Spim at the point where it's not that hard to pull nUmber... I have my own little role play routine where I can get her number in 4 or 5 responses. I must have pulled literally fiv diff numbers today, so I think my game on the website is solid enough.

Even in texting, I do well. Have had some great convos with girls over the past few days, each unique and fun and with them answering almost immediately.

But as soon as I set up a date, it falls apart. I usually set up the date either the same day I get the number (after a reasonable amount of texting of course) or the following day.

I don't make a big deal out of it. Usually goes something like this:

Me: (something relevant to the convo) Do you drink coffee?
Her: yes/no/something irrelevant
Me: I was thinking of inviting you to grab a cup/ We'll grab a cup Monday (I usually set it either the next day or two days down the line, sometimes three, never more) and go over our zoo break in operation (credit: taohackne)

Here's where it gets awkward.

1. she's busy on the day I suggested, so I suggest another day. She's busy that day too, or doesn't answer. Obviously this means she's to interested, which is confusing as we had a great conversation before that spanned the whole day

2. She agrees to it. I text her the next day, don't even mention the date, some more banter/flirting. Eventually I bring up a time/place to meet. She either won't answer, or will agree but when I text her the day of the date (with a fun reminder text recalling something from a past convo like "hope you can drive a stick tonight, miss getaway driver!"), she won't answer then

I'm having great convos with these girls, but when I try to strike the iron, I keep falling flat. What do you guys suggest?

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My best guess is I'm going for the date too early and might be coming off creepy/try hard. But before I thought I was waiting too late to set up the date, that her attraction had fizzled cuz I didn't strike while the iron was hot.

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Just because you are getting a good convo, making the girls commit to the convo and even laughing, you may be going for the date before you have built enough comfort.

You are able to illicit favorable conversation and emotions when you are flirting with them and they are into you online "at that time"! But during the downtine they think "I don't really know this guy" and stuff like that. It is easier to flake on you...

You have just given me an idea tho! I think I will test "Make a date/Break a date". I am going to set up some meetings and then make an excuse to break the plans and see how they react. Will update as I go.

Peace...

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Sounds like you are't building up enough attraction and maybe building up to much comfort. But you should also be more controlling or dominate when asking her out. Meaning don't ask her if she likes coffee. just say; "Lets get some coffee on Monday at 8:00PM" If she says she is busy that day, ask her what day she isn't busy on and go from there.

I think that's it right there. Pushed for dates with two great girls for today but neither of them finished texting to confirm, so I'm freeze me out today and text me again tomorrow without mentioning anything about meeting up.

I was also kind of going fr the make a date/cancel thing, lol. Guess I got a little impatient tho.

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