Hi everyone

Context: Met HB9 at mates house party on Saturday night. she pulled me into a room (the guy who was hosting party's room.) I turned around, she has dropped skirt and just standing there french nickers, no top, next to bed.. I close door to room, and head over to bed, sit down and grab her waist, AT which point the Host bursts through door and looses his shit.. UBER COCK block. for what ever reason. doesnt matter. We then had to leave as party was moving onwards. We both grabbed a ride in a car but due to the people we were with physical interaction was limited. I gave her my phone and we exchanged numbers.
We dropped her at a bus stop and we rolled on. (she had to go somewhere else)

Now onto Sunday (next day).. the msg convo is as follows:

ME: Ahoy my little hat thief. (she kept stealing my hat the night before)What mischief are you getting up to this evening?
I might be keen to hang out with you, IF you leave your glasses at home! She wore glasses sat night

HB9: Well now thats just a commitment im not willing to make. My glasses and I are a packaged deal. Im feeling a tad under the weather so i probably wont be out and about. Will you be making a rascal of yourself?

ME: RASCAL! I prefer social instigator! Draw me a picture, im quite found of dinosaurs at the moment, and if you decide to deliver it il be in the *area* vicinity tonight! x

HB9: You'll be getting a drawing of kickboxing monkeys, if anything, and you will enjoy it. I wouldnt be holding your breath though, rascal! x





And that's it. Its now Monday.

This weekend is another party, which I want to have her there as a potential option.. so keen on everyone's opinion on how to proceed.

I see it as I have started most of the Convo's which sucks. And im scared 1 more msg from me will shift power.

My gut tells me to cut her loose already, but she really was quite attractive, so want to try salvage this one.

Due to circumstance I have fairly obvious HV, so no real need for DHV (although always a good thing.)


Look forward to the Wisdom!


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Comon peeps. Its monday night... only 5 days left....

Update. she sent me a friend request on Facebook this evening (which i haven't responded to)
She also sent comments aimed at me through other peoples photo's etc...
So clearly all signs point to her being keen..

but how do i nail this one in the bag, and get her to the next party and keen 100%

do i wait to text her day before and leave facebook friend request approval until then too?

lol how about you just ask her to go to the party. shes obviously intrested.

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lifes a bitch, so i made that bitch mine.

yeha it seems logical over thinking it i suppose...
might try get her over sooner this week.


Bare in mind we havent spoken at all yet.
been using a little text routine lately that seems to have luck:

Me: Was it hard
HB: Was what hard?
Me: working up the courage to challenge me to a nude wrestling match Thursday night in *area*



Too soon?

this seems like a bad idea, you have not had sex, you saw in your text log her level of compliance after the alcohol had left her system was low enough to flake, doing something like this could kill the whole deal, don't talk about what happened, look for whats going on right now, not whats going on in the future or what is in the past

don't start obsessing to hard over this girl, or texting her things out of the ordinary to ''maintain the attraction'' that shit is all just neediness from within trying to fuck you in the ass, what you did before this party was working fine, being yourself and not being needy

instead of worrying about having the wrong thing to say or do, relax man, sit down, take a deep breathe, go find something fun to do, or another girl to talk to (this doesn't mean give up on this girl), just chill for one day try to take your focus off this girl before it becomes obsessive for you to not fuck this up, that feeling of having to not fuck this up is simply approval seeking, and that is what happens when you are needy for the pussy, you start seeking that approval (note the texting things out of the ordinary to ''maintain the attraction'', if she was attracted before, she is attracted now, nothing has changed) and going into this with that mind set that you have to do something impressive, edgy or new now to save this is the best way to fuck it up, this is already in the bag, it is just a matter of time, and when she will be at a party that you know about again

once you have had time to put yourself at ease, just figure out if there is another party you can see her at, if you do, game her in person and close this time, if you get your penis inside her, she most likely will not flake in the future (because she knows you don't want anything from her that she wasn't already giving, the benefits outweigh the risks), and if you can't meet up with her at a party without inviting her, then simply make sure you are in the headspace of not caring either way if she comes or goes, fucks or runs, you plain and simply have to not care one way or the other it doesn't matter, maybe you want it, but you don't need it, as long as you need it, shit will only go down hill, don't send out invites because you got a wiff of what you can get from her and desperately want to capatalize before the chance is gone, send out invites because you genuinely want to hang out for a reason (and if you didn't want to before this nice little naked event, you can be damn well sure she knows you don't genuinely want to now, that shit is incongruent and she is not stupid)

