with this girl? are you calling to do something with her, or randomly calling with no reason in mind, besides feeling off about that last exchange?

Well we know each other for a quite long time, we used to hang out a LOT, we got along VERY well, but it was like last year when I felt that she was tryna play me and I quit the contact.

But since 1 or 2 months she started texting me again like in the good ole days , things like How are u ? in the morning and stuff.. one time she was even like ''hey if u cook for me ima come over to your crib'' and I was like ok then getcha ass over here
Then she was like ''No I'm not that spontanious I look shit right now I would have to fix my hair just text me another time when you have time and well hang out''

So I did maybe a week later but she kept responding kinda ''cold'' you know giving me short and bored answers I would say.

But now as I said I meet her like 2 minutes in the club and then she's like ''Very nice to see u ''

I mean seriously, what the fuck up with her ?

Of course I got intentions for her, but I just dont know what she wanna do now..

ok, sounds like you might have some problems with leading, escalation and sexualization (unless I mis-read your post and you have already kissed/had sex with this girl)

you set the frame, be pro-active, not reactive, take the inititive to invite her out, be genuine in your intentions, don't let her be setting the pace and makeing the descisions, it's ok if she does, but don't become lazy and complacent, she will feel like your mom, and see you as weak cause she is doing the work

you should understand what a ''compliance test'' is, alot of women dirive sexual gratification from being dominated, she will set out for something that adds tension in the hopes you will resist it and dominate, maybe not even conciously, but you will do well to realize alot of girls get off on resisting

don't try to convince her with verbal game or anything, use your game just to get isolation, that is the only goal, make get her attracted enough so that she enjoys your company and she views it as a positive thing to be around you, get her comfortable enough for isolation,

once you have isolation and you get along and have a connection, then all that is left is to move things forward, she resists, you persist, that simple, you don't wait for her to put it on you, you put it on her and the smoother you are the more smoothly you will ease into it, so it seems like a natural progression

but before you are at that point, you are going to have to live through some awkward moments to gain the experience, it is really hard to avoid, you just have to make it happen and go for it, if she is alone with you, go for the kiss, if she tells you to do something, don't do it, don't seek her permission to escalate, just do exactly what you want, if she freaks out just look at her like she is weird for doing so or that you think it is funny (never back out and appologise, always stay genuine in the fact that you were sure of your intention), then give her space, then later try again but do something less risky to her, so she feels like it isn't as bad, she gets comfortable with that, back off a bit and try to turn up the heat again, your only goal is to get her horny and sucking face with you, expect a bumpy ride, but at least make an effort to move the ride along, she will not escalate for you, and unless she asks you to take her home, or leaves, she is still up for it, persist until rejection

assume it is just resistance (but for the love of god don't rape her, follow the formula, back off and take it down a notch or two, then work with that until it is comfortable and try to turn it up again)

if she is calling you, chances are she isn't playing you at all, she wants you to escalate but she can't move things forward cause she will feel slutty, she needs you to do it, so she can put up a fight and tell her self you worked hard to get her so she can give herself up because you are genuine, it's all a bunch of games

just make it your fault and kiss the damn girl cause you want to allready, if you're going to text her, tell her to hang out with you, if she flakes, then you know she is ''playing you'' aka a waste of time, looking for your attention and not your penis

Thank you so much for your long answers pumpington! Well I still need to make some things clear, and I'm going to be honest with you guys.

Me and her had a very close relationship for like 4 months in the past, we spent a lot of time together, as I said we got along very well, it was like we would know each other for 100 years, thats what she used to say, ''You are just like me, where have u been all my life'', that kinda stuff, we were in contact nearly EVERY FRICKIN DAY, and I literally mean EVERY day , she would even send me a SMS when she wasnt online on facebook for like 1 minute lol ''Im sorry honey my internet aint workin dont u think I'm leaving you alone'' , stuff like that..We even spend like 8 hours on the telephone sometimes lol

What I try to say we had a really strong connection.

We made out nearly everytime we were together, whether at her crib or mine, I slept in her crib, she in mine, I think we were almost like a couple. BUT WE NEVER HAD SEX and that was because I really liked HER and maybe even loved her, it was ok for me not to rush anything and wait.

But then one day I talked to her and I said how much I liked her but she was only like ''Well I thought we were just friends'' I was shocked to the bone and yes, I was sad as fuck ! I guess she broke my heart that time...

Then I stopped contacting her but she came back saying things like I miss u and I want u to talk with me but I couldnt of course I couldnt just be fuckin friends with her..Thats were we QUIT and now she started these things again. Im honest I guess deep down I still have feelings for her. But Im just confused cuz I dont know what she gonna do ..

And of course somewhere I wanna get her laid to get my revenge you know

I thought we were just friends in this context = I thought you didn't like me because you didn't have sex with me

in girl language,

it would not be surprising if you could bang this girl in less then a weeks time, as long as you have the compliance for isolation in a spot with a bed or couch

but that doesn't change the fact that you have to take responsibility and go for what you want, it can't be her fault at all, and she will make you work for it, just persist until close or rejection

But still, my question is , after my answer (thanks for the compliment ) , she was like '' -.- its ok now'' to show shes annoyed and I guess she wanted to test my weakness whether Ill be like ''no sry I was just joking'' but of course I'm not like that
As I said I didnt answer on that, SO
1. should I write back at all ? (that was 2 days ago) and if yes,
2. what ?

How should I proceed with her ? Text her ? Ask her to hang out with me ?

you see this is the problem with text, it can be taken in so many ways,

to me

'' -.- its ok now'' = ''I fucked up, I was just kidding, im not mad at you''

basically with the frame of, she threw her test, you sent your comment over text and meant for it to not be serious, she did not interpret it that way and thought you were being serious and showing that you were annoyed, so she texted you that

but who knows what that retarded smiley means, it could be a dog emoticon in her mind, who knows

don't over think this sort of stuff or get in your head, just call her one day (call don't text) and ask her out to do something, if she comes out, you're still fine, if she has excuses and never wants to come out, move on to other girls (but stay in contact with this one, just stop trying to get her)