i'm a psychology major. i'm a people watcher. i've spent years learning about how to help other people communicate. i'm an excellent communicator myself. once i'm in a conversation i have a natural knack of getting onto thier level, pacing conversations, and speaking thier language. this is one of the strengths in myself i know of. BUT (of course here's the newb but) when i get to that extreme level of rappor with a girl, it's like i'm so very perceptive about them and thier life that i get blasted way past a relationship interest, and yea even past the LJBF realm into a position of being just a resource to sound off thier own shortcomings so they can see how to better themselves. in the psych field this is exactly where i want to be. a councelor, not a friend, not a relationship interest, but simply a cold resource. what i'm looking for is any suggestions on where i might recalibrate my approach so i can use my formidable communication skills to win sarges rather than be filed away with the haagen daaz ice cream and used to make them feel better about themselves when THEY need me. how do i get them to need me for relationships rather than self improvement? the rappor is there, the communication skills are there. now i need to readjust my approach to reach my own goals. any suggestions?

in my opinion, u should use ur perceptionskills as a means to create rapport, ONLY AS MUCH AS YOU NEED TO. and creating rapport is just neccessary to make her comfortable enough to close. another thing that is important (which i realizd just 10min ago) is to give clear SOIs, so as not to be put into a friends or even psychotherapist cathegory.
also it is important to create a sexual tension (with SOIs, for example) and make her picture her relationship with you in a romantic way.
there are thousands of techniques to do that.
i have a very similar problem, my girlfriends also see me as some kind of psychotherapist too, but not in such an extreme manner as u state ur situation.

wish you the best