GOOD LUCK

"send out invites because you genuinely want to hang out for a reason (and if you didn't want to before this nice little naked event, you can be damn well sure she knows you don't genuinely want to now, that shit is incongruent and she is not stupid) "


That is BOSS WISDOM ! THANKS !



in other news the convo progressed and she just kept calling me on all my negs etc... she is a witty girl...
she even pulled the "so our relationship depends on me getting naked and grinding up against you" haha
after a while i took the convo to a happy place and then left it there... SNIP SNIP SNIP


Pump my question is when Friday comes around what would be the best approach to get her to party... invite, question (she might already be going, similar social network) etc etc
Im not overly fussed as plenty more options out there so dont give up on me

(also as an aisde her FB friend request is still sitting there gathering dust)




thanks again PUMP !



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ironically there is not really a ''best approach'' but if you would like my idea on what approach to take, it is the non approach, stop trying all together, let her come to you, just go to the party that she ''might be at'' she is either there or she isn't, if she is, game on, if not, just hit on some other girl

don't try to get her to go to a party, don't try to get her to do jack fuck all, just go do other fun stuff, meet other girls, and when you could care less about this girl, that is when is a good time to call or text her (if you don't know when that is minutes after sex with a different girl is usually a good time), and you don't need to ''do anything'' to win her over, just simply not being needy and being fully confident within yourself is enough to create that attraction that makes her want to bring you up to a room and get naked

you have to de-tach from getting something, it is about just being you and doing you, and when you want something go for it, and when you don't get it, well how fucking boring is that, fuck that thing, lets go find something cool

as apposed to, starting like this ^ and not caring if you get that thing or not, then when that thing comes to you all of a sudden shifting to, wanting to get something, and when you don't get it you go into desperation mode, how do you get it?, what can you do?, why is it pulling away?

you have to not care too much, the whole problem is, it is everything matters, it is how important you are that makes you attractive, and the potential from within to become more important, it is that self confidence that girls can feel, it is like you know where you are going, you know what you are doing and you live for yourself, when you are in these moments being your self without needing anything from anybody while dancing to the beat of your own drum that you are the most attractive, confidence will take you the furthest with women out of any quality, self-respect and a strong sense of self and self confidence will increase how ''important'' and respectable you are within social groups

sometimes you just are her type, physically attractive enough with that aura of confidence and the girl forgets about her social programming that she is not to put out until dating x amount of days or until marriage, she has fun, forgets about resisting and shutting guys out, before you know it she got wet by accident because she let go of her innabitions, now since she is horny it is harder for her to resist

just stop even considering this girl until your shit is straight and your head is clear, if she is really important to you, it will reflect in your words and actions, and neediness translates into you lowering how important you are in her eyes, because you are not being yourself and if you are not being your self then you must believe you are not good enough, so either learn to put on a act that portraits a confident person that thinks he is good enough and uphold that act congruently until you get laid, or actually believe in yourself, be genuine and allow yourself to become vulnerable (this doesn't mean open up to anyone full dis-closure at all times, just means don't be afraid to show your true personality) and know what you want and try to get it with total certainty

and as a side note, ''shit tests'' are also known as ''congruence tests'', if you are getting them, something is off balance inside you, it is not lining up and she is testing, remain certain of yourself and win, you are all you need, you have nothing to lose here, because you already are the prize, if nothing happens what do you care?, she lost not you

GOOD LUCK

Why not just call her? And btw, not answering her fb friend request is kinda rude...